So we go to class this week (week 7 of 10) and pregnant lady and her husband are not there. It was explained to us that her cat took very ill and is dying.
I felt a little guilty – like our bad mojo here of her flew out of the Internet and struck her cat.
I hope the cat lives. I love cats. . .
How do you know she’s not a plant?
Well, she didn’t go to class, so maybe she is leaf-ing. 
You are a bad bad man, Bosda. 
Assuming she’s not a plant (and I, too, am wondering how you know for sure) I hope, for the fetus’s sake that she told her husband “And you’ll have to clean the litter box because I’M PREGNANT! (victory fist)”
You only get to do the victory fist if you’re PREGNANT with a Labrador puppy (victory fist).
I sure hope she stops with the (victory fist) once the kid’s born and she’s holding it. :eek:
I hope there is a cat, because that’s a lousy cover story for a miscarriage.
That is very clever thinking Irishgirl.
Hopefully she’d learn a lesson about karma if that were the case. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, but damn, don’t tempt fate like that. Fate’s a bitch.
Good call. I never clean the litterbox. Can’t be too careful.
If it is a miscarriage, how could she ever show her face in your group again? If they never return my money’s on the miscarriage as the true reason for their absence.
A really, really cruel person, if she did have a miscarriage and rejoined the group, might greet her return with: “Welcome back to the adoption process (victory fist).”
That is *incredibly *mean and horrible and a terrible thing to say.
On the other hand, I have to admit I laughed.
Update? You must have had week 8 by now. How’s the…cat?
Congrats on your adoption.
Our agency would put all adoptions on hold if you got pregnant. We did get pregnant while waiting for our son to come home from South Korea, but missed the signs (hey, we were infertile, missing periods was normal!), and ended up with Baby Surprise six months after homecoming. (She is now six, he is seven - its been a while).
Our social worker really wanted us to be the “completion couple” for our agency’s workshops (the people who come in with their baby and talk about the process). However, by the time that would have been scheduled, I would have definately looked pregnant, and said I didn’t feel that was sensative, so we never got to do it.
I suggest bringing a bottle of wine to go with the espresso brownies. A nice red complements chocolate well.
Also, you might want to point out the lack of stretch marks, the lack of impact L&D will have on your sex life, the lack of urinary incontenance resulting, the lack of needing to watch what you eat. Pregnancy is a bitch - I much preferred adoption.
I’d be complaining to the faciliatator and, if no results were gotten, her supervisor. I’d also suggest that the couple do additional work, a mixed family of bio and adopted kids has its own risk factors - and the whole reason we shouldn’t have done both simultaneously is that bonding can be impacted for both.
Best of luck.
Don’t forget a couple of Dunkin’ Donuts Boxes of Joe. No decaf, though. And some Bailey’s, Sambuca, and/or Kahlua to spike it with (for those not driving, of course).
There actually are small amounts of caffeine in chocolate (“Chocolate: Food or Drug?”, Journal of the American Dietetic Association, abstract here), but obviously the popular belief that chocolate has any significant stimulant effect (beyond what you might experience from the sugar) is false. But if she ate like three pounds of cocoa, it might end up being enough caffeine to potentially have a tiny chance of hurting her baby. Theobromine has much less of a physiological effect than caffeine - if it has any at all - but if you absolutely gorged yourself on chocolate, I suppose there’s some tiny chance it could affect fetal development. Has anyone actually studied the influence of theobromine on pregnancy? Given the relatively small effect of caffeine, it’s probably not significant at all, but you can’t take it for granted.
YWalker: Fire Engine is, strictly speaking, wrong in her assertion that chocolate is caffeine free. But the amount of caffeine in chocolate is indeed miniscule; popular misconceptions that chocolate is a major source of caffeine may well have been responsible for those recommendations (along with our cultural tendency to vastly exaggerate minor or non-existent risks to fetuses. Consider, for instance, the number of people who think it’s necessary to avoid even the smallest amount of alcohol during pregnancy.)
I guess recommending the OP bring a nice vanilla-mifepristone torte to the next class would be evil. So I won’t do it. But it’d be sort of funny, in an utterly wicked way.
Psst, Exy, see post #55.
Fuck. I think I forgot to read the second page of the thread before replying. So, uh, I’m stupid . . .