No, MGibson, she’s not an alcoholic, but she was a heavy drinker, and she’s been diagnosed with a very serious degenerative liver disease. If she keeps drinking, SHE IS GOING TO DIE. She’s only had four days to get used to the idea that she can never drink again, which isn’t nearly enough time to break the habit, and her desire to drink is still very strong. Keeping beer in the fridge right now is tempting her do something that will kill her. If bighusband doesn’t understand this fact, he’s a moron who needs to be slapped upside the head with a clue-by-four. If he does understand and just thinks his convenience is more important than helping to save his wife’s life, then he’s a grade-A shitheel.
Long enough to be over the grouchy irritable part 
How does the OP’s husband get excused?
He should have said “Sorry dear, that was bloody stupid of me. Lets split the last of the 6-pack (I’m sure it won’t kill you) and then this will become a dry house. Amen sister.”
If I knew something was going to kill me I wouldn’t drink it no matter how much I loved it. Who needs help to avoid drinking poison? I could see how an alcoholic might need help but as you said this isn’t the case.
Marc
And it might not be at least marginally easier to not drink the stuff if it wasn’t sitting right there in front of you every single time you went into the kitchen? It wouldn’t make the transition at all smoother if you didn’t have to stand there staring at it, thinking, “No, mustn’t think of the wonderful, luscious beer. Must think of my liver”? She can never drink again, just like a recovering alcoholic, and right now staying away from the stuff is every bit as hard as it is for an alkie just starting to dry out. You wouldn’t tempt someone fighting an addiction, so why would you tempt someone fighting for her life?
I’m obviously in the minority here, and may get flamed as such, but I think she was being petty. “Are you trying to tempt me on purpose?” sounds inflammatory and uncalled for.
Biggirl, you are going to be seeing alcohol for the rest of your life. Best get used to it.
Give her more than 4 days and she probably CAN.
Some of you all seem like you’d be real jackasses to your spouses.
No, she was not being petty.
She will be seeing alcohol for the rest of her life. And eventually, it might not tempt her anymore. After 4 days, it’s sure as fuck gonna be pretty tempting.
You don’t need help not drinking poison right now, but then you don’t have friends and family who drink poison right in front of you. You’re not already “an admitted and unrepentant heavy drinker” of poison. Nobody’s sticking a 6-pack of antifreeze in your fridge.
It’s not like she’s on a diet and he brought home a cheesecake. IMHO, the first few days after you find out that you have hepatitis, petty isn’t a word I can apply to you. Her life just changed.
~M
I don’t know if I would have said petty in response, but I do think Biggirl was being an ass from the start. And then the husband was an ass as well.
She took the situation and instantly turned it into an attack by her husband on her. Yes, it may have been thoughtless but unless she honestly feels her husband hopes her dead it was also unwarranted.
Instead of talking she attacked, instead of responding he retaliated.
I wouldn’t miss alcohol too badly but I sure as hell would miss sugar. If my doctor diagnosed me with diabetes and told me that sugar was now verboten, I’m picturing my reaction to Mr. Pundit bringing home a box of Krispy Kremes…
Wow. I have an amazingly vivid and violent imagination.
Mr. Biggirl (Bigboy?) should be shopping at jewelry stores today if he had a lick of sense.
Sorry about the diagnosis, Biggirl.
Why is it that you’ve never said this to me? What am I, the Amazing Carnac? It’s not like I hit the stuff very often- in fact, I still have some beer from this summer. Like half a case worth. It wouldn’t hurt me to get rid of it.
Geez, you need to tell me these things, goof. 
Now mind you… I haven’t kept a significant other in years because I am a selfish lout who thinks only of himself and wants to be free to drink and womanize and stay out all night (not to mention I have two good hands and access to porn).
Got that everyone? I think only of me!
But not even I am thick-headed enough to bring home a sixer and respond like BG’s hubby did.
And amazingly enough, there are those among you who can rationalize his behavior?
shuffles away flabbergasted
Ooh, Biggirl, that’s terrible.
Heck, when I started doing low-carb, I kept apologizing to my husband for bringing meat home. He was eating low-fat at the time.
I still despise the husband of a friend of mine. She was a heavy smoker and when she found out she was pregnant she decided to stop smoking. He would light up a cigarette and stand over her, blowing smoke in her face, saying things like, “Doesn’t that smell good? Don’t you want one?” I hated that man. Grr.
Julie
Or, of course, it could be the more likely situation that he was genuinely clueless and was knocked off balance, and thus on the defensive by, what he percieved as an accusation from his wife.
It would be considerate got him to not bring booze into the house knowing that it will be hell for Biggirl having it there and not being able to drink it.
