My friend (I’ll call her K.) had an affair, left her husband, and plans to move to another state (leaving her young daughter behind with shell-shocked dad) to be with her new lover. The new lover (I’ll call him P.) has a wife and kids and he’s still living with them (although he has allegedly told his wife that he’s in love with K., but plans to take a year to “acclimate” his children to the idea of him leaving them – seriously, a year. And then he’ll leave his family to be with L.).
K. plans to rent an apartment near P.'s house, work from home, and maybe her daughter will come out to live with her next year for the new school year.
K. has been a tiny bit insufferable these past few months – she’s confused as to why her husband now hates her (“He called me a cunt, can you believe it?!” Yes, yes I can.). All she does is talk about her new lover and how amazing he is. She doesn’t care about anything going on in anyone else’s life – it’s all about her.
Her friends have all slowly deserted her. People don’t invite her to parties anymore, because all she does is talk about her lover and ask people why her husband hates her so much. She says her daughter is “psyched” to move away from the home and family she’s always known to live in an apartment in a strange state hundreds of miles away.
Last week, she texted me and two other friends that she would like to see us for dinner before she moves at the end of the month…and she wants to introduce us to P., who happens to be in town.
The two other friends declined. One of those friends told me she declined because 1) she had no desire to meet P., and 2) she thinks K. has gone crazy and wants to back away from the whole thing. I’m pretty sure that’s why the other friend declined too.
So I am going by myself. :smack: I sooooo do not want to meet P., because he sounds like a douche, but K. and I have been friends a long time and I want to see her off. This dinner is going to suck. P. has already told K. that he was all of her friends to like him, and he’ll do anything to make that happen. Ugh. I don’t want to be friends with this guy. I don’t want to condone their relationship. I also don’t want to preach to her, 'cause she ain’t changing her mind based on anything I say.
All I can say is, he’d better pay for dinner.