I don't know how to meet somebody

The title sums up the body.

I’ve been divorced for three years and I’m ready to be in a relationship again. Actually I’ve been ready for some time now but I don’t know how to meet somebody. I’m told I’m pretty. In some areas I’m above average intelligence and in others, just average. I know I’m nice and I have a lot of love and affection to give to the right man.

There are some days that I feel so lonely. I want someone to love and to love me.

My standards are pretty high. He has to be intelligent. Stupid people bore me very quickly. I don’t live in a large city and most people meet at the pub which doesn’t interest me in the least.

How do I meet someone?

Lessee. Nice, intelligent, posts on the SDMB and lives on Vancouver Island?

Hi. I’m Sunspace. :slight_smile:

All silliness aside, are there people near you who share your values and interests? I’ve found that I meet people best when doing something I like anyways, and they’re doing it too.

Floaty, meet Sunspace. Interesting guy, and available. And in da 'hood. I suggest you two email back and forth for a bit and meet for coffee.

Or, join a club. Nothing like a class or project discussion as an icebreaker.

Good luck!

In my experience - Meeting people is mostly done by accident. You tend to meet people by not intentionally intending to do so. This happens more when you are a kid than when you are an adult. As an adult the people you meet are nearly always met because of your job.

[QUOTE=Kalhoun]
Floaty, meet Sunspace. Interesting guy, and available.
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:: blush ::

If you define ‘da hood’ as ‘you don’t need a passport to get there’. I’m 3300 km away in Toronto, but my aunt lived in Vancouver Island, and I remember how beautiful it was. I hope it hasn’t all been logged or something.

[QUOTE=Sunspace]
:: blush :: If you define ‘da hood’ as ‘you don’t need a passport to get there’. I’m 3300 km away in Toronto, but my aunt lived in Vancouver Island, and I remember how beautiful it was. I hope it hasn’t all been logged or something.
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Oops. There’s my glaring lameness in Canadian geograpy being all obvious again.

But in cyberspace miles, it’s just across the street, right? RIGHT?

Toronto is a bit of a drive away to meet up for coffee, not to mention a boat ride away too!

As for meeting someone at work, I have two jobs. I won’t meet anyone at my one job as I’m alone in an office for that one. I’ve recently started working at a bank though and I’m hoping that will help me to meet someone. The only problem is I work with all women so the only men I meet are clients.

I like astronomy, reading, fishtanks, dinosaurs, chess ( gee, no nerd here, eh? )

I there isn’t an astronomy club here and, if there is a dinosaur club, I don’t think I’d want to meet it’s members as they most likely would be too nerdy even for me!

I’m just stumped as to how I should go about meeting someone.

Ever check out meetup.com? It has all kinds of groups with varied interests…

PS-What are these people, chopped liver? :smiley:
http://chess.meetup.com/250/

Actually there are several Dopers in the area. Vancouver Island, Vancouver, Surrey, White Rock… and Langley? There should be a Southern BC Dopefest. Can’t guaranty that you’ll meet an SO, but you’ll get to hang out with people who have similar interests.

[QUOTE=lobotomyboy63]
Ever check out meetup.com? It has all kinds of groups with varied interests…

PS-What are these people, chopped liver? :smiley:
http://chess.meetup.com/250/
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The chess club is in Vancouver, not to be confused with Vancouver Island.

I see there is a Furries Club nearby! ( I think that’s the thing where people dress up in animal costumes and have sex )

[QUOTE=FloatyGimpy]
I see there is a Furries Club nearby! ( I think that’s the thing where people dress up in animal costumes and have sex )
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I can’t tell whether the idea appeals to you or not…

Try online personals. OKCupid is a free site.

[QUOTE=Sunspace]
:: blush :: If you define ‘da hood’ as ‘you don’t need a passport to get there’. I’m 3300 km away in Toronto…
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Aw, you’ve been needing a trip out West for a while, Sunspace. Here’s the perfect excuse. Stop by on your way through Calgary and say hi, eh?

[QUOTE=twickster]
I can’t tell whether the idea appeals to you or not…

Try online personals. OKCupid is a free site.
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No, it doesn’t appeal to me!

I am signed up with www.plentyoffish.com. I have gotten replies but not really anything that makes me think " I have to meet this person".

[QUOTE=FloatyGimpy]
Toronto is a bit of a drive away to meet up for coffee, not to mention a boat ride away too!

As for meeting someone at work, I have two jobs. I won’t meet anyone at my one job as I’m alone in an office for that one. I’ve recently started working at a bank though and I’m hoping that will help me to meet someone. The only problem is I work with all women so the only men I meet are clients.

I like astronomy, reading, fishtanks, dinosaurs, chess ( gee, no nerd here, eh? )

I there isn’t an astronomy club here and, if there is a dinosaur club, I don’t think I’d want to meet it’s members as they most likely would be too nerdy even for me!

I’m just stumped as to how I should go about meeting someone.
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A book club might be a good choice for you. Also, let all your friends know you’re looking. It’s a great way to meet people, and they’re pre-screened!!

[QUOTE=FloatyGimpy]
No, it doesn’t appeal to me!

I am signed up with www.plentyoffish.com. I have gotten replies but not really anything that makes me think " I have to meet this person".
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The folks at OKCupid seem less illiterate to me than the folks at POF.

[QUOTE=FloatyGimpy]
I like astronomy…
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I’ve always wanted to learn about astronomy. I even have a nice telescope. But in the summer it gets dark too late, and the rest of the year clouds prevail.

[QUOTE=Johnny L.A.]
I’ve always wanted to learn about astronomy. I even have a nice telescope. But in the summer it gets dark too late, and the rest of the year clouds prevail.
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Me too! I have a super nice telescope that my grandpa left me when he died and I have no idea how to use it.

Thanks, Twickster, I’ll give OKcupid a look.

[QUOTE=FloatyGimpy]
Me too! I have a super nice telescope that my grandpa left me when he died and I have no idea how to use it.
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Yeah, we’re… what? Twenty miles apart? Forty? Stupid PNW weather, messing up the viewing! I listen to Star Date on NPR, and then look out at the obscured sky. Sometimes I miss living in the desert. (Not to mention the fascinating geology there. I should have studied it when I had the chance.)

[QUOTE=FloatyGimpy]
Me too! I have a super nice telescope that my grandpa left me when he died and I have no idea how to use it.

Thanks, Twickster, I’ll give OKcupid a look.
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Take a stargazing class. Find someone cute who can show you how it works.