Okay, last night, my dad starting yelling at my girlfriend and told her not to come around any more. Why? I was back 5 min. late on my curfew. And then, this morning, he tells my mom to move out.
I’m rather pissed off. Somebody please make me feel better or something.
Well…is there any other reason? Either your dad is a complete bastard, or there’s some back story. Like has he been having a really rough time lately- losing his job, marital problems, that sort of thing? And by saying he wants your mom to move out- was he saying it seriously or was it an (angry) joke? It just seems he’s acting totally unprovoked, but maybe there are reasons that you haven’t mentioned, or are unaware of.
As far as I know, he did this totally unprovoked, but I have no idea what kind of fights he and my mom had.
And trust me, none of this was a joke.
Sounds like your dad is quite stressed. Maybe mentally not right at the time. Any chance of moving with your mom. Your dad would likely be legally required to pay child support. How stable is your mom? Keep the girlfriend, but tell your dad nothing. Certainly don’t bring any friends to your place. Make alliances with stable adults. Including parents of your friends. You may need a place to sleep. Lean on friends, but don’t bring them down with you. Here is a good mantra: “There is only today.” This is not meant for debauchery, but for getting what you have to do done.
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Thanks Roadie, that was what I was planning on doing. I do appreciate someone telling me that I’m doing the right thing.
Dads suck. Mine’s doing the passive-aggressive thing because I’m dating. Meh.
You have my sympathy.
Your father’s an ass.
I don’t understand the responses here… why is everyone so sure that jimzox’s dad is “stressed”, “having a rough time”, or, my favorite, “an ass” ? Is there some part of the original post that I did not see?
We know one-tenth of one percent of the story and everyone is so sure that dad is an unreasonable dude? How do we know that mom is not a raging alcoholic who has ripped the family apart and has just been given her last chance? How do we know that girlfriend is not a disrespectful loser who mouthed off to dad one too many times and this is the 10th time in ten days that Jimsox has come home late? If Jimsox happens to be a spoiled brat loser who could use a kick in the ass, you all are patting him on the head and telling him dads suck and maybe he should move in with his mom? How the hell do you know?
It scares the hell out of me when people dispense therapeutic advice on the strength of an OP with very, very, little information.
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Sure, she was someone’s mother, but not mine, so that made it Okay!
Well, I said maybe. My point was that we don’t know the whole story…and that’s why it could be extremely different from what he’s saying.
drpepper, dads DO often suck. I get the impression that whatever the mom is doing, it doesn’t bother the OP very much–else it would’ve been mentioned.
'sides, I felt like being sympathetic. I didn’t want to be Ms. Johnny Inquisition or whatever. There’re enough people around here who do that.
My mom is not an alcoholic, and did nothing to rip anything apart. My dad had spoken to my girlfriend maybe once or twice before.
Yeah, he’s basically a dick, or maybe stressed.
And maybe I am a spoiled brat who deserves a kick in the ass, but I don’t feel that this is right by any means.
I doubt it’s out of no where. When my dad up and left my mom this last April, it seemed sudden, but really, what “it” was had been festering for years and years.
Since when did the other side of the story have to be seen in the pit? The guy just wants a bit off cheering up.
Just because someone’s young doesn’t mean they’re wrong. Would you have doubted someone older?
Umm I mean a bit of cheering up…
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It’s just that so many other people’s rants are just taken on face value as true… why should his be any different?