How often do you do it?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
1

You know you want to know! How does your love life compare to those of your fellow Dopers? Here’s your chance to find out!

How often do you have sex with another human being?

Masturbation doesn’t count. (Start your own poll if you want to find out about that.) You define what you call “sex;” I’m not going to kink shame you.

Please be sure to answer only in the poll that corresponds to your present age.

Comments following the poll are welcome, but please don’t turn this into a Penthouse Letters thread. We’re not that interested in your love life.

Age 18-34
  • Never
  • Less than once a month
  • 1-3 times a month
  • Once a week
  • 2- 4 times a week
  • Every day
  • More than once a day
0 voters

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Age 35-49
  • Never
  • Less than once a month
  • 1-3 times a month
  • Once a week
  • 2- 4 times a week
  • Every day
  • More than once a day
0 voters

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Age 50-59
  • Never
  • Less than once a month
  • 1-3 times a month
  • Once a week
  • 2- 4 times a week
  • Every day
  • More than once a day
0 voters

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Age 60-69
  • Never
  • Less than once a month
  • 1-3 times a month
  • Once a week
  • 2- 4 times a week
  • Every day
  • More than once a day
0 voters

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Age 70-79
  • Never
  • Less than once a month
  • 1-3 times a month
  • Once a week
  • 2- 4 times a week
  • Every day
  • More than once a day
0 voters

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Age 80+
  • Never
  • Less than once a month
  • 1-3 times a month
  • Once a week
  • 2- 4 times a week
  • Every day
  • More than once a day
0 voters
2

I am curious as to the age at which men no longer have sex. I am pushing 80 and I see that day rapidly approaching.

3

I turned 60 this year and just “celebated” (pun intended) nine years of in-action. :person_shrugging:

4

I started at 26. Once went 10 years, then after that, 13 years.
Wish someone would start a thread about most shocking fantasy, without details, because I would win that thread for sure.

Intimacy, for want of a better thread title
5

So do we have 2 people under 34 or 2 people who didn’t read the instructions?

6

Wink wink nudge nudge?

[easy enuf to undo a misplaced vote, people]

7

Just saying, the first poll results, 18-34, may be a bit skewed because I answered before realizing that the poll was differentiated by age. It’s not mentioned in the thread title, and I’m sure I’m not the only one to answer without checking.

8

As I said, you can “undo” your vote if you wish (which is what I did).

9

Therapist: Do you have sex often?

Alvy Singer: Hardly ever. Maybe three times a week.

Annie Hall: Constantly. I’d say three times a week.

10

As the parent of a six year old, I can tell you it’s not as often as I want to.

(F, 43)

11

I get fucked by politicians every day. But I’m not gonna count that.

12

I hope that Two_Many_Cats2 is right and it’s only a couple of us oldsters mis-voting(youngsters being thin on the ground here), because I was shocked that the majority in the 18 - 34 poll are in the “Never” and “Less than once a month” categories. There were several years in my young adulthood that I would have averaged more than once a day.

13

Answered less than once a month, but I’m currently single. When in a relationship it’s probably a couple times a week.

14

Despite what I said in the OP, I’m interested in our octagenarian who is doing it more than once a day. (Or could one of our fellow Dopers be deceiving us? No, not possible.)

15

M, 65. I guess I’m a horny bugger. Or at least hornier than most in my group.

That’s the thread winner right there.

16

I’m 68; GF is 70. We’re close to daily when we’re together, and often more than that. But we’re only together sort alternate weekends or while traveling w lotsa distractions, early wake-ups, full days, and late nights.

We’re working towards a quasi-cohabiting being mostly together most days and switching off which residence we’re staying in. I bet we’ll settle close to an average of daily with some multi-bout days.

No sign of slowing down either. FTR, we’re both making up for decades of lost time due to prior life circumstances. So there’s a LOT of pent-up motivation.

17

Early 60s male, married. With my current situation I put “less than once a month” due to some medical issues that wife and I have dealt with over the last 9 months or so. In a “normal” year it would be 1- 3 times a month.

18

I’m somewhat surprised by our 13-34 and 35-49 age groups.

18-34:
2 votes for Never
5 votes for Less than once a month
3 votes for Once a week
1 vote for 2-4 times a week

35-49:
5 votes for Never
4 votes for Less than once a month
2 votes for 1-3 times a month
4 votes for 2-4 times a week
1 vote for every day

I’m surprised because I’d think it would be much higher frequency. Or maybe our young Dopers are living alone? Or maybe times have changed and people have changed, and maybe people are too busy or are otherwise preoccupied? Maybe there are good reasons for this? Nevertheless I’m a little disheartened or saddened by the low frequency of intimacy and intimate moments.

I’m drafting this response and was getting into some personal details, but don’t want to derail this thread. I might start a new one, or find an existing one where it’s more appropriate to share.

I, too, wonder the same thing. When will my final time be? I’m 65 and I hope that will not be for many (many!) years. Sometimes I envision, when I’ve moved in to an assisted living facility, that those years might be like I’m back in college and living in the dorms again, and many women will be seeking some intimacy.

@LSLGuy, I’m happy for you and that you’ve found your GF and that you have each other.

@Spice_Weasel, I understand your situation. Those are busy years. I’m now (M, 65) and my kids are fully grown. The boys are 42 and 40 and the girl is 38. I started young. When you’ve raised your boy then life will return to normal for you.

Anyway, the results here so far are… interesting. Thank you for this thread, @commasense.

Intimacy, for want of a better thread title
19

Sex? What’s that? :innocent:

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I was an awkward nerd and didn’t have sex until 29. Now I’m 37 with a live-in partner. We get it on 2-4 times a week. Would be more but health issues.