I need to know some one else view on this

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Today my husband reciedved a phone call from someone. They did not tell who it was. I did not pick up the phone because they clearly only wanted to addressed him. Plus I had no idea who it was. This person informed us that my husband grandmother had died and that his mother was a local phone call. They said that his mother was problely suffering and he she call and talk to her and wish her a happy Christmas.

Note: she did not call or write to tell him that she was dieing. Others were informed. SO he did not get to say good bye. We were also not informed for several days after her passing so we could not attend the services. In fact we found out by an email and the next email that had the same heading as that email was sent by mistake and to please disregaurd it. ( Like she got better) We felt that this was a message don’t come to the services.

She did not send the kids anything for CHirstmas.

She also has two other childern whom she is not very close to. She has her sister whom she is close to and other grandchildern. So I don’t see why she would be all alone.

If she had in some way informed us herself them I would encourage him to see her.

It should also be noted that my father passed away this past May and they all knew and at this time we were still okay and not one person said I am sorry for loss.

We have not been speaking for several seems this September. We have been not happy with her for the past couple of years. We several issues having to with respect and raising our kids our way ect ect…

SO my question is. Should he speak to her??

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Despite all of the issues that you have your mother-in-law, your husband should talk to her. She is probably the one who had the stranger call which was her way of reaching out. I understand that you don’t desire to have her around your children so just leave it at a phone call for now.

Haj

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It may be that she felt like your husband wouldn’t speak to her if she called. Who knows? I say call her and express your sympathies. If nothing else, it will make you and your husband the bigger person(s) in the long run.

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Yes, they’ve been snarky. They may never apologize for the wrongs you feel they committed against you.

But, ask yourself, how important is a relationship with them?

My opionion: Tender the hand of reconciliation. Demand nothing. Start anew.

If after this, they still treat you as a missing link, at least you gave it your best. And the pain will be manageable. But never truly gone. My best wishes to you…