Once every 6 months or so. Often it will lead to a series of exchanges but I just don’t get into a lot of topics that lead to off-thread contact or discussions.
I’ve never thought that when I receive a message.
Communication has to start with someone taking the initiative.
I’ve received some that I’ve ignored, but mainly I reply.
I usually get replies when I send out a message, but not always. I just shrug when that happens and say “guess they’re not interested in a conversation off-board.”
Either way, no biggie. That’s what message function is for.
I’m at a little over two hundred. Most of them are private responses to things I posted in GD or ATMB, people thanking me for bickering in favor of stuff they agree with :). Two are for warnings, one rescinded. A couple are from a creepy guy who as near as I can tell is doing the Tom-Sawyer-dipping-Becky-Thatcher’s-pigtails-in-ink thing; he’s weird. And then a few randoms.
Right? The weird thing is, I’ve never thought that when I receive a message, either. But the anxiety persists around me sending one. Go figure.
I understand WhyNot. I don’t send PMs because I feel that would be intrusive and badgering yet I never felt that way about any PMs I received. It’s like a shy bladder only with words instead of pee.
I have a total of 197 (sent/received) in 6 years. I think I deleted a few about a year ago.
Got the first one in 2009, and 49 since then. I don’t check PMs very often, and I’ve been known to have them sit for weeks before I notice. Have gotten maybe 20 or so email messages over the years.
I get over 500 messages a day from members thanking me for my insightful posts, and asking advice on how to improve their lives. Most offer me large wads of cash or blow jobs. I now live a comfortable, some might say opulent, lifestyle, solely on income for this message board. And the blow jobs are excellent.
I have 38 PM’s in my account. Some were from a fellow Doper interested in Angola, a were few from another member who is or was employed for the same company as I, and the rest were from TubaDiva who was assisting me with gift memberships.
54 messages, and I am user #154, so I’ve been around for a while. Most of mine are from posts that required messaging privately. i.e. Christmas gift or post card sharing.
I have been here since June 2005. I have 169 PMs in my inbox and 77 in my sent folder, and I am sure I have deleted messages from both folders over the years. I send PMs to people when I particularly like something they have posted, when I disagree with something they have posted but don’t feel like my disagreement is germane to the thread, to say hi to someone I haven’t seen for a while, to compliment a mod when I think they have done a great job. The people I send PMs to usually respond.
I like PMs and enjoy contacting my fellow posters that way.
17 in 18 months of my presence here - most of which were from the person who brought me here in the first place. So, in very rough math, about 1 per month.
I got a weird PM just today.
Somebody asked me where the MMP was; they couldn’t find it.
I don’t post in that thread sorta-game. I don’t post too much in that forum. I’m certainly not the duly appointed MMP monitor.
So I’m mystified about what this person was thinking. But I did send them a friendly reply.
You’re a pilot, right? Probably the pilot mystique thing.
More like the resident know-it-all I think. Not that there’s usually much difference between the two.
I’m a 99’er with a grand total of 8 PM’s. Four of those are my reply to the original PM. No mod warnings, 'cause I’m a good boy!
I’ve received 24 PMs in just over 6 years. Half of those came within my first year. Many of them are addressed to a group. Looks like there are 4 that are actually worthwhile off-board communications, all having to do with “real life” info.
I have about 150, but that includes multiple exchanges with the same people over a given subject. I’d guess there are less than 50 “first” PMs.
Long before I was a mod, I had lots and lots of PM exchanges with various people, often just passing along a comment based on a thread. I’ve been fortunate to become friends with folks based on some of those exchanges (such as the very-missed norinew), and a PM exchange ultimately led to the Doper marriage that I’m half of now.
Suffice to say I feel pretty positively about most of the PM exchanges I’ve been part of.
One was an April Fools joke. One was an appropriate question/follow up of something I posted in a thread. One was a warning (also appropriate). That’s it, I think, in all my years here.