If you’ve paid for the computer, and all the family is paying for is the net, then consider cancelling your current internet account, getting your own, and dispensing the use of your computer as you see fit. There are some pretty cheap ISP deals out there, and it seems like a small price to pay for your privacy.
It’s worth considering; it gives you some leverage in the situation at least. And it makes a point of the fact that you like your privacy.
Good luck. Keep in mind that this is coming from a guy who hasn’t talked to his brother in 15 years.
Hear, hear. Phlip has spoken. If Phlip can overcome such hardships as <<gasp>> dandruff, anyone can overcome any obstacle that they face. Given the positive, life-affirming, Pollyannish tone of his post, I find it hard to believe that anyone would ever take offense to this fine gentleman, let alone want to beat him up daily.
Ah, and wisdom such as this–“Sisters are bitches”–has such profundity that it deserves to be enshrined with the wit of Dorothy Parker. Truly, every woman with a sibling must be a bitch, this is, after all, a hard truth. I can only assume that Phlip has chosen not make the mistake of having a second child, thus dooming his daughter to this same fate.
Guin should have the courage to follow Phlip’s example so that someday she, too, will be successful, happy, and have no time for her family.
Number Six you sound very intelligent. Did you have something to add to this thread or do you also live in your parents basement in your late 20’s?
Like I said, the truth hurts and if you cant take it, dont post on these boards. Do you call having to deal with your 16 year old sister any more of a hardship than dealing with bad dandruff? If you do, then you also have it made Six.
By the way, if you havent had bad dandruff, dont just assume that it doesnt impact your high school years, because it does. If only I could have had shiny clean hair like Number Six, then I could have picked on the other kids like me.
You sound like someone who has never experienced anything that has been spoken of in this thread Six. Why post here then? And please dont start making up some hardships just so you can sound like you have a clue. I can already see that coming.
“Truly, every woman with a sibling must be a bitch, this is, after all, a hard truth”
That made zero sense. Can you expand on that please? I said nothing of the sort.
Maybe Number Six can give you life advice Guin, because apparently no one wants to live in the real world on this board.
Why must I choose? Are these two things mutually exclusive?
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Yes.
** My sincere apologies for having made fun of your disability. My dandruff was minor, and I solved it by buying dandruff shampoo. But then, according to your post, so did you. Hmm. I’ve always been a Selsun Blue man myself, but if Head and Shoulders solved this problem that so devastated your teenage years, maybe I should consider switching. By the way, dandruff is a problem of the scalp, not the hair.
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Nope. My life is sweet. I have a job I love, teaching 5th grade. I get to teach college courses on the side, and for some pretty good pay. My house is paid off. I am engaged to a sweet, lovely, smart, considerate, educated woman half my age. My biggest hardship is a touch of dandruff, but that’s a pretty minor thing which is easily dealt with by buying the right shampoo.
** You said, “Sisters are bitches,” and that you were posting the “hard truths of the matter.” A woman with a sibling is the definition of a sister. What I did was take your statement and substitute “woman with a sibling” for “sister.”
I have read many of her posts over the past few months, and I like her, so I wanted to express my sympathy for Guin’s situation. I have a healthy realationship with my siblings, so I posted what I believed to be a healthy way to deal with a sibling conflict. This seems consistent to me.
By the way, claiming that your opinions are “the hard truths of the matter” and directing personal attacks at the person you are trying persuade are both faulty rhetoric.
Your arguements are laughable. I have no personal feelings against this girl. In fact, I said that in my first post. Im very proud of your standing in life. You have done well for yourself. As have I.
Let me ask you this though. If getting rid of dandruff was as easy as buying a bottle of Selun Blue, why does anybody still have dandruff? The fact of the matter is I could have gone into detail my dermatologists prescribed remedies for my acne and dandruff, but I figured anyone who is running on all four cylinders would have understood that the idea is the same. I applied said medication, most problems went away. Why go into details when I can just say “Head and Shoulders”? Its like ordering a Coke when all the place has is Pepsi. The waiter still knows what you want. You are reading to deep into this. Im sorry if it is too complex for you to understand. Maybe one of your students can help you sort it out?
And your word substitution was idiotic and unneccessary. What was point of your substitution? I hope you are not teaching your students to make substitutions like that.
The point of this whole thing is that a 23 year old, with no physical or severe mental disablities, has control over their own life. If you are 23 years old, and cant stand your 16 year old sis, move out!! The 16 year old cant. My god, to be 23 years old and only have to worry about my sister being bitchy, that would be the life.
