Well, I knew all along that my family was composed of hopeless losers. But this trumps them all. I promised myself never to bring up personal problems on the Boards again, but this is just too much. I want to show just how much seething contempt I have for my family. I want to distance myself as much as possible from these couchfucks.
Two members of my family, both grandfathers, were arrested for child molestation against my two youngest cousins–a preteen girl and a grade-school-age boy. A third, my uncle, has a lot of evidence against them and I hope to God he gets arrested, too. Hell of a father to those children he was.
Add this to my stepfather, who, at age seven, stole three hundred dollars from my mother and ran away, only to come back seven years later and do about the same thing again; and my mother, who let him do that; and my biological father, who came pretty close to smashing my head in with a hammer when I was a baby; and my grandmother, who’s been married five times–you see where I’m going with this? It’s not a joke when I say that only me and my sister are the only sane members of our family.
I hope my cousins recover from this and live happy lives. The acts done to them were horrible–I won’t go into detail. I don’t even want to think about it. I hope my cousins overcome the scars inflicted and live. I hope the doers of the deed rot in prison for the rest of their wasted lives, where they won’t get any mercy once Beefy Butch finds out they were child molestors.
In conclusion, I’ll settle for justice, but I’d really rather divine retribution.
Seriously, though, I sympathize. I understand that you want to distance yourself from your family…but I hope that won’t include the cousins who were vicitimized. They’re gonna need support.
Another question: Why do you hope your uncle will be arrested?
Ahhhh. It’s kin like yours that keep Jerry Springer in business.
But seriously, all sorts of shit happens in all sorts of families. You are repeating ‘allegations’ of child abuse, but I’m assuming there has been no verdict of guilt yet. Until then, reserve some judgement of the accused. SOMETIMES people make false accusations, and while I appreciate the contempt you hold for your family, just make sure it isn’t premature OK?
The financial issues between your mum and your stepfather are, to put it bluntly, none of your business. Nor is the fact that your grandma has been married five times. The choice by your father to refrain from smashing your head in (for whatever reason) at least indicates some sort of rationality.
Heh. Your family sounds like many I have heard of.
Lodrain, I am sorry to hear about your little cousins. Something like molestation/child sexual abuse tends to run in families. If your grandfathers molested their children, odds are that their children (your uncle) will molest as well. It’s a vicious cycle and the only way to break it is for those little ones to get help, get therapy, and get the hell away from that family.
If he was still a child when the stepfather did his two appearances and then took the money and ran, it would to affect him and be his business.
He would have to deal with a traumatized mother who, at least the first time, was shocked by the disappearance and theft.
The theft may have meant he had to go without for awhile. It could have made life difficult.
Even if he was older, he still would have had the trauma of his mother to deal with, so it does affect him and thus it becomes his business.
If he knows that the uncle has evidence, I think it stands to reason he has concrete information about the molestations. Which leads me to wonder why the OP hasn’t gone to the police him/herself(didn’t want to assume gender).
Well, I’ve not met many families that aren’t fucked up in some way. Mine, there aren’t any child molesters (that I know about). But I did have a great-uncle who was a first-class slumlord in Fort Worth. Horrible, disgusting man.
Hang in there for your cousins. And avoid the rest of the bunch like the plague.
Oooh don’t feel too bad I got me one of them Jerry Springer families too
Lessee… my father is a child molester. Sorry I don’t have the arrest/conviction thing to prove it but I have 20 years of hellish memories. The molestation was not the worst thing he did to me.
I have a great uncle who was a midget wrestler and petty thief.
One aunt ‘helped’ her husband drink himself to death so she could move her boyfriend in.
There is some confusion about wether or not my half brother is really my half brother and not my uncle. I refer to him as my buncle to spare people the confusion
Another of my brothers is in jail for armed robbery. His pregnant girlfriend needed money and he just didn’t have any other options. Too bad she was pregnant with some other guy’s kid and didn’t tell him until after she’d already claimed to have given birth to his son. (She was only 5 months pregnant at the time)
Theres more but that should be enough to make most people happy they got the funky family they have Just my little public service…
On a more serious note. Allegations of child molestation will tear any family apart. No one wants to believe someone like that is in their family. Unfortunately that denial really hurts the victims. All you can do is support them as best you can and distance yourself from the people in your family whom you don’t feel comfortable being around. I understand where you are coming from about your mother and stepfather. My mother is spineless and allowed my father far too much leeway to screw up our lives. I have no respect for her and a very strained relationship with her. I have no contact with the rest of the family. This is the best thing I could do for me and my own little family. For your family I hope they find healing.
