Hire a lawyer. Say these words to the lawyer, “Cut her heart out. Take no prisoners.”
I second, third, fourth all the people saying, “Lawyer up”… Protect yourself, protect your assets.
You’re in a world of hurt right now, Louis, but this same thing happened to me 4 years ago, and it was, I can say with complete seriousness, the best thing that could have ever happened to me.
You’ll get through it. Life goes on. Being married to a manic-depressive that’s getting ineffective treatment is a rough life, believe it or not, and you’ll be better off without her. Trust me.
Picture this: Your life a year from now. No more walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop, never knowing when the next mood swing will take you? No more covering up for her, making excuses to other people, defending all of her shortcomings? Nope. You’ll be free of all of that. You’ll feel like the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders.
~Best thoughts from another survivor
Thinking of you in Montreal, LouisB. This sucks, and clearly the gloves have come off in Marcie’s case, so you need a lawyer right now. Check with legal assistance for Florida, people on fixed incomes such as retired people might be entitled to some aid.
I know it’s hard to do all this when your heart is breaking, but you don’t have a choice. Good luck. Lots of people here are rooting for you.
I expect to have an attorney before this day is done and I intend to be as vindicative as possible.
I have been walking on egg shells for the last year and I am fair sick of it. No matter what the outcome of the hearing is, I do know I’m well out of the situation.
Get your lawyer on this, also. Force them to put up or shut up. Don’t let her get your gun, even if it means you might not have immediate possession of it.
Oh yeah, see what sort of case you can make against the therapist for ‘alienation of affection’. Let him rue the day he ever heard of LouisB. Make his women weep and his children cower at your name, and let no crop ever grow on his land again.
You do have a way with words; thanks for the support.
The thing about the gun is that the sheriff’s office is required to confiscate all weapons until the issue is resolved; if a permament no contact order is issued, then the gun is forfeited, my license is revoked and if I am ever found with another gun in my possesion, I am automatically guilty of a misdemeanor, per Florida law. For the last year, since I am no longer delivering medications, the gun has lived in a safe and Marcie has had sole possesion of the key to that safe. How a gun in such a circumstance is a hazard to her health, I don’t know. I suppose the theory is that I could have physically taken the key from her, but I would never do that. Oh, well, easy come, easy go.
Please do, and take care of yourself.
I have nothing to say which hasn’t already been said. Here’s a bunch of hugs: {{{{{{{ }}}}}}. Use them as you need. Good luck honey. 
I am certain that being able to post here is of great comfort to you.
However, I strongly advise that you let your lawyer know that you have done so, let him read any posts you’ve made, and TAKE HIS ADVICE about the advisibility of continuing to post here about the situation.
This is doubly critical as regards any criminal charges that may be in the mix. A family law lawyer may not be the right resource to assist you with that aspect but can certainly point you in the right direction if he or she is not.
Best of luck.
I haven’t been through this myself. But speaking generally of relationships, when a lover gives a baffling or bizarre reason for wanting to separate from you, it always means he or she’s really seeing someone else. Always.
Hire a private detective and see if she and the therapist have been illicitly dallying. If they have, that’s a nice big revenge blue plate special right there: Serve for two. Serve cold.
Wow. Just wow.
LouisB, my heart goes out to you. Best wishes and good luck on getting through this rough part of the road.
I am very sorry. This really sucks.
I have no advice, as I have never been married or shared a household with anyone. I wish as clean an end to this for you as possible.
LouisB, I am so sorry to hear this. Also, check your PMs for info on Medicare Part B enrollment.
I hear you. I can’t picture any criminal charges since I haven’t committed any crimes but one never knows.
I had dinner tonight with a retired family law person who now sometimes serves as a mediator. She isn’t concerned with any posts I have made so far and she isn’t concerned re the upcoming court appearance. She is a friend of my sister and is well acquainted with me and Marcie; it is her opinion that I am in the clear. Our first court appearance will determine if the judge issues a permanent injuction. She (the retired attorney) will appear with me at the second court appearance. For now, I just have to wait a week and then try to be calm and collected in court. I think I can manage that with a little help from my old buddy Xanax.
She might choke on the key.
Seriously, Bricker is right about it being best for you to not post about your dispute with your wife.
I think you’re right. I’ve been on both ends and it’s always been someone else, except this time.
Throw me in the hopper for divorcees too. I’m in the middle of one and the EX tried to get a restraining order on me too. No details…but she failed to provide enough evidence. The Judge (a female) actually saw through her motivation for the RO - that she was doing it just to get back at me for filing for divorce.
I’ve got a list of shit she’s tried to pull that’s as long as my arm…I’ll maybe post someday, after it’s all over.
If I’m still alive. JK!!
She won’t be saving $150 a month by divorcing you. Maintaining a household by herself without the SS income you brought to the table will be more expensive, plus all the legal costs for a divorce. So…she’s taken leave of her senses here…if this really happened this suddenly, perhaps her medications are at fault. Does her therapist even KNOW that she is doing this?
Sorry…didn’t realize a few days had gone by and there was a page 2…
I am utterly shocked by this entire situation and you have my most heartfelt sympathy LouisB. I would read your posts and wish that I was as loved as Darling Marcie. I hope that this all works out for you with the least amount of pain possible.
She is requesting temporary alimony as part of the no contant thing; she wants about 90% of my monthly income.