Yeah, I don’t see a good analogy either. But it would bother me, a lot.
Dealbreaker, I’m not sure but it would at minimum, take some getting over.
If I’m in an exclusive relationship it doesn’t matter if my partner cheats on me with a stripper or a non-stripper.
Anyone have broken links or search strings to look at these videos with? I’m pretty dubious.
As for my partner going down on some guy at a drunken party . . . I don’t know. It would obviously be a dealbreaker in a great number of situations but I can also see myself forgiving them, though being a little touchy and resentful for a while.
In what universe does a guy paying a chick to grind on him until he cums equal a chick paying a guy to suck his penis? :dubious:
If I were at a bachelorette party and paid the stripper to hump/fondle/kiss/caress me until I came, yes I’m sure my boyfriend would have a major problem with it.
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It’s real, in that, the women are really fellating the male strippers, and sometimes engaging in intercourse, but fake, in that, selected women from the audience are paid to perform said sexual acts on the strippers.
If you watch the videos, of the 60 or so women in the audience, only about 5 or 6 approach the strippers to perform fellatio or have intercourse with them. The rest just standby and watch. You’ll also notice none of the strippers initiate anything with the women. It’s the selected paid women who do the initiating.
I’d leave her. An exclusive relationship means she doesn’t have any business touching a penis other than mine, just as I don’t have any business touching any other woman’s erogenous zones. The fact that it was a stripper and friends were telling her to do it is irrelevant.
This would be a dealbreaker (just like the other scenario in the thread would even though they aren’t comparable). Those of you that are okay with it, are you not concerned with diseases? At least in the videos I have seen they are never wearing condoms and can’t precum get you the same diseases that an ending would? So it’s not completely innocent fun even if you don’t necessarily mind your SO fellating another man.
False analogy. Those are not even close. If he wrapped his arms around her and she was kissing his chest and nipples ,you would be ballpark.
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Ex male dancer here. Yes, it does happen. Not as much at reputable places but bachelorette parties can get a little out of hand. Yes, women pay to do that.
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I’m with you. First off, I can’t even imagine my wife EVER doing this, no matter how drunk she got or how much her friends were egging her on. That’s just not the kind of person she is. Secondly, it would be such a massive betrayal of how we both understand our marriage that my mind boggles. Third, who knows what nasty-ass STDs she’d be exposed to? Ugh. Just… ugh.
I think if someone did a search for Loverboys they would turn up videos that are more like what is being asked about.
To answer the question I think it would be a deal breaker. Or at least a deal we really need to discuss where we are going’er. I don’t think this scenario is a apples to apples comparison though, I think if the wife had gone to a bachelorette party sucked on the male strippers nipples and been dry humped to orgasm would be an equivalent analogy.
I can see how what the husband in question did at his bachelor party could be a deal breaker also.
I know exactly what videos you are talking about. They’re fake (though I can’t prove it).
Yeah. I’d definitely be situational for me. If it’s all in fun with a night out with the ladies I don’t think I would react too strongly. Now if she took him in back and blew him to completion there would be a problem.
Some specific videos of these acts may be fake, but women going down on male strippers and various other sexual activities is absolutely, one hundred percent real. I haven’t personally engaged in this behavior, but my friends have. (No, really.)
It happens. Some women will pay money to suck dick. They aren’t even necessarily women who really get off on performing fellatio. I don’t understand it, but it happens.
And if my girlfriend (or boyfriend, since my lover’s apparently bisexual in this scenario) was performing fellatio on strippers, well, unless we had an agreement beforehand it would either be the end of the relationship or the start of the mother of all fights.
Absolutely. Yes, in some clubs they do have lapdances and some guys can “get off” that way. But I have never seen a club where a guy gets to touch the dancer in any intimate areas (that would be covered by a bikini) or suck a girls nipple. Not that I doubt they exist somewhere. But they aren’t common.
“The girls” (with male strippers) do get away with much more intimate touching than men do.
Yes and that was all I was trying to say; in the few utube thingies I’ve seen of this, the guy is pretty heavily coated with whipped cream (or something, whatever) and the actual mouth to genital contact is very limited. The woman providing the contact is usually giggling and all disbelieving at her own daring. The other women in the pictures are pointing and giggling; trying to work up the nerve to give it a shot themselves. It’s a virtualy meaningless situation so why get all worked up about it? I’ve dated women who would have done it and women who wouldn’t; I don’t think my Darling Marcie would do it but she isn’t particularly predictable and that is a big part of her charm; she might do it today but not tomorrow and so forth. A Stepford Wife she definitely isn’t. One think I know for sure is that if I had sexual contact with a female stripper, Marcie would have to be present and thoroughly into the scene. But she and I are both ex-hippies and we still have a lot of hippie in us and that, to our thinking, is NOT a bad thing.
Meh. Few seconds of fellatio, just to be entertaining? I’d be mad but I never said “Don’t do that” and I think it’s too gray for her to assume it on her own. I’d get over it.
I suppose it really depends on your relationship but I don’t see how performing fellatio on someone other than the significant other falls into a gray area in most relationships.
I went to a friends soon to be BIL’s bachelor party and the fiance had an excellent rule to cover this. “No bodily orifices.” As long as nothing entered any bodily orifice everything was OK. That would have made, even “a few seconds of”, felatio off limits. The nipple in the mouth would be out of bounds also.
It’d be a dealbreaker. We’ve had conversations about exclusivity, and what that means to us. We drew a line in the sand, and that line is “look, but don’t touch”.