I'm in love with a woman far away (am i a fool)

I have been reunited with a woman from my past, of some twenty years ago,we have been in constant contact via the telephone for almost a year, over that time i fell in love with her, and her I. we have yet to be in each others physical pressence. we have exchanged pictures of each other, though hers were a bit dated, i know it will sound hasty, but we have made plans to be together in the future, to try and have a life with each other. I care about this woman a great deal, i do find her actractive and i’m not to shabby myself, yet the chemistry that i’ve always heard about that two people can share is usualy felt when your in that persons prescence, am i nuts or what for comitting myself to her prematurely. what do you think?

Follow your heart, be true to yourself, all the bullshit, and you’ll do okay.

My best friend met and fell in love with a woman over the 'net. They are now happily married. It can have a happy ending.

I had a relationship like that. Two years, separated by more than a thousand miles. No internet, just letters and the phone. Right now, she’s in the other room, getting ready for the big drive for Thanksgiving dinner. We’ve been married for six and a half years.

So don’t worry about whether it’s crazy. If it’s right, you’ll know.

As you point out, you’ll get a good guide to chemistry when you meet. If there is none, well maybe you have been “optimistic” but that’s as bad as it gets. I got back together with someone a few years ago after years apart and it is going fine.

Play it as it comes and have fun.

Ahh, that sounds great. Two lonely Wookies, meeting up and getting together.
Well, worst case scenario, if you do meet her and things don’t work out, you can always still be friends. (on Kashyyk)

… sorry, couldn’t resist…

You’ll know when you meet face to face. For three months I spoke by email and phone with a man who lived 1000 miles away. We finally decided to meet in person and whoa…

Two and a half years later, we’re househunting and planning his move to Texas. We’ll be married sometime next year. Our face-to-face meeting confirmed the connection we felt on the phone - we both describe it as finally… you’re home!

Best wishes to you.

Mrs. Mercotan and I were HS sweethearts, and we stayed in touch thru college tho over 800 miles apart. It was stressful at times, quite painful at times, as we went back and forth between “being in a relationship” and “just being friends”.

But we’ve been married for over 20 years now. So for us at least, it worked out.

The worst thing you could do would be nothing. If you do nothing, you’ll doom yourself to wondering for the rest of your life, “What if?”

Go see her. If you are meant to be, it will work out.

You should definitely meet her and see where it goes. I know a lot of people on this thread have success stories, and of course, it can work out. But it doesn’t always, and not to be a downer, but most often, it doesn’t. For your own sake, I advise you to moderate your hopes, just so that you don’t suffer the crushing agony of disappointment. Not that you won’t anyway if it doesn’t work out, nor that disappointment is inevitable, but prepare yourself for the possibility.

For fairness in disclosure: I had a long-distance thing for 2 years, and when we were finally together… ffffttthhhh. Yep. Took two more years to be completely extricated from that, and it definitely changed my worldview permanently. Be careful, that’s the sum of my adivce. Even if things work out, I don’t think you’ll regret walking softly at first.