Or you could pull a Monk and say that you don’t have a toilet.
Or my lie about a sleeping roommate and vicious dog. I’m just saying that our conniving Mandolin Dick deliberately used a tactic designed to fluster and get a person all tangled up between her instincts of personal safety and social graces. And managed to do so successfully.
But no doubt Tracy won’t fall for that schtick again.
I did have to deal with the puppy dog eyed ‘I have to pee’ routine on a first date with someone. I just laughed and said 'You mean that you think I’m going to let some guy I barely know into my house in the middle of the night? What are you, nuts? Go pee in the bushes.". Granted, this wasn’t in the city where it’s rude to pee just any old place. He laughed too and said that he liked smart women so he got a second date and a few more after that.
He was being manipulative and testing her, as some people mentioned above. He was able to get a response from her. Even if she was superficially negative, it was still enough of a response to continue the interaction. This is evidenced by her letting him give her a ride home, and letting him inside. The difference between mandolin guy and the flower guy is that mandolin guy chipped away at her self-esteem, testing her reactions, before she ever needed a ride. He was invoking societal pressures both at the bar (pressing drinks on people) and at her house (telling her to relax, not be so uptight) to manipulate her.
Tracy, if you been the victim of abuse in the past, this might be an emotional pattern for you. I hope this is not the case, but if it is, consider that therapy could help change your responses to behavior like his.
The single biggest reason to believe that this is what was really going on? After having time to think about it and discuss it in the thread, she thought the best way to handle the situation was to initiate contact with him to tell him to leave her alone. Most everyone else in the thread thought “why would you do that? just wait and see, then brush him off and don’t talk to him if he contacts you again.” The manipulation has her bouncing like a yo-yo to try and prove something about herself, while most people would go “WTF? He’s a jerk, I’m done with him now.”
That said, I doubt he’s a further danger if you can truly ignore him from now on. No reaction=no fun for him.
billfish678, stop being a dick. Please.
Tracy Lord, sounds like an uncomfortable experience, and I can completely understand you being creeped out by it.
My guess regarding the waiting outside is that he was hoping you’d invite him back in. Which was, from the sound of it, very very unlikely, but we males are capable of astonishing acts of self-delusion.