Honestly, I haven’t felt this bad in years. I feel like I don’t have enough time for everybody that is close to me, and I hate juggling my schedule to fit everybody in, because it just doesn’t work. I do believe that this feeling will pass, but right now, I can’t look at myself in the mirror.
Some pertent background information, I’m about a month into college, and I’m still having a bit of a time adjusting to things.
I’m not really looking for anybody to make me feel better, I just really felt the need to vent, and nobody seems to be home that I call.
Sometimes change will do that to you. Other times, change is really exciting. I think a lot of the difference has to do with how you’re looking at things at the moment.
I find that as small a thing as just going outside for a walk or a bike ride often maes a difference for me.
Maybe you’ll find something that works for you pretty soon. Here’s looking at you, kid.
Thanks, NoClueBoy. Yes, those things help for a little while, but then I seem to slip back into this feeling. I’ve had it at least a little ever since moving up here, but tonight, it’s almost overpowering. I’ve never dealt with change well, I don’t really know why I have so many problems. Right now, though, I’m really missing being a senior in high school.
Well, don’t under-estimate it or think it’s “weird” – going to college is a big change, and it’s perfectly normal for it to be depressing. I know I had a really tough time my first few months at college, and I haven’t spoken to anyone who didn’t.
And there’s nothing wrong with you for having trouble juggling your schedule either. It happens to everyone. And although it may not seem like it, the people who are really close to you understand when you don’t have time for them. If they’re trying to get in touch with you and you don’t have time, it’s not supposed to be just another added stress – they just like you and are trying to help. They’ll still be there for you when you’ve got everything worked out.
It’s easier to say than to do, but: don’t let it get you down. It’ll all pass, even if it doesn’t seem like it now. You’ve just got to find the balance, and things are rough until you find that balance.
Just remember: it gets better. And everybody goes through it.
Thanks, Sol, I think that’s a lot of what I needed to hear. I’m probably feeling stressed in areas I don’t need to be. It just seems like I’m trying to shove so much into a weekend. I guess I shouldn’t complain, because I’m going to college so close to home and get to go home basically whenever I want (I restrain myself, though, to hopefully help me transition), and that’s a real luxery at this college, especially. I am feeling a lot better as of right now, but still down. Thank you for everybody’s support, on here and AIM.
I have three really bad, tough years ahead of me and have been more depressed lately than I’ve ever been–with excellent reasons. I’ve learned two things:
Distract yourself with little pleasures. Good book, ice cream, silly TV shows, whatever.
Valium does not work unless taken with an OTC sleeping pill.
Well, I’m not on any sort of medication (though I’ve thought about it before), and I’m getting better at learning the little pleasures of life. So, maybe I’m not in such bad shape.
I’m in largely the same situation (I’m three weeks into my freshman year of college). I’ve been alternating between “getting by” and “I wanna go home,” with the latter being much more prevalent. I feel overwhelmed by the changes, classes (high school or college) always depress me, I’m terribly homesick and I haven’t really made any friends. I’ve been calling home every few days just to stay sane, but whenever I call I start tearing up. I won’t see any of my family until Thanksgiving, most likely, and then only for a few days. I guess that’s what I get for going two thousand miles away.
I haven’t been off campus for several days because I don’t know what to do off-campus. I stay in the dorm and use the internet or I go read somewhere on the campus. My first real test in any of my classes is this week and I can’t concentrate on studying because I’m worrying about everything. I did talk on the phone to a friend of mine from high school earlier today, which was wonderful while it lasted, but now I’m longing for home even more because I talked to her. I don’t know how I’m going to make it through this semester.
Yeah, I watched that game. It helped to see the big three really clicking in the second half. Just for an update, I’m feeling much better today. Just a weak moment, I suppose.
When I started college, I got seriously down for a while. Here I’d been all excited to go to college, and I felt really out of place and dumb and just disoriented. I stuck with it, worked at meeting people, and I felt a lot better after a while.
It’s almost like going to a foreign country, in that you’re suddenly living your life in an entirely different way, and you’re stressed out from dealing with all the changes. Going “home” after class is still stressful because it’s not really home to you (yet). Be sure to be social when you can, and find something comforting/fun that you can do to boost your spirits.
You got to watch? I had to settle for ticker-like updates and Chris Berman’s summary of the day’s games. I woulda enjoyed watching the whole of the second half, at least, especially the continued emergence of Reggie Wayne.
Well, I don’t remember where you live (Atlanta, maybe?), but I do remember it’s a good ways from Indy, where as I’m about a half hour away or so. This area is Colts crazy, trust me. Whenever anybody brings up the possibility of the Colts moving to LA, there is a serious public uproar.
It’s been brought up, because the Colts wanted a new stadium, and the city wasn’t going to build it. I think they’ve finally come to an agreement to build one a little south of the RCA Dome. Or so the Indy Star says.
When I moved away to go to school, I was miserable for…let’s see if I can remember…right…two freakin’ years! I hated where I lived. I hated the school. I made a few friends, but not many.
Looking back now, I realized that I did all of it to myself. I let myself be negative and didn’t look for all of the wonderful opportunities to meet new people. I didn’t partake and I didn’t reach for new limits and new adventures. I really let myself down.
I’ve never really had a medicatable problem, in that I’m rather a cheery and optimistic individual. If you have some other things going on where that is actually a viable option, then my advice certainly may not be of assistance. However, if you’re just miserable because of all the change and whatnot, I say, get the hell out there and do something about it. Join someting. Join anything (not a cult). Talk to anyone and everyone. Chances are, there’s plenty of others going through your same issues. Once ya’ll find each other, it goes away pretty quickly.
