Hmm… And today in “Appropriate Use of Violence 101”…
Distinguish between a case in which (a) you are in immediate danger of murder, rape or GBH, and (b) you wish to apply disciplinary measures against someone who has annoyed you. What actions do you consider it reasonable to take, and why? Give reasons. Time allowed: 45 minutes.
Presumably any kind of retaliation for the presumed cock-punch would be out of the question? …'cos, y’know, men hitting women is just sooooo wrong? :rolleyes:
Vlad, old boy, where were you when I was an angst-ridden teenaged guy?
That little bit of advice could have saved me so much grief! I’m noting it down for trusquirt when he gets older.
-Trupa, who went through adolescence as one of those "nice"guys the girls didn’t find exciting enough, and who got the "friends"speech all the time.
Thank God I’m married and grown-up!
oh fuck off. do you actually think Tir was advocating “cock punches” seriously?
For your sake alone, Twisty, I hope not…
Would that be a 1920’s style cock-punch or otherwise?
as long as that is a rekindled relationship with a guy, not a new one with a girl. There’s no feeling quiute like that of thinking you drove one to the other team…
It depends. The 1920’s style cock-punch is recognized by it’s signature wrist-flicking action during execution. Modern cock-punches have evolved to suppress this wrist movement for increased speed and a harder impact, though they lack the flair and pizzaz that was once a staple of the early cock-punching movement.
Message received. So if I ever speak airily of giving some girl a good slap round the chops, everyone will understand it’s purely in jest. Fine, as long as we’re clear on that. 
I’d give you a second thought if you did this to me. Just sayin’.
At some point, tclouie, you’re just going to have to accept the fact that most women think you’re gay and unavailable. 
/ducks, runs
And once again, Fuck off.
Tir said that if she was trying to break up with a guy, and he forced himself upon her to kiss her, as if that would magically change her mind, she’d fight him off.
but twist it away to your hearts content.
Honestly, there were occasions back in my dating days when I would’ve been better off avoiding a woman who’d just rejected me. I had a horrible propensity to moon after women I’d become friends with, and it was no fun for me and it couldn’t possibly have been fun for them.
It’s not that I didn’t value their friendship; it’s that my hormones were getting in the way of the friendship. Had I hung out with other people until my crush had passed, the friendship would’ve been much better off in the long term.
Daniel
I agree with Little Nemo. She stated her agenda; your stated yours. Check; checkmate.
Another perspective: (from a woman who has a disproportionately more male friends than female friends). On outings with male friends (occasionally) there might be some indication of sexual interest or sexual tension in the air. If a flirty or suggestive remark is made, I might mention the SO in order to prevent any uncomfortable or unwanted advances. (though I would never be so crude as to reveal intimate details about my love life; sorry your girl was tactless) I would rather insert this reminder into the conversation rather than bluntly say: “I enjoy your company, but stop flirting or touching me, because I am not available for a romantic relationship with anyone else.”
She (and the other she) may be attracted to you as well as the other guy. If you are interested in someone, there is only one way to test compatibility. Dating has always been hit or miss: we don’t wear signs. “Shelf material” is an unfortunate choice of label- obviously you are interesting and attractive enough to flirt with and spend time with.
No reason you can’t end a futile date early with “I enjoyed your company (He) is a lucky guy- give me a call if your situation changes” and move on. Somewhere a young lady is putting off another guy in the hopes that you will call her.
Or maybe she wants to date a baseball team? I have met women like this, I even went out with one for quite a long time. She wanted a guy for every purpose in her life. She would give you “the speech” to make sure you understood her rules of the game, that being, she gets to date whoever she wants while she’s dating you. Now if you happen to have another dating interest, keep that to yourself, she won’t find that amusing at all.
Moderator’s Notes:
What th’ hell? I dunno how you escaped without a warning for the first of those “fuck offs,” but you’re getting one this time. This thread is still in MPSIMS. It’s been brought back stinking and rotting from the boneyard, but that just makes your amplification all the more puzzling, Twisty. I can see making a mistake like that once, but twice leads one to believe you’re deliberately being shirty in the wrong forum. Knock it off.
Sorry, didn’t realise it was MPSIMS.
Good lord!
I remember this thread when it started, but reading it just now gave me something of an epiphany.
The last relationship I was in… Well, I use the term ‘relationship’ very loosely, would have been -much- better if I’d gotten ‘the talk’ from the beginning! For a while I’ve looked back on it thinking that I -did-. Now I recall the order of events a little more clearly, and know I got ‘the talk’ after:
Good lord. Why couldn’t we have just skipped to step 6?!
Thanks for bringing this post back. It helped me remember things in the right order. :rolleyes:
A thead with both Zenster and handy posts?
shudder
Put a classified ad in a paper once (another thread) …met a guy, great guy, wow, we had a lot of fun (drunken fun, sober fun, kid fun, non kid fun) we just had great fun…didn’t start like that though - started rather bumpy with both of us having decided after second “date” we would really rather be great friends then lousy dates…but neither wanted to say for fear the other one wasn’t thinking that…however as things progressed over 5 or 6 years in our friendship we did have a little clause we decided on - if, in ten years, we met no one we wanted to marry, we’d marry each other just because we had so damned much fun! I was “best guest” at his wedding…unfortunately lost touch before my wedding (15 years later).
When we didn’t have dates, we’d go out - for dinner, try new restaurants for suggestions for our dates, movies, beach. For many years, he was pretty close to my best friend and we both did lots of "jesus, I had the crappiest date last night, you’ll never guess what happend!)…and then we each would get the other’s take on what went wrong, if anything.
I still value his friendship - some guys just make great friends! It’s a shame that everyone just doesn’t speak up. And who knows, maybe they’ll have a friend who suits you!
Hey, I remember this! It’s the “sperm receptacle” :rolleyes: thread!