He is 6’3", 220lbs. She is maybe 5’2", 95lbs. She beats him. This is not a joke.
This guy has been a very close friend of mine since elementary school. He has never really been one to stay with girls for very long and, to be honest, he has never been all that interested in girls beyond sex. This is only his 2nd or 3rd actual relationship.
So they met this June on a beach trip. She was engaged at the time. Within a week or two of returning from the beach she broke off the engagement and began seeing my friend. It only took me a couple of days to figure out that this girl was nothing but trouble. She immediately demanded that he stop seeing all of his friends and would get intensely angry if she found out he talked to any of us.
Within 2 weeks of the start of their relationship she started trying to talk him into getting her pregnant. Within 3 weeks she started manipulating him into buying her an engagement ring. She hit him for the first time in under a month (she thought she saw him glance at another girl in a bar, he didn’t.)
This girl is incredibly jealous of him so much as looking at or talking to another person, male or female, including his friends and even his immediate family. She constantly tries to belittle him and lower his self esteem. She acts as if she is an authority figure to him and he has to ask her permission to do ANYTHING.
When I ask him what he sees in her he just says “I love her”
I say “you always say you want an intelligent girl, is she very intelligent?”
“You always say you want a cultured girl, is she very cultured? Does she listen to good music?”
“You say you want a nice girl, who can get along with your friends, and who is a good cook. Is she any of this?”
“Then what the hell do you see in her?!!!”
“I love her.”
She is a racist and a christian. He was neither until he met her, now he is becoming both.
She literally doesn’t have a single friend and she doesn’t want him to have any either (this guy probably has more friends/acquaintances than anyone I’ve ever known in my life so keep in mind that this is a pretty drastic change for him.)
Last night he was in the car with me, leaving my house. She must’ve been hiding somewhere near my house because about a half mile down the road this car comes out of nowhere and starts approaching me from behind at an incredible speed. She was no doubt trying to ram me and would have succeeded had I not stomped on the gas. At the next redlight she jumped out of her car and started running towards us but I gassed it and turned right at the redlight. He made me stop at the next gas station so he could talk to her but she just screamed insanely at the top of her lungs, hitting him and screaming at him to get in the car. This little 95lb girl was physically intimidating him and literally chased him around the back of her car and into the passenger seat. I felt terrible for him. He looked absolutely terrified and humiliated like a puppy or a small child being reprimanded. As she sped off into traffic without looking and almost causing an accident I could still hear her screaming and see her hitting him. He had done nothing wrong. She had absolutely no reason to be angry. I talked to him later and he told me that she was doing well over 100mph (in 35 and 45mph zones) and when he asked her to please slow down she would scream “FUCK YOU!!! I WANT TO DIE!!!”
He keeps saying that everything will be ok once her marries her but I know that’s not true. I know her type and her pattern and I keep trying to tell him that it’s only going to get worse. She’s 9 weeks pregnant and she has him completely convinced that they are bonded together for life.
I saw the devil last night. I told him that if he doesn’t end this relationship then this relationship will end his life. But no matter what I say he just simply won’t listen to reason. He is like clay in her psychotic hands.
BTW, my friend and I are both hetero males so this has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy. I am just strongly against abuse in relationships and it kills me to see my friend being humiliated, abused, and manipulated like this.
So does anyone have any thoughts on this? Any helpful advice? Should I mind my own business?