My opinion - She WAS initially into you, but her interest is tapering off. She has possibly possibly begun to focus her interest on someone else, and is stringing you along just enough to keep you as a backup in case that doesn’t work out. The incompatibility of both your schedules certainly isn’t helping matters.
Keep in mind, he’s about to leave for a week and soon after, she’ll be leaving for college. She probably wanted something for the time being, but now is focusing on the future - getting ready to head off and start a new chapter in her life.
I don’t necessarily see it as being a personality flaw with the OP as much as it is just something to attribute to timing. Even if they go on a date before he leaves for a week, how much time will they have together after he returns and before she leaves?
It’s impossible to explain this to a man in way that makes sense to him. No man has ever said no a date and the chance for some hanky panky on the grounds that “I’ll never see her again afterwards”.
Pulls waist of jeans away from self
Looks down at penis
Looks back up
Nope.
Send her a cute, flirty text and wait for her response, then ask her out for drinks.
If she says anything besides “yes” or “I’d love to, but I’m booked tonight. Tomorrow?” then you’re out.
Give us an example of a cute, flirty text.
If she’s moving in a few weeks for school, it’s understandable that she’s busy.
I would encourage you to draw an inference there.
no pictures.
You: Today the janitor lady “accidently” grabbed my butt at work. I definitely felt a squeeze…and everybody in the office saw it!
Her: Haha that’s hilarious!
You: Yeah I’m kind of the office hero now. Care to grab a drink tonight so I can tell you about my horror story?
Two thing:
- People actually ask for each others Twitter handles while flirting?
- Based on the above paragraphs I can’t imagine why you would even want to go down this road. Just walk away. It would be a bit different if you had a hot and heavy relationship for as little as a few weeks, but you’ve barely seen this chick. Why would anyone want to try to do a long distance thing at this point?
Perhaps she was originally available but now another person is in her life. May be nothing to do with OP.
Maybe she’s just very sociable, likes having a lot of friends, and was making you another of her numerous friends. Seems like she was interested in having you along as parts of group activities rather than wanting to see you for an actual date.
She’s got another guy that she’s not sure if it’s going anywhere or not, and she wants to keep you on the line in case it doesn’t work out.
That was my take. Her guy was treating her badly when you first met her.
“So…Your virginity…When (approximately) did it go out the window?”
The answer is not the answer, but the response.
A bit of an update:
Just before I took off for my week-long trip, I sent her another message letting her know that I was leaving. About a day later she responded by wishing me a good time, and since I’ve returned I have yet to hear from her.
I’m pretty sure that it’s time to drop this whole thing, though. She begins school next week, which means that she’ll be moving away at some point within the next few days. Sadly, I just think that the timing of this entire thing kept anything from ever actually happening. If our schedules weren’t so seemingly incompatible, or if she weren’t about to relocate to another city altogether, something between the two of us could have likely materialized. Oh well.
Still, I continue to ponder just what exactly her perspective was throughout this entire experience. My best guess is that she was after something hot and heavy - but not long-term - during her remaining weeks of summer break. If I had jumped on this a little sooner that might have been possible, so I definitely bear a bit of responsibility on this road to nowhere. Maybe I should’ve also been more aggressive with her at the party three weeks ago, but, y’know, I naturally adhere to the gentlemanly thing in order to not come off as a creep or an asshole.
Live & learn.
I urge you to NOT overthink this. You met a girl. You hit it off with her and hoped something more might come of it. It didn’t. Now she’s gone.
That’s life.
Basically it sounds like she wasn’t that into you and didn’t have the courtesy or the guts to tell you about it. I’ve been there, on both sides.
The advice I’ve always thought wise was if they are into you they will find a way to see you. If not they may like you but they are not in love/lust with you.