Very likely, this didn’t occur to him until it was too late, and Biggirl’s reaction to that (understandable though it is) set him on the defensive.
Biggirl deserves support here, but that doesn’t include unfairly pillorying her husband for being thoughtless once.
Of course, if he keeps bringing in beer after all this, he is being a petty git. The best way to prevent that from happening would be for Biggirl to step back and calmly explain to her husband why she doesn’t want beer in the house. ‘Calmly’ is the important word, to prevent putting him on the defensive again, and making it worse.
Exactly. Which is why the Pit saved my marraige last night. Instead of calling him all kinds of MFers and SOBs, I came here to vent. Because I was really, really mad at him last night. Experience has shown that it is better for me not to talk to him when I’m that angry.
Peace has been restored.
BG,
Sorry to hear the bad news. I wondered why you weren't at Blondie's.
Good. I was about to ask where Houseman was being waked.
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Sounds pretty unreasonable to me. Guy wants a beer, brings a sixer home and has the occasional beer. What’s the big deal. If she was an alcoholic, that might be different.
I somehow resist the urge to drink Coca-Cola or other sugary drinks and snacks when I’m around them.
As I said, no matter how good I thought beer tasted I wouldn’t drink it if it would kill me. I guess I’m just one of those people who doesn’t expect everyone else in my house to cater to my own particular needs.
Marc
Well, I’m gonna weigh in on this one, as unpopular as my opinion might be. I was hoping someone else would say what I’m thinking, but apparently most of your replies have been supportive when they shouldn’t be.
Minimally, you’re PMSing bigtime. He’s not TAUNTING you; he’s keeping his beer cold in HIS fridge. He’s not rubbing it in your face, taking a sip saying, “Mmmm Nothing like a cold beer!” It sounds like you have an alcohol problem, BigGirl. And it sounds like you expect those around you to pretend it’s not there, which fits the situation.
I love beer as much as the average Canadian ~ I drink it several times a week. But if it came down to hepatitis, I wouldn’t even think about it.
Kinda the same as I like smoking. If the doctor told me I was pregnant tomorrow, I don’t give a shit what kind of withdrawls I’m having, I would quit smoking. And I don’t buy the crap about it doing more harm to my baby by stressing me out to quit than to keep smoking. But if someone smoked in my presence, I wouldn’t blame them for tempting and taunting me.
Tempting you on PURPOSE? YOU are the one with hepatitis, not him. YOU are the one who has the responsibility to act accordingly. It’s not up to him to quit drinking because you can’t. If you were more honest with him about your “problem”, he may have acted differently. But since you want to sweep it under the carpet, don’t expect him to do differently.
I would venture to say that if you were in AA, he wouldn’t bring beer into the house. And if he did, he wouldn’t call you petty for bitching about it.
Step up to the plate and stop displacing the anger you feel towards yourself onto your husband. He’s far from a bastard. He has no clue what you’re going through because you haven’t even admitted it to yourself.
I’m going to have to join in with the masses calling Biggirl’s husband an inconsiderate jerk in this instance. Why? Simply because he. Is. Her. HUSBAND.
If we were talking about a roommate or even a friend forgetting and bringing a six-pack back to the fridge, I’d say she was going overboard. You’d think, however, that someone who loved Biggirl enough to agree to spend the rest of his life with her would stop for seven seconds and consider that his wife has just had a major, non-negociable lifestyle change dropped on her lap and that hey, maybe he could forego beer for a whole week and give his wife at least that much time to adjust to the idea that she will never be able to drink again before having to confront the reality of it in her own home. Barring that, you think he’d at least have the good grace to just admit that he forgot (it is a new situation for him as well, after all) instead of turning around and trying to make Biggirl look like the inconsiderate one.
Is Biggirl’s husband the one who can’t drink? No, he’s the one who, so far as he knows, can drink for the rest of his life and, therefore, can afford to spend at least a little time sans beer to a) make this time a little easier for his wife and b) maybe discuss the situation with her a bit so that they can come to some kind of compromise. He shouldn’t have to spend the rest of his life tip-toeing around the subject or sneaking beers on the back stoop, but he could show a little sensitivity. Frankly, the “hey, it’s not HIS problem!” defense that I see being posted is the kind of self-centered bull I could see causing major problems in a friendship, let alone a marriage. It shows an apalling lack of empathy towards a person that he is supposed to care about! What would be the proper thing to do if Biggirl’s husband injured himself and had some trouble moving around after? Suppose he had severe difficulty getting to his feet, negotiating stairs, and reaching for objects on high shelves. Would it be acceptable for Biggirl to leave him to deal with the situation as best he could because she’s the mobile one and it’s not her problem? I don’t see her situation as any different, except that it was a bit of emotional support she needed, not physical.
Suzene