LilMiss had a friend over Saturday afternoon. Nice girl. I sat in the living room with her mom talking about life in general. It was a good conversation. Emo comes home, nattering continues. Then the phone rings. It’s the Ex#2, mother of LilMiss’s 5 year old sister. We chat for a minute, I hand Emo the phone.
"WHAT THE FUCK? THAT MOTHERFUCKER BETTER BE IN JAIL OR I’M GONNA KILL HIM!" I have never heard so painful of a wail.
I look at the other Mom, not knowing what to say. Go into the kitchen, Emo is sobbing, can barely hold himself up or speak. Go back out into the living room, state that we should reschedule the play date. “What happened?” I have no idea. Other Mom obviously doesn’t want to leave now that something interesting was happening. Emo gets off the phone, I go back into the kitchen to see what was up.
LilMiss’s sister had been repeatedly molested by a neighbor. Ex#2 walked in on it. Cops get called, pedophile is now in jail. Emo composes himself, comes back into the living room and apologizes to the other Mom for his outburst. I again state that we should cancel the play date. Emo says No, it’s okay, he’s going to his girlfriends house. LilMiss comes out, asks what’s wrong, Emo and I say we’ll talk about it later and he leaves. LilMiss continues to play and conversation with the Mom continues, although I won’t explain what was going on. It’s not her business.
Issue #1 Were I at someone’s house and shit like this happened, I wouldn’t wait for someone to ask me to leave, I’d pardon ourselves and go. And if someone TELLS you that you would rather not discuss it, you should fucking DROP it.
Later that night Emo calls. Turns out Ex#2 had been told by pedos’ roommate NOT to leave the child with pedo. She was told he has control problems with children, but was getting help for it and “seemed to have come a long way”. Fucker is a Level 1 sex offender. I know that can mean many things. But the fact is, he’s an offender and she was told not to leave her child with him. Subsequently discovered part of his parole is that he’s not supposed to be near ANY minor child.
Issue #2 WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU LEAVE YOUR CHILD WITH SOMEONE YOU KNEW WAS A SEX OFFENDER??? I don’t care if he’s “come a long way”, you JUST DON’T DO IT!
Then (Oh Lawd) Emo’s girlfriend appropriates the phone. She of the repeatedly threatening suicide because Emo doesn’t love her the way she loves him, she of the giving me a sex toy catalog in front of his family intimating that I needed a ‘toy’ to make me less cranky, she who is not allowed in my house due to threats of violence, and she who is just too flaky for words wants to talk about it to me. Why? Because she knows about it. She’s an expert. WE (Emo, her, and I - hunh?) need to get LilMiss into counseling stat. WE (again, Emo, her and I - hunh?) also need counseling stat. I apologized, stating I didn’t know she also was survivor of molestation. She’s not. She just knows about it. I stated that I would talk to LilMiss about it and if it’s warranted, Emo and I would deal with it. “No, YOU need it too. YOU don’t know what it’s like”. WTF? “What don’t I know?” “What it’s like!” “What WHAT’s LIKE?” “Being molested”. Uh, you just said you didn’t know yourself. Guess she missed the “also”.
Issue #3 Don’t presume to have a fucking clue when you don’t. Twat.
She’s still going on about how Emo will now (obviously) get custody of the child, how could he not? Well, he has no permanent residence, isn’t working, and stated that while he loves his children he knows he doesn’t have the ability to be the prime caregiver. That’s okay, Emo and child can live with her as one big happy family and Ex#2 can move far away to be with her family. May I say WTF again? Psycho much? Convo turns back to therapy and her stating she really needs it to work through this situation. FYI, Ex#2 doesn’t allow child over there for same reasons LilMiss is not allowed. As a result the girlfriend has seen the child 3-4x in the past 6 months. BUT it’s all about her. I comment that while what happened is horrendous, the only positive I can come up with is that she’s young enough where in 10 years it will be a vague memory. Oh hell. Stupid assed thing to say. I will NEVER know what it’s like. Why am I so stupid? How can I be so callous? Emo gets back on the phone after it’s apparent his girlfriend is spiraling out of control with hatred for me. Why did I have to talk to her? Turns out she took the phone from him to console me during this horrible time. Uh. Sure?
Okay. So we know that Ex#2 is a stupid heifer to leave her child with someone who was KNOWN to be an offender. She’s killing herself with guilt. Let’s not even get into that whole Good Touch/Bad Touch lack of teaching. The girlfriend knows everything about the situation and what it’s like without actually, you know, knowing anything. Emo is a man ready to explode. Luckily he starts therapy next week. He doesn’t know who to be angrier at - Ex#2 or the pedo. He’s also terrified that Ex#2 is going to pack up and move across the country to be with her family. We’ve talked to LilMiss and she knows if she wants help we’ll get it for her. Her sister doesn’t really know what’s going on. She dealt with numerous police, doctors, and psychologists with aplomb, and for that I am soooo proud of her. She knows the “bad guy” is gone and won’t be back around, but is confused as to how her friend became a “bad guy”. And me? I’m a wretched cunt without a lick of feeling, according to others.
*Issue #4 Being essentially an observer in all of this, why am I expected to froth at the mouth and get all het up? Why is it not acceptable to stay apart from the drama? Is there some societal norm I’m supposed to follow when in this sitation? *
I want to rail. I want to scream. But who does that benefit? No one. And for that I’m an unfeeling cunt.
