Brava! Stay safe and have a wonderful time abroad. (Can you sense the enthusiasm? I think we’re all excited any time someone actually takes the advice given in an advice thread!)
Congratulations, and enjoy your travels. That sounds like it will be both an awesome and a cleansing experience.
As for cheating, I think the statistics show that it’s about 50/50 for guys being faithful, but I can tell you for sure that there are many, many men who prefer monogamy and will be as faithful as dogs. I’ve been with my wife for almost 20 years. In all that time, I’ve never so much as held hands with another woman (and I had plenty of opportunity in my younger, skinnier, rock bnd days).
Dr. Drew always says that women who have been through the ringer with guys need to pay a little more attention the guys who strike them as boring. What seems boring to them is just unfamiliar normality. The guys that seem exciting are the ones you have to be cautious about. Drew says some women get their radars screwed up that way and find themselves attracted to egoists and assholes over and over again, and they overlook some more healthy guys because they seem less intriguing at first.
I don’t know how valid any of that is, but it always seems to make sense when he says it.
Are you Buddhist, by the way? Are you going to any Buddhist shrines or historical sites in India?
YAY!!! I gotta admit…I think in our society some women tend to be brainwashed into thinking that they NEED to be in a romantic realtionship in order to feel fullfilled. I think that was what was keeping you from leaving him…you were afraid that if you left him, you’d have nobody. I have to say that you find someone when you least expect it. Start out as friends with someone and see where that takes you. I am very happy for you…I have a friend who is in a dysfunctional realtionship, where the guy is ubercontrolling and controls her every life movement. Yet she won’t leave him b/c she claims she’s happy.
I’m quite happy for you as well. Are you leaving for India really soon? If you still have two months to go, I still suggest treating yourself in some minor way until you get to the big treat.
You. are. AWESOME!!!
Well done, that’s the first step to a whole new phase of your life! Have a fantastic time with your travels, that’s a perfect idea for clearing your head, making yourself your priority and giving yourself a well-needed injection of confidence and happiness.
Not just women, I’m always surprised by the people here who come talking about finally meeting the love of their life less than three months after a divorce. People of both sexes.
Congratulations, phoenixREdone 
when come back bring pics!
So uh…this means your single now, right? 
Tibet is freaking awesome so very good choice.
Yay you!! I read the other thread but didn’t post as I really didn’t have anything more to say than what had been said!
I was in a situation like you and I didn’t leave. I stayed until he left. What a waste of time. I wish I had had your courage. I’m so glad you are stepping out into a new, happier life!!
Happy travels, come back and tell us all about it.
Not as a rule, no. Perhaps you agreed to an “open relationship” because you thought: “guys will cheat anyway - I might as well try and have some control as to how and how often I’m cheated upon”.
(By the way, you wern’t in an open relationship at all - check out posts and threads by WhyNot on this board if you want to read about a real poly relationship from a female POV.)
Anyway, congrats! As I said in the other thread, many of us have been through some sort of rescuer-rescuee relationship. Welcome to the club, older and wiser you.
Finally, someone who will take our good advice. 
Congratulations and safe trip!
THIS would be enough for me to break up with Mr. Ujest. I think breaking up with someone should always be followed with a backpacking trip overseas.
FSM, I am envious of you.
Enjoy yourself.
I recently went to san fran for spring break. It was so amazing.
Enjoy all the awesome japanese and asian food.
And china town is a must!
No. I never cheat. I never have cheated and will not. It’s an absolute. There are plenty of people who never cheat out there.
And congrats on moving on to a healthier, happier life! 
I’m going to quote you in this thread, because I think it is a good point.
Dumping him and getting out of town? Excellent move there, kiddo. You’ll be too busy oohing and ahhing and taking pictures to miss the guy. Then, you’ll wonder what took you so long.
Will you be able to post from your travels? I’d love to vicariously share it!
Huzzah! Well done and congratulations, phoenixundone. The best part of your post is that your ex-boyfriend tried to contact you but remains your ex-boyfriend. Looks like your new spine is working out nicely and will have you walking tall on your new adventures.
I love a happy ending.
Huge props. Congrats, and have a fantastic time!
Very true.
Great timing, as ivylass said before me!
It takes a lot of strength to make a move like you did, and I’m building up the courage to do the same…
Do check out Calcutta(Kolkata!) when you are India, its not so far from Tibet and I had a nice time there whenever I visited. You can see the ancient stuff to get your “India” fix, and chill out in lots of nice places too. You get amazing bengali sweets which are practically orgasmic! (Rosogolla, mishti doi…aaah too many!)
Do let us know what you saw in Tibet, Ive always wanted to visit, but couldn’t. Any information about tanka paintings would be greatly appreciated!