This is mundane and pointless, but I have to vent. I’m so mad at my wife! She got stopped a while back and couldn’t find her proof of insurance. Yes we had insurance, but she couldn’t find the proof, so she received a ticket. She could have gotten out of the ticket for free. All she had to do was show her proof in insurance at the court house. Did she do that? NO. Did she also miss the court date for the ticket she received? YES. Was a warrant issued for “Failure to Appear?” YES.
Guess who got stopped this morning on her way to work? Yep, and they found out that she had a warrant out for her arrest. Now I get to spend my day getting her ass out of jail. I told her she better get that taken care of!
Don’t get on her case too hard. She’s prolly learning right now, the hard way, that you were right. She also is prolly not in the mood to hear “I told you so”.
You can just sit back all husbandly and smug, smiling broadly as you drive her home after bailing her ass out.
[sub]Thanks for bailing her out Ender, cause we all know that jail SUCKS![/sub]
This is one of those rare trump cards you hold on to. This is something you pull out when she starts giving you grief about something you’ve done/failed to do.
Wife: I told you to flip the burgers on the grill, now they’re medium well instead of medium!
You: Well, at least I don’t have a warrent out for my arrest for it.
She should realize the error of her ways immediately and find a way to make up for her outburst. [sub](read: felate you)[/sub]
Oh, and aenea, it’s Enright3, not Ender.
Not at all. It isn’t taking pleasure in others’ misfortune, it is taking pleasure in being proven right. There is nothing quite as satisfying as delivering a righteous “I told you so.”
And nothing quite so unsatisfying as the aftermath of having done so.
There are certainly those who, upon hearing “I told you so”, will respond with, “Yes you did, and you were right”. There aren’t many such, however. It may be that I am doing Mrs. E. an injustice in supposing her not to be one of those people. As Damon Runyon wrote, though, “The race is not always to the swift or the battle to the strong, but that’s the way to bet”.
I have to disagree with the idea of hanging on to things their SOs did as a trump card for later. If you want to remain (happily) married, anyway. Think about how you feel, or might feel, if you did something admittedly boneheaded and then it gets slapped back in your face at some undetermined later time. You’re gonna be pretty peeved. Assume she’ll feel the same. What good does it do? Sure, its human nature, but its hardly the makings of a good, mature relationship. And I sincerely doubt that fellatio would be the end result. You’ve done the right thing so far in telling us and getting it out of your system. Now you can do the sympathetic thing and trust me you’ll get much more mileage from that. If she learns from experience then chances are this won’t happen again. Maybe you can even get some it’s so good to be out of jail sex right away. You know what they say, a bush in the mouth beats your own hand. Or something like that.
No no, trump card and fellatio are definitely the way to go, hands down. She’s less likely to go for the “You were right, I was wrong” sex immediately, since her pride is freshly wounded, you know. Sheesh, do I have to spell it out for you?
I told her she owes me sex big time and many times. She agrees.
I barely had time to bail out ‘the wife’ before I picked my two daughters (ages 15 and 11) up at the airport yeterday. I was having a lot of fun with the questions from them like…
Daughter: “Mom, did you enroll me in school today?”
Mom: “No, your father did.”
Me: “That’s right kids, your mom was busy. What were you doing again honey?”
We were watching TV, and a scene came on showing a bunch of prisoners. I said to my 18 y/o son (he know what happened), “David, I think I saw your mom on T.V.”
Yeah, right, she thought we were a real hoot. I’ve been calling her My Little Convict.
By the way, here’s the final scoop. Her bail was $1,390! If she had taken care of this when she was supposed to, it would have cost only $15! Now she has another court date set, and if she misses this one the bond will be $100,000 Cash! So, while I make jokes about it, it’s a very serious matter to the City of Alpharetta, GA.
I gotta chime in on that. Costing you two almost 100 times the amount of money you could have paid if she’d been on top of things is definitely worth an “I told you so” or two. Or a hundred.
While I certainly don’t think it should be held over her head or used as a trump card in arguments, I do think saying “Well, we might have been able to afford it before you got arrested” if Mrs. E wants to make a big purchase would not be out of place.
After 13 years together (dating for eight, married for five more), my wife and I have reached an understanding: I’m usually right, but whatever happens is still my fault. We find that this covers most situations adequately.
The best strategical decision, I believe, would be to not bring it up. Forgiveness is the glue of relationships.
If you refrain yourself from bringing it up (yes, no talking OR hinting about that as you drive her home, as you have dinner, etc. - ever), she will think VERY highly of you, I can guarantee you that.
