In a freaking plastic cup
Now, the reason for this is my wife and I are trying to get pregnant. Whether it’s biological or bad timing is the reason we’re calling in the doctors. She has to go through something where a liquid is injected into her and then the x-ray starts. Long name I can get if anyone wants it. Parts of it sound painful, which makes this less a rant than a whine.
I got the privelege of meeting her doctor, and the doctor running the lab to count my soldiers. My fucking luck, both are really fucking hot. Talk about a buzz-kill. Or bone-kill, as it were.
So here’s what I get to do. I get to go into a room (my own home if I can get it there in an hour) and jerk off into a cup. Then I get to, YAY!, put a sticker on the cup they provided with my full name and birthdate. THEN take it to the lab and give it to whomever is at the desk! YES! I can give hard (hehe) evidence that I just masturbated! Oh fucking joy is mine!
Now, I know they get many of these every year, ain’t helping me. The only way I don’t feel like a pervert is if the person accepting it shows me the dildo she used that morning to get off. Hell, I hate when I have to give a piss test and look the person in the eye that is taking the container when I turn it over.
OK, so I guess I can handle this to find out the problem, even if it means we are shown that the only way to have a child is adoption (cross fingers that’s not the case). I’ll toss the occasional load into the shower drain if there’s a low chance of having sex that day, but nobody knows when I do it. I have to actually go off into a cup they gave me and hand it over!
So I slowed down and thought this through. I talked to my wife and she pointed out that the lab gets many “samples” every year and they look at me as a patient, instead of a masturbating machine. There, of course, may be some latent guilt that tells me they know damn well I do this more often than even I care to admit. It’s rather personal, and I prefer to not let people know about it. (Yes, I’m posting it on the SDMB, but how many of you will I see today, tomorrow or next year?)
So I’m left with 3 thoughts. The first 2:
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It’s a small town. There is a very good chance that the lab or the doctor knows me through family or friends.
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I was best man at a friends wedding whose wife is a transcriptionist for said hospital. If she gets the file, or someone she knows gets it, how the hell do I feel comfortable around her?
And finally:
There is a paper I have to fill out with my name, SSN, and birthdate asking when it was collected. No problem. How long ago collected. Again, no problem.
AND HOW COLLECTED!!! I have to circle a) masturbation or b) other, PLEASE SPECIFY.
FUCK! I can’t even lie about not tossing it off! I went so far as to call her to say I couldn’t masturbate due to religious reasons (a lie as I’ve shown earlier in the OP). She said my wife could help, as long as it wasn’t oral. So I guess I have an out there. When I asked if I could get some 80 year old doc to accept the sample to reduce embarrassment, she said they didn’t have any in the dept. But not to worry.
No, no worry, just humiliation. Now to be honest, I’d jerk off in front a Doper meeting if it meant finding out if I’m the problem. I’m starting to research adoption and the rules, just in case.
In short, I have to do probably the most humiliating, embarrassing thing I will ever do in my life next week. At best, my wife’s friend is a nurse at the hospital, and I could maybe be blinded by lust to do this while she’s in the room (no touching) and have her take it in for me. At least the euphoria would make me forget the immediate aftermath, but there is no chance of this happening. So i resign myself to utter, permanant, and incurable red-facedness.
If anyone has been through this, please, please, please help alleviate my discomfort. Even if you don’t like me.
This was going to be a Pit thread, but instead of hating the situation, I’m hoping for support from anyone who’s been through this kick to the nuts.
Thanks for your time