Oh please. :rolleyes:
Besides the crass teasing, I did mean it.
Based on what I’ve read, my total guess is that you are “working your ass off” in order to work your ass off. That is: not to shed some pounds in an overall sense, but specifically to shed some ponds off your ass/thighs/hips.
I will go even further out on a limb and guess that you are doing that mostly because you see your breasts as small and you are trying to “even out” your body. My opinion? Please don’t do that, for the sake of the men around you who would be overjoyed to have a woman with a nice shapely ass and breasts of your size (I mean 34B? Sounds like heaven to me—nothing very small about that, IMO).
Don’t worry about your body, girl. It sounds fine.
My wife was reading this thread over my shoulder and she sympathized a lot with Can’t Recall. Since she could’ve written almost exactly the same OP, I thought I’d post few pics of her here. She has given her blessing.
She’s got very similar measurements (not quite as thin as the OP, but close), she’s also down on her “unconventional looks” and feels ugly despite the fact that she has a SDMB poster as a spouse. And really, who could ask for anything more than that?
Behold the wifey.
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I’ve had the suspicion that the OP is really more attractive than she thinks she is, but no way to know for sure if she won’t post pictures. Your wife, though, is very attractive. Especially since her personality seems to come through in those photos (and I don’t mean that as some sort of backhanded compliment). She may, however, be one of those people who had to grow into their good looks.
But if the OP looks anything like your wife, she’s a lot more attractive than she thinks she is.
I never demanded or even requested she do so. It is she who, after describing herself in great detail, declined to post it when others asked. I couldn’t care less but adds to my suspicions that she isn’t as “ugly” as she claims.
Beautiful. Natural. And completely … Nah. I better not.
It’s okay to be bitter and jealous about stuff that genuinely does suck. The world is full of harsh truths, and in order to move past them, you have to fully come to terms with them, and that can be a tough process. The OP will probably eventually find a productive and helpful attitude that will replace the bitterness and jealousy. But coming to that is a process.
I think you are using a rather narrow definition of beauty. Men don’t go to their fiftieth wedding anniversary and think “Man, she really went downhill since she hit 30, hasn’t she?”
Why on earth would someone who thinks she’s ugly want to show off a photo of herself to strangers on the Internet? She says she’s been called ugly to her face, I doubt she needs to hear it from you too. If she actually thought she was pretty but unappreciated then *that *would be a reason to post pictures; she might hope that Dopers would stroke her ego by saying “You’re gorgeous! Those guys who ignore you are crazy!” Someone who really thinks she’s ugly isn’t going to do that, though.
Funny how you keep posting about something you couldn’t care less about. It’s entirely possible that Can’t Recall looks better than she thinks she does, but I don’t see why this should be a matter of such importance to you or why you want to accuse her of being a lying troll. Lots of women have poor body image. They’re not being dishonest, they really think they look bad.
You’re wrong. I won’t correct you though–you didn’t understand it the first time, no reason I should expect you to do so now.
If she posted a picture, then she would promptly be accused of trolling for compliments. She opts not to post a pic but instead gives us a detailed description about herself, and yet she’s accused of trolling for attention. Do you not the see the catch-22 here?
I’m a reasonably attractive woman and even I wouldn’t want to invite scrutiny by posting a picture of myself in a thread about my looks. Because I wouldn’t want to see people confirming my worst nightmares with their negative comments. Or, perhaps even worse, oooohing and ahhhhing in a way that could easily be dismissed as polite lies. To expect an unattractive woman who is going through a bad patch to feel any differently is crazy, I’m sorry. Your suspicions make no sense to me.
It doesn’t matter if she’s objectively ugly or not. If we take her post at face value (which is the minimum we should do, IMO), then it’s obvious that she perceives herself as ugly. Her feelings derive from this perception, and that’s why she ranting about it. Who is anyone to tell her that her feelings or self-perception are wrong?
The same reason someone who thinks she’s ugly would announce to strangers on the internet how ugly she is, I guess. Besides, you’re missing my point - I doubt she’s as ugly as she claims (see Sacrilegium’s post).
I guess you don’t understand how message boards work either. But since neither of us know, why does my opinion upset you so? Who made you her torch-bearer?
I hope I’m right and she overcomes her negative self image and goes on to lead a happy life. But maybe you’re right and people like you will keep hammering on her ugliness.
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Indeed I do. And I agree. But I did not ask her to post a pic and more importantly I did not open a thread bemoaning her lot as a woman, or how I wanted to burn down Hollywood and the beautiful people there or that men suck and so on.
All of the people reading her thread since she threw it out there in the first place.
I have to say I’m confused about the strong reaction to my posts. Since when is every OP in the pit supposed to “be taken at face value (which is the minimum we should do, IMO)”? Is it the subject matter?
I know this is me just assigning stories to people I don’t know, but I totally see her as one of those women who had to grow into their faces and maybe still have their junior high cruelty in their heads - in other words, kids are honest and grownups aren’t, so you can’t be trusting those adults who compliment you like you can “trust” the mean girls in seventh grade.
Anyway, your wife is totally hot.
This is true to a point; young people are beautiful in a flawless, plastic way. As I age, I’m finding the signs of aging on people to be quite interesting - their faces look lived in and comfortable, instead of just pretty.
That’s great advice. I have never been able to figure out how attractive I am; my bottom line is that my husband is very good-looking, and he wants to be with me, so I can’t be that bad (or else I just look good to him, but that’s good enough for me, too).
Your wife is a very pretty woman - she has twinkling, intelligent eyes and a great smile. She looks like someone who would be a lot of fun to hang out with.
I can’t speak for the original poster’s face without seeing a picture, but I can say I’ve never seen a woman who wasn’t obese with hips that were too big, certainly not one that was 130 lbs. That makes me really question her self-image (not that I think people typically have accurate self-images anyway).
I’d hit it.
No, you are missing my point. If Can’t Recall thinks she’s ugly then she’s going to behave like she’s ugly. While it’s possible she’s better looking than she thinks, your repeated accusations that she’s maliciously lying about her appearance are unlikely to boost her self-esteem – especially since you have no idea what she actually looks like.
I understand that when people keep writing about the same topic, they could in fact care less about it.
You’re being a jerk. I don’t need any special reason to point that out.
This would be more convincing if you hadn’t spent several posts calling her a jealous, bitter, dishonest troll.
Lamia, take a deep breath. It’s only a message board.
Well she is a Lamia after all. Can’t really blame her for not being in favor of sharing pics.
Posting pictures of yourself on a public message board is a very wise decision.
I’d be posting pictures right now, but my computer has been acting strange ever since I opened some attachments in an unexpected email.