There can be little doubt that I am on the introverted side. I have several friends and generally meet with at least one friend per day, but I am not generally comfortable in large groups. I prefer one-on-one conversation, which allows deep exploration of emotional and intellectual topics, rather than gossip or meaningless big-group “conversation”.
So, in case I need to ward off the idea further, I am not a reclusive sociopath. I can get along with another human being just fine. I just don’t go to parties. I’m not “popular”. I don’t have seven hundred Facebook friends. I certainly do *not * see somebody that I know every time I walk on campus.
And I want my romantic partner to be at least somewhat like me in this respect. I wouldn’t want a partner who wants me to go with her to a Frat party on Friday night The point is not that I am not willing to compromise - there are many things I am willing to compromise over - but engaging in mega-social gatherings that I find awkward all of the time, no matter what, invariably is not one of them.
My idea of a good time, on a Friday night, is going to dinner with one to three friends, playing chess with one to three friends, or having a beer and a movie.
So the task - how exactly does one meet introverted women? The problem of meeting introverted people is enough - they are introverted, after all - but with women, there’s the sex divide (how does one talk to a woman!? Aahhh!!!) and the introversion factor to boot.
A few facts about me which may be relevant:
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I am a University of Washington undergraduate.
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I would much prefer a woman who is also in college, since I would like a woman who is intellectually engaged, intelligent, has ambition, and is going somewhere in life. I realize that some people think you can possess all these qualities without going to college, but I think we live in an era where the vast majority of the type of person that I want to meet does, in fact, go to college.
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I look like a cross between a nerd and a hippie, though possibly more on the nerd side. I have a roundish face, long hair, pretty skinny, and wear not-particularly-stylish clothing, though I have heard that my clothing choices seem pretty good. Five foot ten.
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There are exceptions to the “don’t like big groups” rule, but they tend to be gatherings that are particularly sedate, ie Poetry Club or something like that.
So how do I meet an interesting, intelligent woman who is not, by nature, the kind of person that meets a lot of other people (including me!)?