Guin sounds like a nice person. I sound like an asshole for presenting what are essentially the common sense answers to her problems. Sure she probably wants to hunt me down and kill me now, but what can I say?
You on the other hand, #6, sound like someone who has taken up the cause of defending the poor little girl when she does not need to be defended. She sounds extremely intelligent, in her other posts that is. Im sure she can defend herself.
Might I dare to suggest that a maturity judgement was not being made. It was pointed out by most of the people here that Guinastasia’s posts showed that she was indeed a level headed , amiable , intelligent and mature poster.
I dont think anyone is going to make a call on someone’s worth based on their financial situation.
This is the PIT and perhaps Guinastasia came here to vent and just get some of the frustration out of her system (hey it’s got to be better than pushing someone down the stairs right?). Fine but I think some of us were guilty of thinking that she might have been looking for some kind of advice on what to do about the situation.As far as I can see there is only one thing that will resolve the distance between the sisters and that is distance. That seems to be the generally accepted cure.
I certainly didn’t mean to be insulting by suggesting that it was unusual for someone to be living at home at that age. Perhaps there is a cultural difference .In the end of the day living at home is goign to be a lot easier than making it yourself. Financially and emotionally.
But the benefits to your self esteem and it would seem your sanity would be quite something were you to make a success of living away.
Its never easy , I can give you my tale of woe that would show Phlip just how easy he had it when he moved out (and up) but theres not much point in making judgments based on my experience and situation now is there?
It does seem though that you could benefit from giving the big bad world a shot.
As I feared it appears that Guinastasia has some very good reasons for not being confident enough to make it out there but if I can ask do you intend to stay where you are indefintlely?
Perhaps we might consider gettign the little bitch to move out instead. Hows that for a solution ? Im sure you would love the fact that she’ll have even more reason to Lord it over you then.
I suspect the motivations of the people suggesting that you move out were a genuine attempt to point out a productive possible resolution and not intended as some sort of judgment on your worth or maturity.
oh and Phlip ? dont rise to pathetic inarticulate baiting so easily.
Im confused. Was that last statement by Damhna a cut on me? I know there are people that have had it alot harder than me. The point is, Guin doesnt have it that bad, I was just pointing that out.
Im tired. Time to shut off my overworked brain and hit the sack.
Pfeh. This is the Pit – one lowercase “fuck” is mighty tame compared to some of the language you encounter here.
In fact, that’s what it’s here for. Rant and swear all you want. Write a message addressed to anyone or anything that bugs the hell out of you, filled with all the anger and bile you’ve always wanted to let out but were too nice, too scared or too ashamed to say. Fill a page with obscenities. Be creative. Call whoever it is a “twathammer” or a “pigfucking nematode”. Tell them how miserable/frustrated/enraged they’ve made you feel.
And then, once it’s out of your system, you’ll feel better. And whomever it is will never be the wiser. (Unless they’re on the boards, of course, in which case: oops!)
I understand both parts of that. I can’t do anything about the finance thing, but when such a time comes that you can begin to be financially independent, it may be worth finding a place of your own. Old environments can reinforce behavioral patterns; sometimes, finding a new space to make your own can help. But only when you’re ready and able to take that step.
Melodramatic, my ass. I know many people who’ve had their self-esteem destroyed by self-centered jerks at school. It happened to me. And it’s taken me a long, long time to get over it to the degree that I have (in fact, it’s only really in the last year that I’ve really felt sufficiently free of those feelings to move forward – and I’m 34). So yes, I know how you feel. And it’s okay to be mad about it.
Damn straight. Say it again!
I repeat: pfeh.
And if you really wish you’d chosen a different screen name, find a new one you’re happier with and write to the mods (TubaDiva, I think) to ask them to change it. I recommend doing it before you’ve racked up enough posts that people get used to your current one.
Although, frankly, your current screen name is pretty memorable, which is always a bonus around here. It’s like one of those oddball superhero names – “Thank goodness you’re here, Infectious Lass! The Martians are attacking!”
Certainly not, unless it’s an exceptional sixteen-year-old. But you’re never too young to have an attitude adjustment.
My problem with the “Move out!” solution is this: it is escaping the problem, not fixing (or attempting to fix) it. If Guin moves out, her sister’s still a self-centered bitch. Sure, she may change in time and they might have a good relationship a la Diane and her sister, but I wouldn’t count on it. (Not that it can’t happen, of course, but it’d be a mistake, IMO, to assume that it will happen.) My experience has been to the contrary. I know a set of adult sisters who could not get along if their lives depended on it. A lot of their problems can be traced back to (obviously unresolved) conflicts they had as kids. But even without this bias I’d think it it’d be better to deal with things like this now, rather than walk away from them.
