*I think one of my sweetest memories is when my husband would hold my hand when we were first courting and his hand would be all clammy because he was nervous. *
The Future Mr. MercyStreet was very nervous when I was a passenger in his car. Later he said it was The Girl Effect. It didn’t help when we were sitting at a traffic signal and I cracked, “We have right on green here in Jersey.”
I’m so happy for you. Can’t wait to hear how it goes. I think she’s probably as interested in you as you are in her. Have fun! 
It’s 6:30 and I just got home from the mall myself. Dying to find out how your outing went with the nice lady.
I went to the mall today with my soon to be ex-husband. The control freak inside of me wanted to make sure he got his immediate family members a decent gift this year. And proper supplies to wrap (well, cheated, we got all bags and tissue paper).
Hope it went great, please give us as many details as possible!
I was never able to get her on the phone. I don’t know what happened. I called around 10 times between 2:00-7:00 but each time the line was either busy, no one picked up, or I’d get a message saying the cell phone service wasn’t available at the time. I left a message around 2:30, so she had plenty of time to call me back. I know I had the right number due to the message on the answering machine. At 4:00 I had to leave to take my mom to work since her car broke down, and then she wanted me to stop by and help my grandma with a few things. Me and her have conflicting personalities, and she’s a terrible perfectionist that agnozies over keeping everything in her house perfectly clean, adjusted, matching, and as organized as possible.
Because of her old age, she now expects other people to agonize over these things for her. I love my grandma, and try to help her as much as my patience allows, but I despise spenting so much time on something so frivilous, esspecialy since it never seems to be good enough in the end, and even more so when I’m in a hurry. My patience was just about extinguished before I spent the 20 minutes pushing her couch and coffee tale back and forth by a few inches to make sure they were lined up just right. She asked what I thought of helping her clean and “straighten house”, and I told her I thought a lot of the problems she sees are in her head, and that spending so much time moving things inch by inch really isn’t worth the time. Not the first time I, or another member of the family, has told her this. Well, she ended up in tears about an hour later, and I had to apologize profusely for a good while.
There seems to be a pattern of trying to form a relationship with someone, and ending up chipping away at an old one here. I drove back home, checked my messages to see if anything new was left, and tried calling her again a few times. I did need to go Christmas shopping wether or not I had someone with me, and decided to leave at 7:00. Anything later than that, and there wouldn’t even be enough time to have fun with someone else.
She didn’t pick up, I did a little shopping by myself, but was too disorienated to really think much and drove home after buying a paperback copy of Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas for a friend, a Christmas TV Special boxset for my sister, and the ROTK EE DVD for myself.
Naturally, I want an explantion, and I’m pretty perturbed.
Aw crap JoeSki.
Sorry, that does suck. Sit back and enjoy your new DVD.
And grandma thinks you’re a gem, I’m sure she knows she’s a pain in the butt. That or she’s nuttier than a fruit cake. 
Wishing you and your family a great holiday season.
I am totally hanging out to hear the next development… so please let us all know.
Seems to me you totally had her on board when you asked her out (based on your post describing it), so its probably too soon to be too worried. There was the business of having to wait for the computer guy to come around - might’ve had something to do with it.
Good luck, dude!
Very odd.
Question: How was her demeanor when she gave you her #?
If everything went as you stated, I would think that she was telling the truth. Did she hesitate at all in giving her number? The only thing I can think of is that maybe she gave you her number so as to not embarrass you in front of your coworkers.
Well, regardless, it’ll be interesting to see how this plays out. Just some minor advice though, if you mention to her that you called but no one answerd, don’t say that you called “ten” times; you only called twice. You want to come across as having more to do than just trying to get a hold of her.
Yeah this could be a factor. Some women just give up numbers when asked w/o hesitation never really putting their heart and soul into it. They just do it because they don’t know how else to handle the situation. Sorry if this is true, I have no idea.
There can be a billion reasons for this. Number one, and most likely, could be the computer. She may have only a modem connection, which would make the phone busy. Who knows? Don’t freak out. Call her once today.
Instead of being angry, like “Where were you yesterday???” instead, say: “I was worried. I couldn’t get a hold of you all day. Was something wrong?”
I had my hopes up for you, too. This is very depressing. However, it’s very likely that she has a reasonable explanation for this. Don’t assume anything. Ask her out again when you get a hold of her.
I wouldn’t assume anything. Things come up, she had the computer issue. Chalk it up to bad timing and go for plan B.
Call her again. Leave a message if you have to but I wouldn’t even mention the missed date. But that’s just me.
Ja, what they said. Don’t give up. She had computer issues.
“Remember, I’m pulling for you. We’re all in this together.”
And thanks for sucking me in - we need updates.
