Oh man I think I need to go to remedial bad boy school.
Obviously, if you think you’re a loser, then you’ll always be one. People can change- it’s not necessarily changing to portray an image, it’s just learning to be more confident, which will serve you well in your entire life, not just the romantic aspects.
Here’s how you do it:
(the way I did it, anyway. I used to be terribly unconfident around women)
Start small- rejoice in small victories. Go outside your comfort zone and get a girl’s phone number. That’s your objective, not getting a date, not getting laid, not having a relationship, etc… Don’t worry about whether or not the chick’s hot, your type, ugly, pretty, fat, thin, there is/isn’t chemistry, etc… the point is to get a phone number. You’ll find out that women are people too, and that 9/10 will be flattered that you asked.
Once you’re comfortable doing that, actually call the girls up and ask for dates. Again, just ask them out. If they say yes, then go out with them. No expectations- don’t even really expect a second date. Don’t get hung up on them- this isn’t so much about trying to get a relationship, girlfriend, sex, etc… but about getting to and becoming comfortable with the second step.
You’ll be able to tell if these girls want to go out with you again. If you enjoyed yourself, ask them out again. It’s easier the second time. If not, don’t. You don’t owe them squat. You don’t even have to call them again.
At the end of the second date, if things are going well, try to give them a kiss at the end. Again, don’t get too attached. This whole exercise is about gaining experience and getting good at it, not about having girlfriends, relationships, etc… **This is key- if you get too hung up, you open yourself up and can let your self esteem suffer.
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After a while, getting phone numbers won’t bug you at all- you’ll realize you win some, you lose some. You’ll also realize that dates work the same way. Once you realize that, you won’t seem desperate or like you have low self esteem, because you won’t. It’ll be another date, and you’ll KNOW that it’s something you can handle and shine at. Women will like this, and you’ll do better from then on out.
This is true.
It’s not about “impressing” anyone. It’s about not being a pussy. It’s about having the confidence to go after what you (and she) want.
Or you could quit wacking-off. and promise yourself you wont spew your man-juice unless a woman does it for you. (or hepls you, whatever.)
The rest will come naturally, I promise.
Sounds funny but I’m totally serious.
Nah. Bad boys indulge in foreplay. Trust me. They’re usually the ones on the recieving end. 
As far as I’m concerned, Bad Boys should make it their goal to be able to do foreplay so well that they ruin the woman for any other man after them. As an added bonus, often do things in return that they’ve “never done for any other guy.” Sometimes, this is even plausible.
See? You just didn’t listen, did you? You can’t ACT dangerous. If you aren’t Conan the Barbarian, you’re just Dana Carvey pretending. 
Oooooooooooh, my. Yes. The darkest chapter in her little black book. The reason she blushes for no reason when thinking about it.
Er. So I’ve heard. :o
LMAO. this reminds me of something a guy who knows alot about women (before finding out he was gay) told me once.
I banged a lot of girls in college. I had more 4x the
amount of sex with more girls in 4 years of college
than I have had with men in 7 years afterwards. One
thing I can tell you about women is that there are two
things that absolutely can not handle. #1 Being
ignored #2 feeling not needed. Once you
understand that and start seeing their childish
behaviour patterns, you will have to beat them off you
with a stick. No joke.
Ha ha, there is some truth to this, but only some. I think the added energy and motivation just helps you be yourself more actively and outgoing, or become more motivated to be who you think you need to be in order to be with the one you want to be with.
But it does make you wonder if that’s why it was made a sin originally …
Exactly. You must “be” something. It is not a costume one wears in the morning. You don’t pretend to be a violent, drunk, alchoholic chain smoker. You smoke a pack of cigerettes, drink a bottle of whisky and go punch some dude in the face each day and let the rest take care of itself.
Dear msmith537,
Once I do become a bad boy… how do I manage to get some girl to do anal sex with me ? After all they only give in to nice guys normally.
Nice Boy still
I think I’ll just cut to the quick and start dressing like a pirate. Pirates are bad, aren’t they? Can I keep the stuffed parrot on my shoulder or do I have to get a real one? If I want to get twice the chicks, can I dress like a ninja pirate?
And now for
LESSON 2 - Getting to “Yes”
Basically, now that you are no longer thinking like a nice guy, lets go about meeting the opposite sex.
Basically, the traditional approach to meeting girls consists of three parts:
- The Opening
- Smalltalk
- Closing the deal
You will see various incarnations of this performed by most nice normal guys. They go up to a girl. Say hi, give a corny line, dance with them whatever. Make some smalltalk indefinitely and then ask for their number to nervously call them later for a date. Forget all that.
YOU don’t approach girls except under very specific circumstances (which I will get into later). THEY approach you. Now the question is, how do you get them to do this?
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Be the only guy on the dance floor not dancing - Sounds stupid, right? It works. At some point a girl will come up to you and ask why you aren’t dancing.
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Be known as someone who womanizes - If you get a reputation as someone who only cares about hooking up, girls will immediately get self-conscious as to why you aren’t trying to hook up with them…
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Talk to every other girl except the ones you are interested in - see above.
Now say you are impatient and don’t feel like waiting for a girl to talk to you. Well there are a couple of pick up lines that are acceptible:
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Invite a group of girls to a party / club - Little do they know that the “hip new club owned by 50 Cent called ‘Freight Entrance’” is literally the freight entrance to your building. The party will most likely consist of you drinking a bottle of Wild Turkey and pawing at them.
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Ask a girl to show you where the bathroom is. This immediately has connotations of drugs or sex.
That’s dead-on. Women want to feel like they caught a good man, one that other women may want. Ignoring them a little and making them feel like you don’t need them may imply that you’re getting all the female attention you need, and thereby elevate your status rapidly, even if the only other female attention you’re getting is from Rosie Palm.
Think about it… 99% of women’s primping and preening is done for the benefit of other women, not me. I can completely see how having a good boyfriend would be perceived as a status enhancer. And the real beauty of it is that once you get to this point, your “niceness” is an asset. If you’re the one who brings flowers, etc… she’ll tell her friends, she’ll rise in status, and you’ll reap whatever rewards she has to offer. No woman likes showing off her lazy, shiftless slob boyfriends.
Interestingly, this is the exact same approach needed to sell encyclopedias like a champ. Coincidence? :dubious:
Yeah, but who knows how to sell encyclopedias door-to-door anymore? The demand just isn’t there. People just look things up on Google now.
This may explain a few things. 
And it works about as well too. Because women want fun and passion and romance and hot sex. They don’t want to be “pitched” to like a used car salesman telling you the benefits of owning a new sensible Honda. That’s basically what you are doing when you walk up to a strange woman in a bar and give some corny ass line.
Giraffe, the bad encyclopedia boy! Oooooo! Did you ever call them back after the sale?
It’s all about turnaround. You want to get in, unload the first volume on someone, and get out. Once it’s in their hands, it’s not your problem any more. Hopefully they’ll want the next installment, but if not you just have to move on to the next potential customer.