That said, I honestly don’t have any better ideas. Guinastasia and her sister talking things through (with their mother there to serve as witness/referee/etc. would be ideal, but I don’t know if they can do that right now. I’m hoping they can.
Perhaps someone else has already pointed this out, but I don’t recall Guin even implying that her sister was her only problem. Quite the opposite, in fact.
Guin, best of luck to you. As an only child, I can’t relate very well to sibling problems. But I hope things get better for you, and that it doesn’t take moving out to improve your relationship with your sister.
And to anyone who criticizes twentysomethings still living at home: You moved out at 19? Wonderful. I have great admiration for people who can support themselves at that age. However, unless you have personally assessed the living situations of every twentysomething still living at home, please avoid making judgements or criticizing. It makes you look like an ass.
** I also teach my students to pay attention to important details in their reading, such as, “I CANNOT AFFORD TO MOVE OUT AT THIS POINT IN TIME.”
So you envy Guin’s situation? I thought you were happy with what you’ve accomplished in your life.
No, you sound like an asshole because of the insulting tone and of your posts, because you refuse to accept Guin’s own assessment of her financial and psychological readiness to move out, and because you consistently refer to your opinions as facts, truths, and common sense.
That she can, and has done so quite well. She does not need me to defend her, which is why I didn’t. The sole purpose of my last few posts has been to amuse myself by poking fun at your offensive and poorly written posts.
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No, that statement was cut on me. Personally, I think my baiting has been quite articulate.
Perhaps youre right. You have brought an entirely new level of brevity and articulation to the previously unexplored debate on dandruff and it’s quantitative comparison with having a troublesome sister.
There’s more to being articulate than hitting “quote” and then spelling a one word riposte correctly.
Im not sure how you got off the island but you sure didn’t talk your way.
I have been brought down to the level of an everyday flamer, so fuck it, Im gonna act like one.
GET A FUCKING JOB.
Doesnt mean that things couldnt be easier. If you woulda read my post Mr.Wit, you would have seen that my life is good, but still has its difficulties.
Her situation is self-created and maintained. If she doesnt like it, she can change it. No where did I say anything about her inability to assess her life. She thinks her life is hard. She may be right, but all the reasons she has listed for her problems are not unsurmountable.
You do realize that you sound more like a pompus ass than you do a smart teacher?
You are young, intelligent and creative. You’ve seen that you cannot win with a frontal assault. You must use your cunning. And your evil streak, if you have one. You should have much personal information regarding your sister. Place an ad in the paper in her name. Subscribe to ‘alternative’ newspapers in her name and have them delivered to the house.
If you have her SSN#, you can get a drivers license with her name and your picture on it. Think of how much damage you could do with that! You could destroy her driving record and credit history for years to come.
They will suspect you of course, but they will never convict you…
Yeah dammit, not everyone can grasp the fact that “sisters” is synonymous to “every woman with a sibling . . .” :rolleyes: Number Six, will you please not write so entel. . . inttel. . . intelejunt. . . . shit. . . . you know - smart and stuff?
Oh and Phlip? The apostrophe is your bitch and is ready and willing to be used.
Ok, I am a damn engineer, not an english major. Hell, I dont even use the english language the way it is supposed to be used. I probably butcher it daily.
But for the sake of all that is good and holy on this earth, Where did I misuse/notuse an apostrophe? Ive scoured my posts and cant find the damn thing.
Phlip, dear:
an apostrophe takes the place of the letters that disappear when one makes a contraction. Common uses are I’m (for “I am”) and I’ve (for “I have”). Those were the two most prominent mistakes I had noticed within your posts.
To Guinistasia:
I can understand your situation a little. My brother’s a complete asshole (he’s fourteen years old). He constantly steals things from people. He also has a horrible temper, and ruins things that don’t belong to him when he is angry (most noticeably his bedroom door - the frame has come off completely and the wood around the knob is almost all gone). He can’t be trusted with anything. He never completes his schoolwork and just about fails every one of his classes. My only hope is that my parents finally get fed up with his crap and send him to military school. I’m sorry that I have no advice. Just empathy.
One possible problem, Phlip: if you write your messages in MS Word (or another wp program) and cut-and-paste, sometimes apostrophes get removed. I don’t know why – maybe it’s a font thing.
Oh! Me is one pedantic SOB but I j’u’s’t c’a’n’t h’e’l’p’ i’t’’’.
Guanistasia …any chance you popping by to get this thead back on track ? Im wondering if you still feel the same way and as though people were judging you unfairly?
