BTW - Getting the police involved is IMHO a pretty stupid idea at this time. You got into a little fight and now feel the need to have the entire city police force looking into your situation? I don’t suggest you mention police at all to this person because THAT WILL MOST LIKELY turn things very ugly against you. If you were worried about someone knowing ‘who dun it’ if something happened to you what about your GF, his dad, etc? You can easily confide in someone for a peace of mind without turning this into an FBI manhunt. Look to people in a gang a fight is really a silly thing that happens quite often. The worst thing you can do is overreact to it and make it out to more than it is. Maybe it meant a lot to you but to this guy I’m thinking it didn’t really mean that much he probably sees a lot of fights.
You sound like a peaceful person who doesn’t want any more problems so make sure you make this point known to the parties involved. Then from now on I suggest you BOTH stay away from her brother and anywhere you might come in contact him. Obviously bad things happen when the 2 of them come together and you are only compelled to get involved. Why should you continue to let them be near to each other and also yourself be near to the scene for it to continue? Remove him from your lives or at the very least minimize the frequency of visits. You are on the right path here get the woman some REAL self defense training. IN the future she should be able to take care of herself and if he does this again, let her kick his ass and you can save yourself the emberrasment of getting involved.
Is this about the hair? It’s about the hair isn’t it?
Geez Anal, I am so sorry, this is not a fun place to be. Years ago, I tangled with some Spartans (they are what became the HA here). Living in fear was no fun.
Now that a couple of days have passed is it any better? If it’s still bad, I’ll do some brainstorming and see if I can think of anywhere you can stay. Email me if you need to.
So, have you talked to this guy again? Beaten his ass like he deserves?
That was honestly some amazing restraint. I’m a pretty calm guy but if I see a girl getting slapped around I go bat-shit insane. My ex-girlfriend has a brother who smacked her around and was in a Mexican gang and you still have to do what you have to do.
Good Luck, man. Let me know if you have to stay in Dallas.
To those that said to just talk to the guy: With normal people I’d say go for it but people like that it might not be a good idea. There is a chance that you’ll be able to handle things with words but there’s a bigger chance that it will make things worse (he could still be pissed and packing)
Rules for dealing with Asshats like the brother:
1: Don’t get involved
2: If you have to brake rule 1, keep your head down and lay low.
Good luck to you, man. Are you sure there’s no way to at least get a temporary protection order, or something?
Sometimes, if you go to the prosecutor’s office or domestic violence unit (does your girlfriend live with her brother?), you can get more than what the police offer you on the spot.
I speak from experience on this point. Feel free to e-mail me if you’d like.
With the plethora of feedback you’ve already received Anal Scurvy, I have nothing of real relevance to add in the advice department.
However, I hope that over the course of the last day you and your GF have been make some more sense out of this bizarre situation. Regarding you and your GF, sometimes high stress situations like this bring two people closer because they are faced with the reality of who is really next to them when times get tough. This much I know. I’ve been there too. We’re sending out well wishes and prayers to ya both. I’ll probably be in the 'peg sometime over the next few weeks. I know it doesn’t help the immediate situation, but if ya wanna have coffee, I’d be glad to meet up next time I’m there.
I’ll also mention this for the sake of being obvious: If you truly fear for your safety, be careful about how much detail you post on this board regarding where you go (longterm), where you are, what you do, your intentions (you know, location tracing details) etc… nickname or no, you really don’t know if the wrong eyes are seeing this stuff. The Angel ‘Network’ is diverse.
But please keep us updated as you are safely able to.
Anal Scurvy , if your girlfriend doesn’t feel comfortable staying with you, I’m sure that there is a woman’s shelter/domestic violence shelter in your city that she could stay at for a bit. It wouldn’t be glamourous but at least it would be safer than her home is.
Okay, here’s what happened yesterday. Early in the morning there was an hour after her brother had to leave for work and before her mother left. My girlfriend opted not to go then, needing to work up some courage.
At four in the othernoon, there’s another hour where her mother is getting home and her brother won’t be home for another hour. This is when we went.
We go to her house, but don’t stop because her brother’s car is there. She calls her mom and finds out that her brother didn’t go to work because he’s waiting for her. This is when she called for a police escort (which showed up many hours later).
Once her brother found out there was to be police involved, he totally flipped. He got out of the house until he was sure that my girlfriend and the cops had already come and gone.
Now I don’ know what he’s been doing for the last little while, but apparently police presence leaves him stricken. No one counted on this and my girlfriend feels that we’re probably going to be safe as long as we play this sudden power with some tact.
Oh, yeah, and her father called her for the first time after the whole incident went down, asking her not to press charges because he didn’t want to see his son in trouble. What an ass. He’s dying of cancer, he already views it as punishment for a life of terrible deeds, you think he’d take his nothing-to-lose situation and try to atone in some way.
Maybe you should just get out of the area for a while. Like, if at all possible move. Gangs are not a good idea to get mixed-up with and they’ll never understand why you hurt their guy, all they’ll care about is beating your ass for it. Seriously, get out and get out soon. Aren’t police so incompetant? Jeez. You should be protected right now and you’re not “priority.” Bull crap. Yes, good thoughts are with you and check in soon.
I realize you’re in Canada, so I don’t think it’d be as easy for you, but if I were in the same situation, I’d get a carry permit and start packing heat everywhere I went…if the cops can’t protect me, I’m going to make damn sure I can protect me.
