Well, I find out today that she posted an “apology” in her journal. It actually amounted to more like “Jesus, I am so sorry. Oh, and if by some accident I happened to hurt anyone else, I’m sorry for that too…” and “Ah, well. I’m not perfect, but I am forgiven, so all is well.” I guess B and I missed the part where we forgave her.
I had a nice big long post written up and then the computer froze, which I guess is for the best since I have more productive things to do with my time than get pissed at a girl who clearly does not care much for either me or B at this point.
I have no idea what this whole thing is about, other than what is posted in this thread. I think I do have an idea about this though. I bet she’s not talking about you & B at all. I bet she’s talking about how (she thinks) Jesus has forgiven her. :rolleyes:
I have no idea what you guys are talking about and it’s none of my business anyway…but I’m sorry someone you thought was a friend hurt you. That never feels good.
That’s what stuck in my craw. She said “Oh I’m sorry for doing anything that might make me look like a bad Christian. I’m not perfect but I am forgiven!” All the while she was saying she was sorry for the “gossip and telling the truth to those who didn’t need to know”. See, she knows what she did but she can’t be bothered to make a formal apology to either one of us. As long as Jesus loves her screw the people she sinned against!
She’s only in it for the image really. She said she was sorry for doing something that might make her look like a bad Christian. She didn’t say she was sorry for being a bad Christian or acting in an unChristian manner. See, that would involve admitting that she fucked up instead of her being the hapless Christian who did something completely innocent that for some reason came across as a bad thing to someone else.
Really, if I had known she was this apathetic about our friendship then I would’ve stopped being her friend a long time ago and save her the trouble putting those nails in her wrists. I can imagine what a pain in the ass that might be.
Why don’t you rephrase the first two paragraphs of your most recent post, fizzlestothetop, and e-mail it to her? Along with some of punha’s words. Let her know in her own words how she’s wronged you, and your veiwpoint on it. It may shock her into straightening up. Maybe… Possibly… There’s an outside chance?
I actually did email her this morning. I’ve wanted to do so for a while yet but I thought the risk of starting to really rail against her would be too great.
So, this morning, when I was still peaceful enough not to be able to work up a proper ire, I emailed her. The crux of the email:
"If your recent entry was an attempt at an apology to us, it is not accepted. In order for it to be accepted you have to acknowledge what you did, rather than issuing a blanket ‘oh, if I happen to have hurt anyone, sorry…’
“If, on the other hand, you still have no apology, that aspect of your character would have been good to know about before B met you.”
Zalabi, I have thought of that as a possibility, but the odds that she would turn it into Everyone’s Attacking The Poor Christian Woe Is Me is far too great. I doubt she’d take it to heart so much as she’d just retreat into that (EATPC) and her whole “oh well, whatever’s God’s will” stance, which seems to be her response to anything requiring her to question her own failures.
She didn’t comment on my first entry about her, and she hasn’t commented on the second that I know of. I wonder if there will be a response to the email or if she will continue to ignore us.
Sorry, my friend. I can almost guarantee that the e-mail is going to have her climbing back up on the cross in a “into Everyone’s Attacking The Poor Christian Woe Is Me” stance, if she in any way fits some of the evangelicals I’ve known. I’m going through something of the same sort elsewhere.
I hope I’m wrong. But I doubt it.
(BTW, e-mail received – and I’m too depressed to respond right at the moment. I will, later.)
Well, if it does have that effect, then at least we won’t have wasted any more time with her. And we won’t find out at a later, more pressing time … like, say, if she were part of the wedding party and decided to do something icky then.
Re: email, get to it whenever you feel up to it. It’s not of earth-shattering importance, and beside that your mental health is a lot more important to me than the subject of that email.
Be well, and don’t forget that as much as some of us have turned to you as a source of Christian love, even those of us who ain’t Christian have two shoulders for you:)
