I don’t post much, but I read here all of the time. So I feel like I know you guys. And some of you I like a lot!
I married my partner of 19 years (–will be in April). He’s from Florida. Florida is one of the three US states that allows a notary public to solemnize a wedding. So my partner arranged for his high school friend to marry us. It was going be just my partner, me, and our notary friend at a lunch, but somehow a few more friends and family got invited.
I don’t want to presume that you remember my thread on being outed to my mom. But if you do remember, then you may wonder if she attended. No, my mother did not attend my wedding ----we’re good though. Surprising enough, my mother-in-law did attend. It’s so amazing and confusing how people can change.
So first, I did invite my mother at the behest of my partner and of my two sisters. I said to mom that she was welcome to attend and that my partner and I would not be offended if she did not attend, (My mother is a name-it-claim-it-Kenneth-Copeland christian).
She said, “You know I don’t support that. But I love you. . .” And yes, I knew that my mother would not come before I asked her. But I recognize that my sisters and partner were right in saying that I should invite her.
But really the event was grand! And my mother and I have a fine relationship. I think that a good portion of the things that she earnestly believes are nutty and recognize that she thinks that my views are nutty. Adults will focus on their similarities, not their differences.
My mother-in-law surprised me. Really? Attending?!? --she told me she was honored to attend! How neat is that?!?----Neither my partner nor his mother told his dad. Life is so strangely wonderful.