There is this girl that I noticed right away. She has a certain quality that just strikes me as stunning (though in my own warped way of being stunning) Anyways, at first I thought she worked in my building, but it turns out she is only here for training.
I attempted to talk to her in the lunchroom for breakfast, and while we managed a few exchanges, she needed to go, as did I. I was trying to find her at lunch, to chat some more, but I didn’t see her.
I am off for the rest of the week, and I know I have to do something. At the risk of looking like a little schoolboy, I scribbled a quick note and put it on her car windshield explaining that I enjoyed our chat, and would like to talk some more.
Either I will seem a) harmlessly intriguing, b) pathetic, or c) a stalker.
Did I do the right thing? I still have time to pull the note.
Well, it depends as much on her personality as it does on your actions. I mean, some actions–such as chasing her around with your severed finger, crying, “Every time you go, you must take a piece of me with you!”–are creepy, and others can be sweet at best, and innocuous, at worst.
So I’d say that unless she’s had previous stalker experiences which have left her paranoid, or unless you did some creepy thing at breakfast, you’re OK.
I just hope you’re a decent speller–I once got a note on my car from an admirer, which said that I was very “ellegante”. :smack:
I believe that I used proper grammer, punctuation and spelling. I wish I could have written a bit more to make the scenerio more intriguing. However, I am glad that I put the note there. She left earlier than her classmates, and hopefully my note isn’t crumpled up, blowing around the parking lot.
Welby1, I’m glad you put the rrrrr, in pervert for me, as I do have multiple ways of purring for the ladies. You may want to flip the i&e in thier (sic) in your sig.
I had a guy at the restaurant I worked at do that to me… one of the busboys put a love-note under my windshield wiper. Something like “You are so beautiful,See you at work tomorrow, sweetie, Love Jacob.” I reported him to the management. It was mega-weird, and I don’t have stalker-issues.
As for the OP, leaving a note on a car falls into the “vaguely creepy” category. No matter how tasteful and charming your note (and it did seem pretty tasteful), the bottom line is that this woman is at * work * and should be able to do her job without getting hit on.
Not quite the same thing, IMO. The note you got was a lot more forward than the OP’s, and your notewriter was way more familiar than he had any right to be. I don’t blame you for reporting him. The OP’s note was neither of those things.
As long as the note was “I enjoyed our chat” and not a “gawd I love you, you are so beautiful” type note. I find it harmless. She know’s you are interested, let her make the next move. If she doesn’t, move on. She’s there for a job, and if she wants anything else, she’ll let you know. Best of luck…I remember young love. It’s beautiful.
I think I’d need to know exactly what the note said before determining it’s CF (creep factor). I’d be WAY more freaked that someone whom I chit chatted with figured out which car was mine than the note itself.
It’s possible that rubes had seen the girl in the parking lot one morning and took note of which car was hers. Not that it did happen, but it could.
If the note wasn’t too forward (I love you, need to see you, die without you, etc) and you left a way of being contacted then it seems OK. After all, how else would you contact her since it was the last day you would see her at your office?
It’s a little weird, but the “creep factor” is pretty low. I wouldn’t do it again if I were you…but she might think it’s ok. Some chicks like the drama.
Huh. In my state, when you try to peddle Philia, it’s called soliciting prostitution. (what, no rim-shot? ok, ok, it’s early in the morning)
To echo everyone else (a thin veil to justify the above bad joke), as long as you had good vibes when you talked to her you should be ok. The note shouldn’t come across as creepy as long as the conversation wasn’t along the lines of “Good coffee, hey?” “Uh, yeah. I gotta go over there now.”
A tasteful note from admirer? I might not reply to it if I was single but I’d be flattered and it would put a little zing in my walk for the rest of the day.
