My advice, as others have already said, is to talk to your husband. He’s acting disrespectful towards you because he has no spine where his parents are concerned. If he refuses to play ball, demand that the two of you budget separately. Separate bank accounts, separate everything. He can pay out of his half, you can enjoy your half. I doubt it would actually happen, but it may be a good way of illustrating to him the unfairness of the situation.
There’s nice, then there’s pushover. He vowed to honor and cherish you, not his parents. The sooner he realizes that the better your relationship will be.
Yeesh. Your in-laws wouldn’t happen to be named Bluth, would they?
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Sorry to get all tough love on you, but pit your husband (and probably yourself). You can cut them off any time you want. And all you have to do to stop the whining is to hang up on them.
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If your opinion about money is being disregarded by your husband, you’ve got problems bigger and closer to home than whiny, parasitic in-laws. Your problem is with your husband. I advise you to confront it head-on. Arguments about money are a major cause of marital strife and divorce.
What your husband is doing doesn’t fit my definition of “nice”. “Nice” is helping his parents paint the house when it needs it; what he’s doing is enabling them to continue negative behaviour, and it’s not good for anyone.
I read something great about standing up for yourself; part of respecting other people is not allowing them to do themselves the disservice of disrespecting you. Your husband is not helping anything with what he’s doing; he’s simply making a bad situation worse. If you extrapolate to the worst case scenario with him not giving his parents any more money, maybe they lose the house, and maybe they get a few things repossessed. Maybe they really, really need a good wake-up call to get their shit together and act like grown ups.
Pardon the hijack, but I just had to pop in and say I love the word obnoxia and plan to add it to my lexicon. Hell, it should be added to Websters and OED. 