Talk about a small world. I live in the Richmond, VA metro area which has about 1 million people…
backstory -
Me, Cathy and Joey were best of friends. Actually Cathy was my high school girlfiend and Joey was my best bud. We all came from f*cked up families so were surrogate family to each other. Long story short Candis and I broke up, Joey became a ne’er-do-well and we all parted ways in about 1991.
Through Facebook Cathy and I reconnected. We found out Joey was in jail and very much alone in the world. We tried to reach out to him, but sadly we have been unable to be much help (but that is another story).
Cathy and I have been talking on Facebook and a few times on the phone trying to coordinate efforts to help Joey. These are our first communications in 18 years so we have done a little catching up as well. She speaks of her husband, Trey, in glowing terms…great dad, great husband, etc. She even invited me and the wife over to dinner, but that never panned out.
Fast forward to work today…
I girl I work with very infrequently emails a guy she has been seeing to schedule a lunch date. She writes “Newcrasher is going to lunch at one, so I can meet you at noon.” Now, I have a common name with an unusual spelling. He notices the spelling in her email and asks about my last name, and knows who I am. He tells her not to mention his name to me. Of course she immediately asks me how I know him, and I tell her.
The man she is seeing is Cathy’s husband. :eek:
She goes on to tell me how unhappy they are and that he has been pursuing her and they have lunch several times a week and he wants more. He is telling her that Cathy and him are about to split and that he is in love with my co-worker. She is waiting for him to leave her before getting more involved. (yeah, I know, sounds like these two losers deserve each other)
My co-worker is not on Faceboook or she would be able to see the recently uploaded pics of the family at the pumpkin patch and at their birthday party for the 8 year old. She would see his statuses such as “my wife is sexy” and the sweet messages back and forth on their walls. Not indicative of the loveless marriage he portrays to her.
So now I have this knowledge that an old friend’s husband is pursuing another woman and telling her his marriage is over. I am torn.
First of all, it is none of my business. They have 2 kids under the age of 8. Maybe he can pull this off and not get caught and that means the kids get to have both parents around for birthdays and holidays. I am a child of divorce and I know how much that would mean to me.
On the other hand, Cathy does deserve to know. I think she would want to know.
So my co-worker told him that she never mentioned my name, but he has to be about to shite his pants. He really thought these were two seperate worlds that would never be connected, and here I am messing that up.
What would you do?