The closest analogy to what he did is a woman sucking a male strippers penis at all male shows, and if you doubt it happens with some regularity there are plenty of videos on the web to disabuse you of that notion. Just like men you generally have a group of tanked up girlfriends taunting a woman on her 4th mojito to suckle the ripped male strippers big bobbing penis… and surprisingly often she does just that for a few seconds to a half minute or so before he pops it out and moves on.
If your little darling came home and said she had done this, or it got back to you that this had happened, is it just “girls night out” and you need to get over it or is it a bigger deal? After all, she was drunk, it was a big, hard cock … and hey you told her you were cool with her going.
Women pay men to do that?:eek: The surprise is they pay to do it, not that they do it. Since I don’t support guys that do this at stag parties, I don’t support women that do this either.
I don’t know what videos they are referring to, but women are usually FAR worse than men at a strip club. I’ve been to male strip shows with a few bachelorette parties and some women LOSE THEIR MINDS. There is definitely a lot of grabbing of the penis, kissing (with tongue) and gyrating on the girl with ze cawk.
I haven’t seen actual fellatio, but I have no doubt it could go on.
Well, ick. First of all, nipple:nipple analogy is better than nipple : penis.
But, let’s say the nipple : penis analogy is true, then yes, I think he’d be shocked and ticked off if he saw a video of me fellating another man. Of course, I’d be pretty shocked, too, because I have never been so drunk that sucking a strange man’s dick seemed an enjoyable prospect. Nor have I ever been in a venue where such a thing would happen.
But if I did, would it be a deal breaker? Nah. More than anything it would be a wake-up call for me to quit drinking.
Interesting that no one has actually answered the question yet.
My first angry thought would be “This bitch is going to give me a blowjob every day for the rest of my life, or I’m gone”, but upon rationality returning to the brain…
Scarey stuff those hen nights. A hen night group came into the local a while ago - they had a blow up male doll with the grooms face stuck to the front of it and they were putting it through all kinds of motions … I always wondered how that marriage turned out.
If my SO is fellating strippers to fulfill some desire that’s not being met at home, I need to step up my game. However, I am MORE THAN HAPPY to allow her to fellate me if that’s what she needs. It’s the least I can do.
If she brought the guy home and announced she had a new pet, I might take a jaundiced view of the situation. If it was just good, clean, fun, then what the hell difference should it make?
Not quite. If he had performed cunnilingus on the stripper, you’d have a point. Since he didn’t, I don’t see the equivalence.
I would also point out that it’s the rare strip club indeed where men are allowed to even touch a stripper’s genitals, let alone behave the way that women apparently do with male strippers.
This is not any kind of bangbus or faked crap. These are large room commercial strip clubs with women all the way for 21 to 70ish getting their squealing freak on for a parade of ripped male strippers with large dicks. The strippers even carry towels for girls that want some “privacy” while suckling him. Some of the more involved/drunker women seem determined to show their girlfriends that they have some serious skills.
Call me old fashioned (and you’d be the first), but a blowjob is not “good clean fun” when it’s happening with someone other than the person you’re supposed to be in a monogamous relationship with.
Would it be okay if he *wasn’t *a stripper?
ETA that I’ve been to both male and female strip clubs, and while I concede that the girls get a little more handsy, I’ve never seen any fellatio going on. Of course, I’ve never seen anyone come from a lapdance either, so maybe I’m just not paying enough attention.
Ex male dancer here. Yes, it does happen. Not as much at reputable places but bachelorette parties can get a little out of hand. Yes, women pay to do that.
Oh, kinda hard to compare. I’m a guy. I’m seven months pregnant and crying over everything. I tell my wife to go with her friends and have a good time. Then she comes home and tells me all about her good time. Then I say “okay” then cry some more.
I honestly don’t know how to relate to that. I really don’t.
I’m a gay guy and if I tell my male SO he can go out and have a good time as long as he doesn’t fall in love or bring home an STD I’d be an asshole for crying about how he had a good time but didn’t fall in love or bring home an STD.
I sure as hell am not going to tell my male SO to go out and have fun then cry because he actually went out and had fun. That just doesn’t track.
I’m seven months pregnant and crying over everything. He probably needs to get away from me. I’m a mess. It’s not like babying me over a three-day cold.
As I understand the thing with male strippers, if it happens at all, it is usually if not always for only a very few seconds and it results from being egged on by the other drunken women in attendance. I’m very skeptical that it happens at all, actually. And if it did, for a few seconds, then yes, I can see it being just good, clean fun. And, obviously no, it wouldn’t be okay if he wasn’t a stripper but if he wasn’t, I doubt I’d ever know about it.
And I’d be the last to call you old fashioned because I am firmly against the labeling of people.
Hmmm…I had never considered this scenario, and I don’t think that the analogy is very good between the two threads but, if there were no other reasons for me to think there was anything wrong in the relationship, and it was just a matter of her getting drunk and a little out of hand, I don’t think I would particularly care. Mind you, it’s not behavior I would necessarily like for her to engage in on a regular basis, but I don’t see why it should bother me.
Currently single, but I imagine I would be very hurt and upset, but that it wouldn’t be a deal-breaker. After some time to recover, I’m sure I’d shrug it off as a drunken mistake. Now, if she had told me beforehand what she was going to do, and I had agreed to it… I might even learn to think it’s kinky, but being blindsided by it like that? That would feel like major betrayal.