In most states, I suspect you’d be required to report this appropriately as a “child in need of services” or some such similiar thing. Failure to report may be a crime.
There’s little doubt that reporting it will create problems for someone. However, not reporting it could very well also create problems. I think the best thing you can do is turn the problem over to the people who are specifically trained to deal with situations like this, and hope they do the right thing.
Cybersex? 
[sub]Sorry. I absolutely could not resist.[/sub]
How did this turn out?
Granted 12 years old is pretty young to be getting pregnant, but I don’t feel that if she had consensual sex with a 12 year old boy, that it’s rape.
Pretty much every legislative body in America disagrees with you. Rightly or wrongly, they have passed laws that make it a crime for children under a certain age to have sex. While the “age of consent” varies from place to place, I doubt you’ll find any state that thinks 12 is acceptable.
So if a 12 year old boy has sex with a 12 year old girl, then they raped each other? 
So was the kid pregnant or not?
Yes.
Under the law of every state where I’ve known the law, sex with a 12 year old is statutory rape. A child that age is considered too young to give consent under any circumstances.
If it’s two children doing the deed prosecution would be unusual (counseling would be a more likely outcome) , but it could happen in theory.
Depending on circumstances, the parents (of either party) might also wind up in court.
In that case (not the counseling outcome), then that would be the biggest waste of time and money I have ever seen.
Back on topic, I’ve seen statistics that claim that girls who become pregnant at a young age are more likely to have been impregnated by a male 3 or more years older than them. Has anyone else heard this? This is such a shit situation no matter what, but at least if she has a boyfriend we know to look outside her own family to find the father.
Broomstick, that is completely opposite of everything I’ve read or been told. My understanding was that it was not statutory rape until one of the participants was 18 or over.
Not in Canada. Our “Romeo and Juliet” law takes into account the relative ages of the kids involved, at least if they’re between 12 and 14.
And if both kids are under 12, they can’t be prosecuted for any crime at all under Canadian law.
I’ve heard it’s very different in most American states.
And may I add in my own little IMHO here? It’s unfortunate that legal pressure has pushed a teacher with an established relationship with someone from looking into issues regarding their personal well-being. This 12 year old has a world of strangers that she could turn to for help (doctors, counselors, CPS, hotlines, etc.) but she hasn’t chosen to avail herself to them. She has maybe three or four teachers that see her for hours, five days a week, and they might be the only people she knows that she can trust and turn to, especially if the father is within her family. From my rather poor impressions of most school counselors, I don’t feel that a “trained professsional” like them are necessarily a lower stress or more productive option for this student.
Here’s hoping that she turns out alright.
It totally depends on what state you’re in.
In WV, for example, the age of consent is 16. And it’s not referred to as “statutory rape,” it’s varying degrees of sexual assault.
1st Degree sexual assault would be if a 14 year old (or older) had sex with someone age 11 or younger.
3rd Degree sexual assault means that someone 16 or over had sex with someone 4 years or younger – and that someone has to be under the age of 16.
So it would appear that the State of WV gets extremely pissed off if one of the parties is younger than 12.
However, if a 16 year old boy sleeps with his 14 year old girlfriend, he couldn’t be prosecuted for anything AFAICT, even though she’s not of the age of consent.
If a 20 year old guy slept with a 15 year old, though, not OK.
Which is kind of weird if you think about it. In the first scenario, we’ve got a 14 year old having sex and we’re not going to do anything to her partner. We will, however, nail the guy in the second scenario even though he’s sleeping with someone older than the girl in the first scenario. Basically the state is contradicting itself: the age of consent is 16, but if you ignore that we won’t nail whoever’s nailing you provided they meet certain age requirements.
I guess they figure the greater the age gap between the two parties, the more likely that the older person has some kind of control over the younger?
So going back to the situation in the OP, someone getting a 12 year old pregnant may not be considered statutory rape – if a 15 year turned out to be the father, he’d probably be off the hook as far as any criminal charges go.