My husband has a close friend, Chris, that will come over once in a while looking for my husband, and if he’s not here, he’ll usually stay for a couple of hours and we’ll chat. We usually chat about the love of his life (who left him last year and he’s still desperately in love with), his job, or my husband. Chris has a habit of talking a lot and sometimes letting things slip.
So tonight Chris says something about my husband being drunk and trying to sleep with this girl. Chris is laughing and I said something like ‘I hope you guys took him home that night’, thinking this must have happened before we met, and he says ‘Yeah, I think you guys were living here and we brought him home.’ We’ve lived here for four years, and have been married for three of them. Chris went on to say that nothing happened in the end (because my husband was so drunk, apparently), but I have to admit that this did make my heart skip a beat. This would have occurred right around the time that I was having problems with alcohol (I’m an alcoholic) or around when I went in to rehab, so we would have been in a rough patch. As I said, nothing happened in the end, and it was before we were married (not that that’s totally fine, but it does make a difference to me).
I’m struggling with whether I bring this up to him and ask about it or just leave it. I’m not mad, more surprised and maybe a bit hurt. It’s not going to change anything in our relationship, but I’m unsure if I even want to know now. I wish Chris would have kept his damn mouth shut! Urgh.
P.S. I have NO worries about my husband cheating or anything since we got married (and didn’t have any suspicions before, tbh). We’ve had some rough years and this would have happened at that time, and I don’t have a completely clean record either (long before we were married). We have a great marriage and are very open with one and other. This is more of a ‘do I want to know the truth or not’ thing for me.