Not in the sense of being tearful, but in the sense of just being completely apathetic. I just can’t remember the last time I had any real fun. Everything bores me. Everything’s an effort. It used to be, I’d get up, get ready for work, and head out. Now, it’s like:
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Wake up
Hit snooze five times
Get up
Walk to bathroom
Turn on shower
Get towel
Clean razor
Apply shaving foam
Shave top lip, chin, throat
Apply toothpaste
Brush teeth
Step in shower, apply soap etc…
Dry off
Find pants
Find shirt
Find socks
Find tie
Find cufflinks
Get ID card
Get keys
Get wallet
Go downstairs
Get bowl
Get spoon
Get milk
Get cereal
Pour cereal into bowl
Add milk
Eat breakfast
Go to work
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Desperately tedious, I know, but I want to try and put you in my head. This is how I view everything now, as an endless series of boring, boring chores.
I’m becoming more and more introverted because I’m losing interest in people. I don’t show it. I’m good at pretending to be sociable, even when I’m not feeling it, but I’m much more easily annoyed than I used to be, even a few months ago. My best friends, people I’ve known for years, seem to be barely real anymore, like they’ve had all the colour and joi de vivre sucked out of them.
I’ll give you an example: I was at a reunion with some old Uni friends a few months ago. Haven’t seen then for a year. Used to be my best friends. I should have been looking forward to it, instead it felt like an obligation. And after spending the day with them I felt, rather than any spirit of fraternity, or even the comforting glow of nostalgia, nothing so much as smouldering contempt. Why was I ever friends with these people? They’re so trite, so banal, so gallingly middle-class with their stupid gossip and their unfunny jokes and their fatuous non-problems. Their small talk makes me want to gouge my eyes out. Their aspirations aren’t worth having. They have no highs or lows, no good stories, no philosophy. Their opinions are unsophisticated. They just…exist, in a sort of weird, lucwarm stasis.
I have no reason for feeling this way. My disgust (and it is disgust) is completely disproportionate. And it’s not just them. The sight of people having fun actively irritates me. Right now my housemate is having a party. I’m not joining in. I dont want to be sociable tonight. I can hear them downstairs and I think “What a bunch of cretins. Drunk, loud, boorish, probably couldn’t have an intelligent conversation if their lives depended on it and would probably cut their throats before they tried”.
Now this isn’t true. They’re nice people. I’ve got no reason for feeling this way. I mean, yeah, they’re talking utter shit but it’s a party, that’s what people do.
I’m just so BORED. With them, with myself, with everything.
Now, I’ve long been an anxious person. No stranger to panic attacks. I don’t drink for that reason, and meds don’t work. It seems nowadays the only thing which breaks up the ennui is the odd short, sharp burst of unreasoning panic. Great fun, especially on the train home. Between my anxiety and malaise I hardly end up doing anything.
I originally thought I couldn’t be depressed because I don’t really feel sad, just bored. But as I type this I think I could be wrong. Depressed literally means flat, and that’s how I feel. Flat as a pancake.
Are there any other dopers in the same boat? How do you deal?