How many FUCKING times must we go through this Stunt

The BBQ Pit
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I have a window, in my room, ie my personal space, ie the space other people aren’t supposed to go and change things, at least without some mention of it to me.

Now this window doesn’t have a curtain. Finished renovating, but it was decided curtains weren’t needed. (Obviously I wasn’t the one making the decisions). So in an effort to make 5 in the moring seem like 5 in the morning (I don’t need to be getting up at the same time as the sun does thank you very much) I used a roll of paper that I rescued from the dump (It was in and among a bunch of other good clean paper products), and blocked out my window.

This has the quadruple effect of
[list=a]
[li]Keeping My room dark at times earlier than 6 in the morning[/li][li]Keeping me from being blinded by the sun as I work at my desk[/li][li]Preventing the Window from being opened[/li][li]And Pissing off my mom[/li][/list]

The paper might not by your favourite fucking window treatment, but unless you wanna put something better up, it stays. The only thing it is bothing is you, I’ve told you many many times not to touch it. But every fucking year we go through the same thing, usually multiple times per year, but each stupid excuse is only used once per year.

Stupid Excuse one: with the window closed it makes your room hot
So what, It doesn’t bother me that much, I’m not doing calestetics in my room, and the temperature doesn;t get that hot. Besides you are not the one that has to live in the room.

Stupid Excuse Two: Your window is needed so that air can flow through the house
My room isn’t the only fucking room on that side of the house with a working window. Besides why would you open the window, then close the door and wait for me to find it?

You know it’s really nice that you closed the door so the cats cannot get into my room, but it would be also nice if you didn’t open the fucking door to rip off the only thing keeping me from burning my fucking eyes out.

There are more, but I don’t feel like raising my blood pressure that much to describe them.

I don’t go into your room and rip down the tin foil (Though I swear, I will do it if you touch my “Curtain” one more time), don;t go into mine and rip my paper down.

Why did I have to be born into a family that is so fucking inconsiderate?

My window treatment matches the decor of the house (which is pig stye btw)
No one can see it when the door is closed (and it always is, besides, few people ever come to our house)
It’s not hurting anything.

Why in the fuck do people (esp my family) go out of their way to aggrivate other people?

Gezzus Fucking H Christ Mom, It’s not even that time of the month. You are going out of your way to agrivate me, and you are doing it on a level head. You aren’t being influenced by hormones. (Although your behaviour on hormones may soon lead to another pissed off rant, really you don’t see me humping everything in sight, even when my system is awash in testosterone, you don’t see me excuseing my scholastic problems on a possible learning disability, I take responsibility for my behaviour)

Thank fucking god that I’m going to university next year, and will not have to put up with this shit. (I’ll get a whole new load of shit to deal with, but that’s beside the point)

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On the subject of college stuff to deal with:

two words: inconsiderate roomies

bamf

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It sounds to me like something definitely is needed. Could you persuade your mom into an inexpensive louvered blind? I have them (actually indoor shutters) on a quite a few windows and love them. They’re inexpensive, easy to clean, provide privacy, block the sun while still allowing free flow of air.
Can’t speak for the prices over there but around here you can pick 'em up for peanuts at any DIY store. They’re very easy to install, just a few screws for the hanger thingy and you’re set.
Might be a workable compromise for you and your mom, especially since she hates your tacked up paper.

Veb

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Wait, so your mother is using tin foil to cover her window, but doesn’t like how yours looks covered with paper? Yikes.

The only advice I can give you is to just wait it out – life gets so much better once you move out of your parents’ house. Not easier, necessarily, but definitely better.

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I understand how you feel, its a real pain not to be allowd to keep your room as you have it without other people trying to change things constantly.

However, its technically not your room. Unless your paying rent to live in your moms house, she has the right to keep it however she likes and that includes the blind in your room.

Anyway, why dont you just move your desk out of the window? And if the sunlight really is waking you up extra early, then obviously a blind is needed. Talk to her rationally about it, offer to pay for it yourself, there shouldnt be too much of a big deal.

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I lived in the college dorms in my freshman year of college and then commuted the following year from home when I partied too hard at the ripe age of 17. So when I moved back home, I had the same rules to live by when I was in high school. I moved out and got an apartment 3 months later when I got a job and worked my way through college when I started to take things more seriously.

I guess my point is this…you don’t like the living arrangements under your parent’s roof…MOVE.

You don’t own anything structural under that roof, windows included.

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I know that actually doing this may be poking the bear, but have you considered posting on your door a list of excuses that will not be accepted for tearing down your window screen? Maybe even a top ten list of weak excuses?

Even if doing it might be a bad idea, thinking about it could be relaxing.

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Are you paying rent on this room?

If not, it is not your room. You should have no expectation of privacy. You have no right to change the furniture. You have no right at all to control the space.

Have you asked her if she would object if you went out to Target and spent $20 on a cutain rod and cheap curtains?

That is an unbelievably asinine comment to make.

Get your own place, or negotiate reasonably with your mom, or get your own place, or shut the fuck up.

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Get a spare bath towel and some thumbtacks. Tack the towel up while you’re in the room, and before you go to bed to block out the morning sun. Take it down when you leave so your mom doesn’t have to deal with it (and you don’t have to deal with her).

There’s something to be said for compromise, and failing that, what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.

Good luck! ~S

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Well, first…it would cost you about $10 to put a blind up. You might want to pass that info on to your mom as well.

