"I'm a ____." What self-descriptions, fairly or unfairly, immed. make you think, "yeah, right"?

Wha? I wasn’t talking about concealing anything. Why would I say I’m queer if I wanted to hide that fact? That makes no sense at all.

I mean, you QUOTED where I said it happened as often as your needed to say “I’m straight” in conversation, so I’m not sure where you got the idea that saying “I’m straight” or “I’m queer” was all about disguising your orientation.

Guess my first post on the subject WAS invisible. :stuck_out_tongue:

Same here…over the course of my life I’ve had as many, if not more, close (and totally platonic) male friends than female ones.

I do say that I “get along better with guys” in general - most of my work life for going on forty years has been in male-dominated fields - but I’d never say “I don’t know why.” I do know. :slight_smile:

I know it’s been mentioned already but “I’m a writer” is irritating coming from someone who runs a blog, is forever working on an unpublished book, or has written a few things for content sites such as the old eHow or Yahoo Answers or Ezine or some other dismal website.

“Conceal” was a poor choice of words. “Decline to discuss,” perhaps. Saying “I’m queer” isn’t disguising anything, but it doesn’t really explain much, either. Which in your case is the goal, or so I gather.

I now humbly withdraw from the queer hijack.

Do you think that’s fair or unfair?

No one else seems to have commented on this one – why would this fact generally cause a “yeah, right?” It’s been a while since I’ve seen a “so how long has it been for you” thread but I wasn’t alone, and wasn’t the winner (although I have a respectably pitiable number). Is it because you think that it isn’t something someone would admit if it were true?

No, it’s because mostly it means “I couldn’t get laid at a bricklayer’s convention.”

Not always, of course. But if you’re playing the odds…

Maybe a more direct “I’m saving myself for marriage” would get a more obvious “yeah, right.”

“I love (any kind of music I find unlistenable).”
I’m not saying there are not people that truly like that kind of music but I’m skeptical until they demonstrate some knowledge of the genre or I inspect thier music collection.

I used to work with a lady that out of nowhere one day stated “I love opera.” Being a little dubious right off the bat I asked what her favorite opera was. Waffle-y answer lacking in actual opera titles. So, feeling a little mean I asked if she could name any operas. Nope. She loved it though!
Yeah, right.

“I’m not a racist, but…”.

This one is a favorite amongst racists.

“I’m a girl gamer” tends to make me raise an eyebrow. WAITWAITWAIT, before you lynch me, hear me out.

It depends on context, in certain contexts (e.g. discussion of gender differences in gaming culture), qualifying that you’re a “girl” or “female” gamer makes sense. That’s fine, perfectly appropriate. I’m talking about the people you meet who self-describe as a “girl gamer” when asked about their hobbies, or just style themselves "girl gamer"s apropos of nothing.

You see, there’s this funny thing I’ve noticed. Real female gamers tend not to identify as “girl gamers”, but rather as simply “gamers”, or just say “I like video games.” What I’ve noticed about “girl gamers” is that they tend to want cookies for being girls, and are rarely gamers in any appreciable sense and are basically just trying to look cool or get attention. The phrase is used to be “>>>GIRL<<< (give me attention please) gamer.” And when you press them on the actual “gaming” part of the thing, you usually get some hemming and hawing about how they’ve played Mario and Tetris and then they usually start referencing some overused, beaten to death gaming meme, like “The cake is a lie!!! haha =^_^= :stuck_out_tongue: :p”.

Trust me, it’s not that I don’t think girls can’t be gamers, they’re actually pretty common. It’s that that I find that the term “girl gamer” is a lot like “Nice Guy”, the descriptor doesn’t often apply and is usually a cheap attempt to get cookies for something unremarkable. Obviously there are some self-described “girl gamers” who are truly gamers, but they still tend to emphasize the “girl” part to get cookies (or drum up support for their blog/youtube channel/whatever. Ah, marketing), in my experience.

