Three words Don’t.get.pregnant
Given your description of the situation it’s obvious he’s going to dump you as sure as the sun rises in the morning. You might have few months left, but that’s it. You had best be making “move on” plans ASAP.
I used to frequent strip clubs. Dry humping, copping feels, mouth / nipple contact was the norm on lap dances. In some places, it wasn’t unusual at slow times for girls to come and sit in your lap rub their tits over you while hustling drinks or private dances. Some places were the look and don’t touch types, but their were plenty that weren’t either.
Or any day with a ‘y’ in it from the sound of things. I kind of think loving someone involves wanting good things for them. I see little evidence that he has any of your interests at heart. I think he really does love someone; the person he wants to get everything they wish, the one who shouldn’t be inconvenienced, the one he won’t ever put out - himself.
Abbie Carmichael, I just wanted to compliment you on your last post. At the time in my life when I could have used that wisdom, there’s no way anyone could have drilled it into my thick head, but now that I’m older I can really appreciate it.
This is gold.
This may have been covered in an earlier thread, but it sounds like he “took you in” under urgent circumstances. He may now be feeling as trapped as you are in a situation he wasn’t prepared for. I agree with The Devil’s Grandmother that moving out and getting some distance (and autonomy) can only help the relationship at this point.
As for the strip club thing, I can see where you’re coming from. My fiance went to a strip club when we were beginning to date, and told me about it later. I was completely disgusted mostly because I know that most of the things that Machetero mentioned regularly happen at the one my fiance went to (and I assume at most others, too). I admittedly overreacted to that one, but my feelings are mine and I can’t help but feel them, so even if I do trust him not to grope strange women, I was kind of hurt. But we worked through it, and all is well.
However, I don’t really understand why you’re upset about the Boys Night Out thing, so could you elaborate to make sure I’m understanding correctly? The original plan was a Boys Night Out and a birthday celebration later, right? So, they’ve nixed the birthday celebration on that particular night and retained the idea of the Boys Night Out, but with a birthday dinner instead so that you can still celebrate your boyfriend’s birthday with him. Although it’s on a smaller scale, isn’t a dinner that you’re invited to, then a Boys Night Out almost the same as a Boys Night Out and a birthday celebration, just at different times? If so, I wouldn’t get too upset about it. If it’s turning out completely different from what you planned, maybe you should just have the big birthday celebration the day before or the day after.
Either way, I think that your boyfriend is being an asshole if he works only 14 hours per week, and is doing nothing else, yet still won’t help you around the house. I mean, yeah, he would be in school if he weren’t waiting for this class, but the fact is that he’s not in school, he’s already up anyway, so why the hell can’t he take care of the laundry? And if you’re living in the same place and dating, I think that makes the place your living in both of yours, not “his environment.” If he didn’t want to share that environment 50-50, why did he let you move in in the first place? That’s just shitty.
Anyone else wondering what happened?
torie? Let us know how the talk went, ok?