OK, this might be the first post of mine on the boards where I actually open up my heart and let you peop see my vulnerable side… It’s just that I had to pour my heart out to someone about this - and what better place than here???
So, it feels my life is over.
Well, I guess I just broke off with my girlfriend over the phone. I saw it coming, but still - I didn’t think it would come to this.
OK, some background info:
I recently moved from Sweden to Japan, sort of on a whim; I have history and some connections (+ parts of my family) here so I thought I could get a job here and work for a while. Plus I was deadly tired of my dead-end job back home.
A little over three months ago I met a girl here; a wonderful Japanese girl who had been living overseas (Australia) for about 10 years; so she was very international, spoke great English, etc, etc,etc. She had been married before though (btw, I haven’t) and was actually finalizing her divorce at this moment. Anyway, we have spent the last three months seeing each other every available moment and it’s been great. However, she feels that Japan is very limiting to her and she hates how women are treated in the Japanese workplace, so there’s always been plans of going back to Australia in the back of her mind. However, until very recently, those have been very distant - since she was very happy with me.
So, the other day, she says she’s gotten a huge job opportunity back in Australia that she most probably cannot turn down. She says that for her own peace of mind she need to go back to Australia where the working environment is easier than here in Japan. So today she got the final call, she got the job - and she’s leaving in a month.
Well, you can imagine how I feel about this… I think it is terrible. However, since I at the moment am not too happy about work and life in general here; I suggested that we take some time apart, and then in a while when we’ve been apart; maybe she can move back here (if the job doesn’t work out), or, I could move down to Australia.
But she says ‘no’ - she’s not ready for a more serious relationship at this moment - plus she doesn’t want to bear the responsibility of my moving to yet another foreign unknown country.
So right now I feel pretty bad. Things felt so GREAT and I was actually seriously thinking giving up Japan and moving to Australia in the near future, for her sake. Sure, I know it’s early to be thinking like that - but I’m a flexible guy and it’s not that we would get married. If it didn’t work out in Australia; no big harm - I could always go back to Japan, or even Sweden.
Well, that was my long post… and I kinda wonder if I had a point to this or if I just wanted to whine… Well, if any of you wise people have any suggestions on how to deal with this - be my guest and post away. Should I just accept it, shut up, pipe down and get over her, just like that?