There can be little doubt that I am on the introverted side. I have several friends and generally meet with at least one friend per day, but I am not generally comfortable in large groups. I prefer one-on-one conversation, which allows deep exploration of emotional and intellectual topics, rather than gossip or meaningless big-group “conversation”.
So, in case I need to ward off the idea further, I am not a reclusive sociopath. I can get along with another human being just fine. I just don’t go to parties. I’m not “popular”. I don’t have seven hundred Facebook friends. I certainly do *not * see somebody that I know every time I walk on campus.
And I want my romantic partner to be at least somewhat like me in this respect. I wouldn’t want a partner who wants me to go with her to a Frat party on Friday night The point is not that I am not willing to compromise - there are many things I am willing to compromise over - but engaging in mega-social gatherings that I find awkward all of the time, no matter what, invariably is not one of them.
My idea of a good time, on a Friday night, is going to dinner with one to three friends, playing chess with one to three friends, or having a beer and a movie.
So the task - how exactly does one meet introverted women? The problem of meeting introverted people is enough - they are introverted, after all - but with women, there’s the sex divide (how does one talk to a woman!? Aahhh!!!) and the introversion factor to boot.
A few facts about me which may be relevant:
I am a University of Washington undergraduate.
I would much prefer a woman who is also in college, since I would like a woman who is intellectually engaged, intelligent, has ambition, and is going somewhere in life. I realize that some people think you can possess all these qualities without going to college, but I think we live in an era where the vast majority of the type of person that I want to meet does, in fact, go to college.
I look like a cross between a nerd and a hippie, though possibly more on the nerd side. I have a roundish face, long hair, pretty skinny, and wear not-particularly-stylish clothing, though I have heard that my clothing choices seem pretty good. Five foot ten.
There are exceptions to the “don’t like big groups” rule, but they tend to be gatherings that are particularly sedate, ie Poetry Club or something like that.
So how do I meet an interesting, intelligent woman who is not, by nature, the kind of person that meets a lot of other people (including me!)?