Better than telling her he does…
Hah!
I meant he reverted to the emotional/intellectual state of a 12 year old boy caught masturbating.
This reminds me of an early Savage Love column. A male reader was asking if a “booty call” relationship he had with a girl had become a girlfriend. Dan said “Do you think about her when you jerk off? No? Congratulations, you have a girlfriend!”
I’ve certainly posed naked for a lot of guys and some of those pics might be called porn (OK, some were porn! 
) but as a porn watcher myself I know I get bored with an image pretty quickly. I’m guessing he would watch porn anyway but I wouldn’t let it bother you. Sometimes when I’m feeling generous I’ll let my guy watch porn while I blow him.
Standing Ovation
Posting this suggests an unhealthy lack of information or at least near the border.
He really should have already had an excuse ahead of time if he watches it regularly. Getting a porn popunder is not that uncommon if you are in the habit of going to certain kinds of sites. (Of course, you may find those sites even more objectionable.)
And I think ITR is implying that the guy couldn’t function without getting off, and that would be a bit of a problem. But this seems unlikely to me, as, again, if you’ve been doing it for a while, why wouldn’t you have a pre-made excuse ready?
Then again, OP, you aren’t anti-Porn, so maybe he never bothered to think of any. He just misread your body cues in this instance, and thought you would get mad, and poorly tried to belay that. You are pregnant, and state you have hormonal mood swings, and I doubt even you can predict them with 100% accuracy.
I do think though, if I were wanting to have sex with you, but couldn’t, I would rather use a picture of you than of some other girl.
Oh, and pregnant women are not unattractive. Jeez. Especially your pregnant wife who is pregnant with your child. That’s just an amazing sign of how much you love him, and what could be unattractive about that?
:rolleyes:
I can’t imagine a chick freaking out at me looking at porn. Every single girl I’ve been with has been fully aware of my masturbatory habits. Most of them watched porn themselves.
Can you, like, start a school?
I’m about to tell you the same secret I’ve told many, many women. And they always go “Ohhhhh. It makes sense now.”
It’s not a desire to procreate, it’s a desire to procrastinate. Men don’t masturbate because they’re horny. They masturbate because they’re bored.
You know how many times I’ve done it after going to the strip club? Never. You know how many times I’ve done it before work? Or before writing a paper for college? Or when I should be asleep but I’m not tired yet? Or once I’ve seen the entire internet, twice? Countless times.
Also, the comment about “not getting any this morning” wasn’t meant as “we don’t have enough sex.” What he meant, I suspect, was that “it only takes a few hours to recharge.” He was saying that unless you laid him in the past hour or two, he’ll be ready for sex.
And it’s not that you’re not hot enough. It’s just that you weren’t around at the time.
I would like to add my ringing endorsement to the first seven lines of CS’ post.
counts the lines
OH, I SEE WHAT YOU DID THERE.
Well, I’m in what I’m given to understand is the “fuckin’ like bunnies” stage of a marriage (ie., we got married three months ago yesterday) and I am definitely not getting enough sex.
I thought people stopped having sex pretty much right after “You may kiss the bride.”
That’s what all the married couples (well, it’s usually the women bitching) I know say. I don’t really know what they’re talking about.
Not to harp on this, because I don’t think it’s a problem-- you guys sound like you’re doing great in your relationship. Maybe I just want to point out a general view of guys and porn with this.
But is he asleep every time you leave for work? He doesn’t see you to the door with a kiss or something just before he goes to crash for the day? Or am I reading it wrong, and you don’t leave for work? You said you’re “together in the evenings,” but you mean that you’re not “together” during the day because he’s sleeping?
Anyway, like Shag said, most of the time it’s less than 5 mins. In fact, it can help you sleep. I’ll bet tons of guys reading this thread jerk off before bed. He might’ve even gone in to sleep and rubbed one out.
You say he looks at porn twice a month, and maybe he does. I’ve lived with girlfriends before, and the need for porn does go way down, especially if you’re working a busy schedule or something. It wasn’t nearly at my living alone levels.
Just wanted to point out that it’s possible. And if you’re OK with his porn, maybe the “caught with his pants down” response/excuse he gave you means that you should reiterate your position on it for him?
I don’t work. Yes, we’re not together during the day because he’s sleeping.
I get myself off before bed most nights too, so I get it.
I’ll make my position clearer to him.