“I’m spontaneous” usually means: “I have no tact whatsoever”.

“I’m just honest” usually means they are tactless and unsocialized and think their right to say whatever pops in their head matters more than what anyone else is feeling or needing at the moment.

Your response actually highlights why it’s an eyeroll for me. Celibacy is choosing to abstain from sex, usually for spiritual reasons (hence the term “vow of celibacy.”). Most people saying it mean “I haven’t gotten laid in a while, but would do so given the opportunity.” It’s the difference between someone who doesn’t drink alcohol and someone who hasn’t gone to the liquor store yet.

Because someone asked. Say you’re in the Pride Parade, and someone asks “oh, so you’re a lesbian?” “No, I’m queer” is a perfectly fine response; so would “yep” or “no, I’m bi” or “actually I’m trans” if they happened to apply. Or someone asks in a context where the question doesn’t even make any bloody sense, or they’re jumping to conclussions in a several-miles-long parabola (“oh, you’re not married? I didn’t know you were a lesbian!” “… guess you watch a lot of nun porn…”).

Kaio’s message is perfectly clear for me. Queer is not an ambiguous term at all.

I have absolutely no idea what that response means, and I say that as someone who’s spent a fair time hanging out with LGBT activists.

I think that’s the point.

A nurse. Let me explain…one of my friends is a medical assistant, but her family and boyfriend describe her as a nurse. I have also been in a doctors office where an office staff person told me the nurse would talk to me, for a medical assistant. If I was a registered nurse I would feel sort of sold short…medical assistants are very valuable, but they dont have the education or qualifications of a nurse.

It means they’re pulling an “Ellen” where they’ve decided who they sleep with is the most important thing about them, but hey, don’t talk about it. I’ll be so glad when being gay is no longer a lifestyle, and just another data point. Of course, first everyone else has to stop making such a big deal, so it’ll be a while…

Okay, I must admit that some of these posts riled up some insecurities, but other than my own issues it has been a very interesting read. Here are my contributions:

“I’m a person who understands or knows something the majority of people in the world do not.”
“Yeah, right!”

(This thread, message board/forum/website, and our planet is rife with this. I am rife with this. And all I can say to the lot of us is, “Yeah, right!”).

“I am more intelligent than the average person, especially all those people who happen to disagree with me.”
“Yeah, right!”

(Again, another statement that many of us have uttered every now and then)

“I’m a good Christian.”
“Yeah, right!”
(Basically: I don’t question what is fed to me by my pastor and OH YEAH I am going to hate people for no good reason and YEAH I go to church and say all the obligatory phrases YOU THINK I should say and did you see my nice dress/suit, this is just how much I love the lord)

“I’m down to earth.”
“Yeah, right!”
(Basically: I’m generic and unable to accept my eccentricities, so they get buried under a plaster of mundane)

“I am honest.”
“Yeah, right!”

[Definition: I like to say really mean things and get away with it (I have a bad habit of doing this, sometimes to the point of being pointlessly mean, but the difference being ((or so I tell myself, pah)) that I actually see “Truth” as the highest moral good — making it a core philosophy of mine)]

“I always act like myself/how I want to act and never any different.”
“Yeah, right!”
(yet gender socialization got me gooood)
((Aside: I believe consistency of personality is an illusion; I should start a thread about that))

“I don’t care about looks.”
“Yeah, right!”
(Means: I am unable to accept the natural processes within my body that causes attraction and so I defer it into some philosophical debate about who swims in the deep end – yet somehow there is never anyone who I can find in the world – oh woe is me – if only I dated all those people I didn’t like based solely on looks but wasn’t able to admit that to myself – thereby necessitating self-delusion – like that time I made up such and such personality flaw to get away from that one person – oh woe is me – PAH)

So now that I have said bitter and mean stuff like the rest of you, I can die happy. :cool:

Ok, whatever. I’m clearly not hip enough to get it.