holds the door open for me
looks in my eyes when he talks to me
sends me flowers
smiles at me for no reason
I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it.
appreciates the fact that I am not your typical woman.
hands me a towel when I get out of the shower.
fixes me coffee or breakfast in bed in the morning.
I really try to be good but it just isn’t in my nature!
…loans me money and then forgets that he did.
Uke
…relaxes into his male hide, stays himself and enjoys women naturally; doesn’t contort himself into the “glossy mag ideal du jour” and doesn’t want a woman who does either; carries baggage baggage as lightly as possible and respects the same in women.
Has a huge sense of humor, a streak of pure cussedness and generous heart; a man who accepts and enjoys feminine/masculine similarities and differences.
It’s a damned shame that the chemical burn and heart-home quake has gotten so muddled. But I’m sure it was ever thus, and it sure keeps us alive and interested.
Veb
Enjoys spending time with me
Tells me how nice I look when I’m all done getting ready to go to work
Understands the fact that I’m a very independent woman and doesn’t try to dominate me (during the day anyway)or change me
Loves my kids
(These are in no particular order)
I would have to say, “All of the above”.
With the exception of coffee, that is. YECH
Love the smell, hate the taste. Yes, I know I’m weird. And your point would be???
Life is teaching you some painful lessons. But it is from adversity that strength is born. You may have lost the inning, but I know you’ll win the game.
Going down the checklist…
Right.
Looking for a volunteer? 
…who stays far away from my girlfriend.
Who makes my heart beat to the rhythm of his. Makes my days brighter than all of the sunny days in June. Holds my hand wherever we go. And loves me as if there will be no tomorrow…
Girlbysea (AKA: ChiefScott’s GBS)
…is Studi.
When I grow up, I want to be the Minister of Silly Walks.
doesn’t use me…
and basically, a guy who just is incredibly sweet.
so, if I were, theoretically, most of these things, what would be the reason I can’t find a nice girl?
see http://boards.straightdope.com/ubb/Forum4/HTML/003676.html
hunh? What’s the deal? Dammit
“Mmmmm, 64 slices of American Cheeeeese” – Homer Simpson
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And whoever fucking said chivalry is dead damn it!!!
sneaks in and leaves me a coffee while im in the shower
opens doors for me
argues with me when I pay for something
We are, each of us angels with only one wing,and we can only fly by embracing one another
…watches our son while I get a much-needed nap on Saturdays.
…puts a large glass of water on my nightstand before bedtime.
…calls my childbirth stretchmarks “lightning bolts”.
…puts up with an annoying mother in law without bitching.
…writes poems to me that make me smile and realize how special he is to me, and that he’s still my best friend after all these years.
I love you, Bons. 
Your Prairie Rose
If you’re not part of the solution you’re just scumming up the bottom of the beaker.
Do you brush your teeth?
Ok, flip answer, but there are a million things that might or might not attract a nice girl’s attention (of course, the main one is you’ve gotta be a thoughtful, considerate human).
People are attracted to different things in different people, and at different times in their lives. On a strictly physical level, I’ve never been particularly crazy about very long hair on men, or blonde or redheaded men - yet once upon a time I met this guy with beautiful straight blond hair that went nearly to his butt. I really flipped for his look. But before and after him, blonds / really long hair on guys = bleh. Go figger. So maybe you just haven’t come across the women that like your particular look - keep trying, there really IS a lid for every pot (and often there are several!).
Additionally, individuals themselves go through “phases” if you will, where they are more or less attractive to others (generally, I believe the attraction has to do with an individual’s personal self-esteem and inner strength showing through). Ok, this might not really be true for everyone, but it sure is for me.
I’ve looked pretty much like the same person most of my life. No one would mistake me at the age of 15, 20, 25, 30, 35, or 40 for ANYone else but me. I’ve also always been somewhat outspoken, occasionally loud, and VERY straightforward for the most part. These things have not changed over time. Yet, I never got dates when I was in high school. Never got asked to a school dance. Had VERY few boyfriends over the years. Never got hit on in bars or was asked to dance. Nobody wanted my phone number. And that’s how it’s been most of my life.
Then I hit my late 30s. WHAM! Men suddenly want to get to know me. Women suddenly like me and enjoy my company (well, the strong ones tend to, anyway)! Nothing much has changed outwardly. I’m not quite as fit/trim now as I was in my 30s (yeah, put on a few lbs…), but mostly I look the same and my personality is the same. What’s NOT the same is I stopped being a doormat for love, I’ve started making plans for MY future (and stopped thinking a man would be a part of it) such as buying a home, and I stopped giving a crap what ANYbody thinks about me.
Suddenly, I’m stronger, more confident, more successful, more tolerant of things/situations that used to make me insane, I laugh a lot more, I tend to look for the positive in negative situations, I’m at peace with myself and my life. I’m genuinely happy and serene for the first time ever. And BOY do people pick up on it…
While it’s never really offensive or crude, I get a LOT of men flirting with me these days. In the past, women were mostly intimidated by me - but now I don’t seem to scare them as much (maybe I’m just meeting a stronger bunch of women, I don’t know). Whatever.
The point is (sorry this is so long!), there’s only so much attraction going on at a physical level - there’s infinitely MUCH more “chemistry” (or lack thereof) happening in response to your own self-image, integrity, and emotional maturity. When you develop these things within yourself, your life will change. Trust me.
StoryTyler
“Not everybody does it, but everybody should.”