Second, why was it decided a window treatment wasn’t needed, when in actuality you DID install a window treatment (Beverly Hillbillies as it may be).

Third, what do you have against opening a window occasionally?

Finally, it would behoove you to show a little more respect toward the person who will be paying your tab in college. Even if she isn’t, she’s still your mother.

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You’re still a kid, and if your mom wants to come in and flip everything in your room upside down every day at 7 a.m. there’s not a goddamn thing you can do about it. Find another solution besides throwing a temper tantrum.

Poor oppressed thing, never got a break, whole world against you :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: OW! Shit! I rolled my eyes so hard, they fell out!

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Jesus christ you people!

His mother should show him (?) some respect also. Yes, he should drop the whiny teenager act, but that doesn’t mean he should suffer his mothers bullshit excuses to alter something that is condusive to him studying. All this “It’s his mothers house, she can do what she wants” is the biggest load of bullshit immaginable, and I guarentee that those people spouting it wouldn’t stand for their parents doing something similar to them.

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But taking it in turns to put the paper up, and take it down, isn’t helping anyone. If mother doesn’t want it, she should forbid it. However, I think it’s stupid to enforce that. But what I REALLY think is you two need to TALK about it and COMPROMISE. There must be something that’d suit you both?

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Any reasonable person would take more time to resolve the situation. By “more time”, I mean more than the 5 seconds it takes to tack up something scrounged from the garbage and threatening mom to do something about it.

There could be plenty more to this situation we are not hearing; for example, that some teenage boys’ rooms smell like socks washed in milk and dried on a
pile of dusty turds. Maybe the mom is sensitive to this and wants to air out the house, rather than persecuting the kid because she’s a bitch who needs amusement.

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I was going to post a reply to the OP but then decided it would be a waste of time. People have to grow and learn because no amount of words will do the trick.
So I’ll ask this question, in the question " How many FUCKING times must we go through this Stunt?", is fucking the appropriate word to put in all caps? I’ve seen this done a couple times recently and I’ve been wondering. Could someone with the Caps Society or the Emphasis Through Caps Foundation give a ruling on this?

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It’s easy to take one post from a teenager and tell him to grow up. Unfortunately I wonder what else is happening in that house. I think the window arguement is something safer to share with the world than some of the other things. Why do I think this?

1 - I grew up in a completely disfunctional house and a lot of things from his post resonate with how my 17ish year old self felt.

2 - What teenager talks about their parent’s home being a pig sty? I did - my parent’s home should have been condemned. I never heard a single other kid talk about their parent’s house like that.

3 - Very few people ever come to the home. This is something the kid is aware of - there’s a reason behind this isolation. No one ever came to our house for a number of reasons. No one was allowed and I was ashamed of the house anyway and afraid of my parents. Even my parents didn’t have people over because my father had no friends, did not allow my mother to have any friends and she slept all the time anyway.

4 - Mom’s passive agressive behavior could be indicative of something more than dealing with a bratty kid. Have you considered she might be mentally ill? My mother was severely depressed. We had no window treatments either. My father tacked sheets over all the windows. They were never allowed to be taken down. Our house was dark even at noon in August.

Now I could be way off base but a kid complaining that he can’t keep a home made shade on his window is a little different than mom won’t let me pierce my eyebrow or go to some concert or date some chick who is only 13… Lord knows I was told to suck it up and deal an awful lot during my miserable childhood. Great advice - kept me from getting real help for a long time. I was also told that until I turned 18 my father would hunt me down as a run away and drag me home. So getting out wasn’t as easy as it sounds.

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Hey, I’m a mom and I’m on your side, Logitech.

Sure, it’s “my” house, but I do believe kids (people) deserve a little privacy and autonomy in their space. Even some apartment complexes will let you cover windows as long as the covering has a pleasant appearance from the exterior (such as white paper v tin foil!).

I’m not sure why you two are squabbling over this one issue. Either one of you could solve this problem fairly easily.

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Go to Home Depot and find one of those cheap paper blind dealies. They are really made out of paper…they look like stretched out accordians. They have adhesive at one end to hang up on the hall and come with clips so that you can adjust the length as needed (like if you want to open the window). Voila. Instant window treatment. Very cheap and very easy.

I’d get the paper blind dealy and show it to your mother before installing it. Tell her that it seems like a reasonable compromise to you, but you’d like to get her approval first. I recommend asking her beforehand because it is her house, even if you are paying rent. Also, if she approves of it and THEN messes with it, then you know there’s a serious problem between you two.

There’s also cardboard. Seriously. I didn’t have curtains on my bedroom window for a while, so I used a broken down cardboard to block out the light in the mornings. Fortunately, the window is right next to my bed, and I’d keep the cardboard in the space between the bed and wall and whip it out the moment light would hit my retinas.

Maybe not, but she could be influenced by other things. Like the fact that she knows you’ll be moving out soon and she’ll be without her “baby”. My mother and I got into the most serious fights we’ve ever had that year before college. On her end, I think it was a combination of hormones (menopausal) and resentment that her twin girls didn’t need her motherlyness anymore. On my end, it was a growing need for independence and power over my personal space to the point of selfishness, and also fear that I wasn’t ready for the all the responsibilities being placed on me. This window stuff won’t be the last of your battles, nor will it be the worse. Just try to have patience.

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The tin foil? :confused:

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All these things are possible, but all we know is they’ve got paper and tin foil where a cheap blind ought to be.