Cool! Are you in Manhattan, too, or do you just have friends who are?
I don’t understant how you can live in Manhattan and NOT meet people!
Maeglin:
But that’s just going to a neutral place with work people or with kickball people. We do this in NYC because our homes often aren’t equipped to accommodate lots of people on short notice and we often have strong boundaries between our work and personal lives by necessity. This is different than going to the bar to meet new people.
There’s nothing wrong with being a barfly. I kind of was for awhile, and at the most basic level, it worked. I worked jobs with terrible hours, so it was my only real social outlet and the bars were full of attractive and very often willing women. But most of the time I found it really tedious and I have no lasting relationships to speak of from that period in my life. I never managed to meet anyone I really was able to give a shit about over the course of about a year and a half, going out 3-4 times a week, ranging from painfully trendy places downtown to neighborhood pubs. I’m glad I met my wife when I did, because going out to get laid started to seem like a huge chore.
That’s the thing. It’s pretty easy to get laid in Manhattan. It’s tough to find someone you actually want to spend the rest of your life with. I mean you can really spend your entire adult life living in NYC living the same lifestyle as you did when you were a 22 year old recent college grad. Just ask my 40 year old cousin.
Maeglin
December 13, 2010, 5:16pm
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I live here and am also in grad school.
True. I know a few people like that as well. After awhile, they start to look like they’ve been rode hard and put away wet. It’s often not pretty.