His name is Omar. He’s an international finance grad student from Colombia. He has olive skin, jet black hair and chocolate brown eyes that crinkle up at the corners when he smiles, a smile that would melt even the glacial heart of Leona Helmsley herself. We met last Saturday for an actual date, and got together again last night at my place. And now this morning…you know that tingly feeling you get when you’ve been in the sun just long enough that any longer and you’ll start to burn? I got that all over.
Except that, oops, I just broke up with someone two weeks ago, and he broke up with the only man with whom he’s ever been involved, a relationship that lasted over two years. In other words, it’s a double rebound.
I am so screwed. But damn, it’s gonna be a fun ride while it lasts.
In May of 2002, I broke up with the guy that I had been seeing for 2 1/2 years. I swore that I wouldn’t date again for a very long time, but found myself, after a flurry of passion and hanging out, very much attached to someone else like 3 weeks later.
I thought that this new relationship was a rebound one, and that it would fizzle after a couple of weeks or a month. It lasted a year.
Granted, we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, but amicably. There was too much of an age difference between us, and we were in different places in our lives. But, both of us are doing fine and still hanging out as friends. The key is this: we had a fantastic year together. A whole lot of fun, and some times that I’ll remember for the rest of my life.
So, in short: don’t let a “rebound” relationship get you down, as you never know what’ll happen.
And, after my breakup: Am I down about it? Sure. I loved the guy. But am I regretful that we were together? Not at all.
Well, you’re one stepp ahead of the game in being aware of the possiblity of heartache etc. But it need not become a reality - best of luck. Enjoy! ( Hmm I get I feeling that last word was not really necessary)
And has this chocolate-eyed man got a twin brother, by any chance?
I broke up, bitterly, with my boyfriend of a few years, and rebounded immediately with a male friend I’d known for a couple months. I knew he’d been attracted to me, and I found him attractive as well. I was worried about rebounding and what that might do to our friendship. Over 12 years later, we’re best friends, and have been married for 5 years.
My sister broke up with her fiance after letting herself realize that he wouldn’t change, that he was abusing drugs and wouldn’t give them up for her. She found a guy on match.com, he seemed fun and interesting, and they met up. He was just as fun and interesting in person, plus gorgeous, and she figured he was probably just a rebound but she might as well have fun. Over a year and a half later, they’re getting ready to move in together, with plans of marriage in the future.
Rebounds work sometimes. Just enjoy it and see what happens.
As a good friend of mine has always said…“No guts, no glory!”
Not that it ever worked for ME, but I have seen it work for others. Which is probably my own fault, I suppose. I guess I don’t DO NGNG welll.
So I say, go for it. It sounds like you enjoy the person, and would enjoy his friendship even if it doesn’t work out in other ways…so why not give it a try?
Best of luck and best wishes for happiness…either way!
