Hey, AFG, we’re all here holding our breath, hoping the best for you. I know if my wife and I tried to work out our problems in the presence of our respective mothers, it would be an unmitigated disaster, its only saving grace being the inevitable royalties from the made-for-tv movie. Hopefully you families aren’t as profoundly flawed as ours.
Good luck tonight. Remember, you deserve the best.
Best of luck, AFG. Whatever happens, remember that you deserve to be treated better than you have been the past few days. If you make up, he needs to realize that the way he treated you is unacceptable. If you don’t, then you need to realize it for yourself.
And whatever happens, hang on. There are many people in the world who would miss you – stick around and share the fun. Please. 
I hope that everything is okay, AFG.
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Please update, AFG, we are concerned about you.
Thanks so much for the good vibes. I really need them right now.
Had a very very long, tearful conversation tonight.
The Coles Notes version is: Mr. AFG is having some very serious problems with depression - much worse than he’s let on. It goes beyond outside pressures. Something is not working right in his brain.
He said he can’t handle a relationship setting right now and needs to be alone for awhile. He’ll still be in contact with me and wants to go out with me soon, but basically, I’m going to be living on my own for an undisclosed period of time. He’s going to see a shrink and get some treatment.
He told me he still loves me and is really, really sorry to do this, but it may be what’s best for both of us. After he described what’s been going on in his head, I think he may be right.
So yes, technically we’re still married. We’re just on…hiatus right now. If things improve we may go back to the way we were…but we don’t know yet.
My whole life has changed in one night. I’m so overwhelmed…I’m going to be awfully lonely. 
Oh…wow. I’m not going to make any criticisms of hubby in this post.
What a shock this must be for you. I would hate to be alone after all these years. Please, please, e-mail me. I love e-mail & I love e-pals. elenia25@gmail.com
Don’t let yourself sit around at home moping. Some moping is necesary, but try to pick up a hobby. Don’t just sit around watching TV.
And call your friends. Don’t feel like you’re going to impose. Think of what your friend did, come over your place and stay for weeks on end. You don’t have to and shouldn’t go that far, but better to talk it out than mope.
We’re all rooting for you.
My parents took me in for tonight. They don’t want me to be alone.
I’d like to be at home but…I can really use the comfort too.
BTW, I love you guys…thanks so much for the support.
AFG,
I’m so sorry to hear what’s going on. We’ve never interacted much, but I wanted to say that I’m thinking of you. This is all my opinion–I am not any sort of medical professional, but I’d like to add a few thoughts. I hope I’m not too forward.
Depression is an insidious thing: the first thing that it does is warp the way you think. For that reason, making major decisions while depressed is often a Very Bad Thing.
Oftentimes the worst thing to be when depressed is alone, for there is nothing to restrain the thoughts from drifting into a negative hole. Yet it can be excruciatingly-difficult to get back out of the hole to normal sunny territory. You say that your Hubby may not be able to face your relationship at the moment. I can sort of understand this–so much history involved–but even if he needs to stay apart for a time, he should have a trusted contact available as often as possible. And it would be a good thing if that contact would check in on him. Sometimes it’s impossible to even reach out. I hope that Hubby has someone to do this for him even before he sees a professional.
You need support too. I’m glad to read that your parents are taking you in. Call on your friends as well. Whatever happens, the old way of things is gone, and you need someone at your back as you face the new.
And maybe, just maybe, when the time is right, you can send to Hubby something to remind him of you, with a note saying, “when you’re ready, I’ll be there”…
Not the news I was hoping for, but not the worst I feared for either. I guess life is like that. I am glad to hear you are coping. You have friends, both here and IRL. Don’t hesitate to call on them (us) - that is what they are for. They’re not just for decoration.
Depression is no joke - it is very serious both for the one who suffers from it and for their friends/family. Medical science has made great strides in treating this with medication - hopefully Mr. AFG will have this under control soon.
You do know this is not your fault, right? Make sure there are no little demons of guilt trying to sneak in - they are ugly like that. They are sneaky. They have no place here.
I so feel for you - my thoughts are with you - I’m sending hugs and kitty kisses (which are scientifically proven to cure ANYTHING).
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I’m sorry honey, I really am.
Give yourself this time to be yourself and to work out what you want and need.
I’m so, so sorry that this is happening to you, AFG. I second Anaamika’s comments: get out, be with friends, have fun despite yourself.
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As soon as I woke up this morning, I thought about you. But my sleepy head kept calling you “Amazon dot floozy” (like amazon dot com 
). You are, of course, AMAZON.FLOOZY.GODDESS – you are strong and beautiful and talented and fascinating, and all kinds of other great things. Please don’t let hubby’s depression take you down too. Take good care of the precious person you are, and don’t hesitate to lean on your friends here.
If you have any available in your area, I strongly recommend you get yourself to a caregiver of a depressed person support group (start with your local hospital, and don’t give up until you find one). Failing that, get yourself into counselling. This is a very heavy load for you to carry.
Your husband is dealing with a whole lot of stuff right now, and so are you. He’s not the only one that needs care and attention.
I am so sorry for everything you’re going through AFG. As others have said, you’re one of those people who makes this place the wonderful community that it is. Add me to your long list of fans.
I’m not married so I can’t contribute on that front, but depression runs in my family and it is a terrible thing. I hope that your husband can get the help that he needs. You and he are in my thoughts.
Unfortunately I know depression all too well. I’ve had it for about half my life and just over a year ago I was finally prescribed some medication that really helps ne. Incidentally, it’s the same stuff Mr. AFG is taking, which is obviously not working for him.
When my depression was bad I wanted to be around people, whereas he wants to be completely isolated. I wish I had known he was hurting this much…I wish he had talked to me about how he really felt before it came to this.
Fortunately he does have some good friends who are looking out for him, and his family’s there too. They’ll make sure nothing bad happens to him.
Worse than I hoped, but better than I feared. Take care of yourself, AFG, snuggle your pets, and know that we’re here for you.
God bless.
You don’t know me from Adam, AFG, but I just wanted to give you a hug and say hang in there. It’s gonna be a long difficult road, but at least your hubby understands he has a problem and is willing to work on it. As painful as his actions have been, it’s a whole lot better than if he just blamed you for all the problems and walked away. This way you’ve got a fighting chance.
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We’re behind you all the way.
Cuda
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I wish I had wise words to share with you, AFG. Unfortunately, experience doesn’t necessarily translate to wisdom. I hope that the two of you can manage to patch things up and make each other happy again. Maintaining a marriage is one of the toughest things people can do, even without the daunting burden of depression thrown on top of things. My own marriage ended six years ago, and I thought it was the end of the world. It wasn’t, but it hurt like hell for a long, long time. I kept wondering if there was something else I could have done, some better choice I could have made to salvage things. But in the end, all any of us can do is our best. I know you are doing the best you can. Don’t ever doubt that, and don’t ever doubt you are a wonderful person. That much is very clear to all of us around here.
If you want to talk, my email is in my profile.
Hi,
I am fairly new around here but just wanted to say that I hope you are taking all this fabulous advice to heart.
I have some idea of what you are going through but not as extreme a situation as yours. Hang on in there. Please consider yourself hugged!
Butterscotch.