No, that’s not too much of a difference at all. When my parents got married my mom was 18 and my dad was ~29.
So good luck!
His name is Gary Edwards, so Geddy for short. He says that while he was in New York, his group was working out a recording contract. They gave their music to a producer, who wanted them to sign a contract saying that he owned them for 99 years. They refused, and the guy gave their music to other groups who were willing to sign. This all seems a little farfetched to me, but for some reason I believe him… I think it’s his eyes (Oh, no, Rasputin!). He’s got these great, deep brown eyes…
Nevermind, I’m completely in control here… but I AM going to the library again today!
Merla
I’m surprised by all the approval ratings. I’m going with the thumbs down. I dated a girl that was 18 and infatuated with me when I was 21. It was a ridiculous relationship that I used to get what I wanted. Sometimes men are wolves…and women are… well… naive?
Merla:
I’m not an expert on the music biz.
But I can tell you with relative surety that either he’s lying, or he didn’t explain himself clearly, or someone’s lying to HIM and he’s very very credulous.
Cecil did an excellent column on music licensing here. One of the things we learn from this masterpiece is that a composer’s absolute right is to decide who first records his music.
So the “producer” in this case is risking a lot, and it’s very unlikely that he’d do it. If they wrote the music, there are many ways they can likely prove it. The odds of a renegade producer simply stealing their music and giving it to some other group, when he could so easily be exposed and when he has no legal right to do so, are… well… let’s just say that the story doesn’t pass the smell test.
As I said, it’s certainly possible the guy has no evil or pernicious motives; perhaps, confronted by a cute and obviously-interested girl, he felt compelled to engage in a little bit of puffery.
But I would certainly raise the antennae on this. Give him a chance to gracefully back out of his story, or to clarify it further… right now, I’d say he’s not a spokesman for integrity.
- Rick
sobbing
…
I’m ok, I’m ok. I just really want to believe him. I wonder if he’s not a musician, what he is then? How can I tell him I’m skeptical of his story? I really want him to be interested in me- what if he really honestly is telling the truth?
Gawd, I sound like such a GIRL…
Merla
Yeah… the thing is, you just might be a girl, so I’m not sure that’s a bad thing. And he may well be a musician, for that matter; that part of what he said may be true.
It IS a bad thing if “being a girl” equates to “sublimating any doubts and criticisms to make sure my man will like me”.
Not to get all feministy here, but surely the sine qua non of any healthy relationship is some sort of basic equality and trust between the partners. If you find yourself thinking, “He might be lying, but I better not confront the issue, becasue then maybe I’ll lose him…” then I’d humbly suggest you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery.
I’d just ask him for the details, and maybe mention that you know a bit about music copyright and licensing (courtesy of Cecil! 
). If he’s got a more truthful version of his story, that’s good… if not, then I think he may not be the man of your dreams after all.
In any event, do not fall into the “girl=doormat” fallacy of thinking, because it’s a bad road to go down.
MMMkay?
- Rick
Yes, yes, you all are right of course.
Usually I have my head screwed on much more tightly than this, but right now it’s waaaaaaay up in the clouds. I’m actually a pretty level headed person. I’ll try to at least act that way when I’m around him- IF I see him today, that is.
Merla
Snivel
Whiney post here.
I saw him today, said hi, he waved, but other than that not even a word from him. Does this mean he’s not interested?
Beats me. I’ll try again tomorrow. Gonna ask him to go get coffee.
Merla
“Does this mean he’s not interested?”
Why don’t you ask him? Or you could go ask him if he would write a song for you.
My impression of musicians is that their music is eventually the most important.
I want him to play for me! How romantic would that be?!
Right now I’m just concentrating on talking to him. I hope he comes with me to coffee today!
Merla
Yeah, go nuts.
THIS is my 1500th post?
This is my LAST post in this thread, I swear.
Geddy and I are not going out. He says (I don’t know if this is the readon, or if he just doesn’t like me) that it’s because of his current situation. I certainly don’t blame him. He and his bandmates, whom I talked to for hours at the coffeehouse last night are living in… well, I can’t really say. OK, he’s showering at… well, I can’t really say that either.
So, now I’m going out instead with a guy who has NO personality whatsoever. He’s been bugging me for a date for some time. Oh well.
Merla
Just as long as guy #2 doesn’t start telling you about his design for an engine that runs on water that was stolen by the big oil companies …
Guys, have you looked at her picture under her profile? Wowza, esp. that one in the blue dress & the other one in a leather miniskirt. What guy could resist someone like her, I wonder?
Hmmm… Sounds suspicious to me. He can’t go out with you because of his “current situation” and he’s from out of town. IMHO, it sounds to me like he has a girlfriend but he is trying to keep his future options open.
Wowza, eh? I’m flattered blush. I’m shorter than I look, though. I seem to be good at teasing the trolls here on the SDMB. Maybe it’s time I took that picture down.
Anyway, I know he’s telling the truth. His bandmates have the same story. I’ve also seen their cars/homes. Sad… but intruiging. Make me want him more since he’s kind of off limits, right?
If my mom EVER found out I was even SPEAKING to somone who lived in his car…
Merla
As a fellow teenage girl,* I just want to issue a gentle warning. Doesn’t seem terribly necessary since he told you about ‘his situation,’ but regardless: be careful.
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*One equally, and sometimes wildly affected by guys. Stupid hormones. ::mutter mutter:: [/sub]
" I’m shorter than I look, though."
You’re under four inches tall?
Are you calling me a troll? I resemble that remark!!!
::::runs back under bridge:::::