I tried to search for my original “I hate Christmas” thread but screwed it up and I’m impatient. Anyway, it dealt with my parents’ impending divorce and how Christmas is going to be difficult.
My mother called tonight to tell me that my uncle (one of her older brothers) will be dead in the next couple of days. He was diagnosed with lymphoma a few months ago. Unfortunately it was one of the rare difficult ones; his kidneys are now failing and he has refused dialysis since they pretty much told him it would only prolong the inevitable. I can respect this decision. My mom said she thought he had more fight in him, but I figured it’s a control thing. Anyway, he’s now in hospice.
I don’t want to call the family, since they’re going through a difficult time. We’re not particularly close, but a vacation I spent down there four years ago was one of the best of my life and I’d like him to know that before he goes, if possible. I’m thinking of overnighting a card to the house, or to the hospice if I can figure out which it is. Does that sound feasible? Should I call?
I can’t sleep. This makes me really sad. I feel so bad for my mom. Mom feels bad for him, and his grandkids - she says he was so excited.
I’m thinking of making a cross-stitch that says “Christmas 2008 - Yay Memories!” with a passed out stick figure and a bottle of “XXX” booze. Mom might appreciate it.