I’m in the process of the enjoying ROTK goodness as I type .
Yeah, she’s a nut; the whole family knows it. There’s been an ongoing arguement as to wether she’s actually senile, or simply pretends to be senile to get her way. My mom and sister think she’s just getting old, me, a good family friend, and my aunt swears that we’ve heard her say something to indicate otherwise at one time or another, and she’s just being manipulative. No one can prove either possibility to be true.
Thanks again. You have a jolly ol’ holiday yourself .
Well, her demeanor seemed cheery enough. She was a bit suprised I suppose, but plesantly so. She was the first person to suggest she give me her number, and before I knew it she was looking for a piece of paper to write it down on. And like I said before, there was a smile afterword.
And I have no plans on mentioning how many times I called…was ten a bit much? I suppose it may be, but I was in no mood for games. I wanted to get her on the phone, dagnabit.
Not very a comfortable though.
I believe she’s using a cell phone. I worked all day today, so calling her was out of the question.
I’m annoyed, and a little depressed she didn’t call back, but I’m not about to jump to conclusions either.
Did we discuss a plan B?
After work I headed to the bakery department. Didn’t see her. I needed to stroll over to Wal-Mart to have a watch adjusted, buy something for dinner at the cash registers, and was considering trying to help my Grandma again. But I turned my head before doing all this just to make sure she wasn’t there since it seemed odd that not only was she not in the bakery, but no one else for that matter. While I was doing this she walked out from behind a roll tray thing.
“Hey! I called yesterday but I didn’t get an answer. Were you busy.”
It may have been my imagination but she seemed almost…alarmed at first. Just for a split second. But then she put on a big smile:
“You called me too late. You called around 5:00, and I was at work all day long. I didn’t get out of here untill 11:00!”
“Oh, ok”
And then a customer needed her assistence, and I needed to run.
Bad timing sounds about right. I’m a night owl myself. I really don’t know what’s normal for people. I feel more comfortable being called at 2:00am than say, 11:00am. Otherwise, I would have called earlier than 2:00pm. I just assumed she had the day off since she said yes. Maybe she got called in? I don’t know.
This puts me back at square one with the whole “planning a day out” thing doesn’t it?
But you know shes open to the idea, and thats the biggest hurdle. For me at least. Try asking her directly what day would work for her. Confidence = good.
Egad. My last update wasn’t very well written. Sorry about that, I had been invited to a get together my brother was going to and was trying to finish the post in a hurry. My previous posts didn’t have great spelling either, but I try to keep the writing creative and accurate. My last post had a terrible amount of errors.
Over the phone or in person? An in person conversation is proving to be very difficult, but phone conversations always feel impersonal. Should I briefly mention why I’m taking an interest in her?
And finally, can someone see how many times a person has called them with a cell phone?
I really need to ask for her aim screenname; assuming she has one. I come across much more witty and interesting on aim for some reason. I like having the extra time to construct a well worded sentence without the presence of a akward silence.
Oh, it’s a cell phone? Yeah, she totally knows how many times you called, unless it was off, then she has no idea.
Regardless, I unfortunately think things are looking pretty bleak (though I hope I’m wrong). What girl doesn’t have her cell phone on her 24/7? Also, the cell phone would display and archive your phone number, so she could have called back at any time. Though again, on the off-chance that she didn’t have her cell phone turned on, you may still be in luck, but I honestly think things aren’t looking that way.
Also, assuming that I’m correct, don’t worry about it. So what if you don’t date her. She’s only one of many available girls.
The more you worry about this, the worse you’ll feel. Take it in stride and don’t let the outcome of this bother you. Take it from me =)
Did it happen in that order? If so, then she was certainly ignoring you. You see, if you got a busy signal, then she wouldn’t have known that you called, then when you finally did get through, she saw a number she didn’t recognize and likely chose not to answer, then she finally turned off her phone, hence the phone not being available message.
Again though, this is just my analysis based on the details you gave. I could (hopefully) be completely wrong.
Damn this girl!
First, I’m all anxious reading this thread. Then, as things progress, and people are telling stories about their sweeties, and hand-holding, and phone numbers are being given out, I find myself all warm and glassy-eyed. And now–just, DAMN!
Don’t give up yet, though. If she’s not the one, there’s always the next one. Don’t worry about that. Consider yourself a man though. You took the bull by the horns, and did what you had to do.
But with or without her: in a year, five years, 10 years from now, you will be a better person for asking her when you did. You might not realize this now, but in a year, two years and 10 years from now, you will. I guarantee it. Never second guess.
Happy
^ Yeah, what he said.
Dang, I just re-read my previous post, and it really knocks the ol’ Cliche-o-Meter off the hook.
But hey, Cliches: There’s something to 'em.