That makes no sense whatsoever when you look at it from the outside. I understand that being forced to move is difficult and I gather you may feel inadequate about not having much money but most people don’t care about that at least for simple dates. They may when things get more serious but long-term prospects are much more important than the money you currently have.
I started going out with my extremely rich ex-wife when I had negative money and no way to get any more. She is as superficial as they come and it didn’t matter to her because she had plenty and I didn’t need much. I have money of my own now but I didn’t when we were dating or when we first got married.
Again, you are creating artificial barriers based on your own assumptions that aren’t real. I am single and turn the dating game off and on as I choose but, unlike other people, I don’t expect anything long-term. I just want good experiences whether it is for a day or a month. That could be something as simple as a walk on a nature trail to a cheap but unique Chinese restaurant. You can always go the French route and buy a cheap bottle of wine, some cheese and baguette and have a picnic in a park. Many girls love that type of thing because it shows you are trying to create experiences that they like rather than just a boilerplate date. If she is a shopper, just take her to a nice mall or shopping center and hang out. If she likes the outdoors, rent a canoe on a pond for a couple of hours. None of those things are expensive but they are memorable.
It was always hard for me to date when going through a crisis. You have to understand I had no clue where I was going to be living when I got that notice. So it was no way I could go out with a woman and still be romantic and didn;t know if I was going to be homeless. Of course she was upset when I told her and responded with “we can do free stuff”:smack:
I agree, we don’t want up in the same place we were a couple of hours ago. The next step is to send some nice messages back and then quickly come up with a CONCRETE date and time for the next date.
Our hero has made lots of progress thanks to good coaching but I still think there is a serious risk he will drop the ball when it is time to make the real play. He has to make sure he doesn’t stop at the green lights and knows when it is OK to run a yellow one.
I know I said that I would only contaminate this thread with really bad analogies if he didn’t cooperate but I have given but a small sample of what’s to come. He eventually relented and that is very good but it took way too long so I can’t let him off Scot free. If he doesn’t make concrete plans with her by this weekend, I will unleash the truly bad analogies and I will not give up.
Well I agree but now we have heard from our new star in the break and I gotta tell ya’ Shagnasty, I’m not liking what I’m hearing. Having an apartment block sold isn’t a great thing for a young player but it’s part of the game and I don’t think you can throw in the towel over it. Hell sometimes keeping up the play during that sort of disturbance can show a strength to the other team that could be a winning move.
Well, we’re going to go to a few messages from our sponsors, and we’ll be right back in just a week and a half.
we talked on the phone tonight about tuesday. Which is good because this weekend it;s going to be 100 degree on sat and sun and was not trying to be out in that mess lol
I understand it is hard but remember, you started this thread for a reason and it was a good one in my opinion. You wanted outside opinions and that is a good thing. The frustrating thing was that many people were giving you consistently good advice and you refused to take it until the final hour. I am fairly confident that lots of experienced people had your best interests at heart and we are thrilled that you made a small step in the right direction.
However, that is just the first. You are really going have to follow up on messaging and coming up with concrete plans without some bullshit about eating or whatever else. I think all guys, no matter who they are, know that dating and potential rejection is scary but it is just something that you have to learn how to do.
You can set yourself apart very easily just by being consistent and decisive because so many people are terrible at that. That doesn’t mean that you need to be bossy. She already told you some places where she wants to go for example. Now you pick one of them and a day and time that suits both of you. At this stage, you can’t go multiple days without communicating though. You already know her to some degree. Just communicate in the way that works best. Phone calls are better in my experience but use whatever you have. The most important thing is to just DO IT!
I think we can give you that one since you set a date (or so it seems), but otherwise, the weather is just another excuse. Doesn’t really matter how hot it is outside when you can sit inside. I had a first date with someone in the middle of a horrible snow storm (at 10pm, no less).
I think what you need to do (or maybe it’s moot at this point) is admit to yourself that you’re making excuses, then you can begin to get over it. Just tell yourself (it’s what I do, even if it’s totally untrue) that she’s sitting there waiting for you to ask her out. Too many ‘geez, what’s it going to be this time’ things and she’ll move on.
Congratulation! (sincerely). Big Al and the Vegas lines are going to be happy. We honestly thought you were going to blow a huge lead for the upset. Thank goodness you tried. Doesn’t that feel better now?
Yeah because honestly I wasn’t planning on contacting her tonight until certain posters in this thread recommended I text her tonight. And it also lead to us talking on the phone for 45 mins
Consider yourself an explorer, a discoverer, the Ponce DeLeon of potential relationships. Fact - all women are craZy. Do not apply sense, prediction, odds or anything like that to them. They make no sense, never did, never will. The problem is further compounded by their Daddy issues, menstrual cycles and previous relationships. I note all of this, in that these can all be positives as well. YOu just never know.
Back when I was single, guys with money didn’t mean much to me since I can earn my own money just fine, but I always loved going out with guys who had senses of humor.
