Last weekend I was awakened by three text messages from B., with whom I had two awkward dates in the past. She told me that she was getting settled in at a new job, life was calming down, and she wanted to get together with me soon (dinner, some activity…) This was a surprise. I had pretty much written her off, after deciding (and with that thought reinforced by the SDMB community) that sending her an email to cut through my confusion would not get a good response.
She actually was swamped by work for much of that time.
And so, just like a couple of years ago, we went out on Thursday night. The plan was originally for Wednesday, but work deadlines slammed her again (“but I really want to reschedule,” she said). Unlike the last time, things went really well. Both of us were better conversationalists, in a healthier place in our lives. We talked for a long time, and had a very nice rapport. At the train platform, her train arrived as soon as we arrived, with a long gap until the next one, so we had to separate very quickly. I gave her fingers a little squeeze as we parted.
Per my therapist’s advice, I made my follow-up offer (ice skating on the weekend) via text the next afternoon, and then, since people are attracted to scarcity, I have done nothing but wait.
And now, like last time, I wait for a response, and wonder. It’s been almost 48 hours, with no response. Also, since I coincidentally discovered her OKCupid profile last year, I noticed that she signed on again after more than a month, and was answering those profile-building questions.
So, what is going on? My therapist says that B. understands and enjoys the “game” that I do not comprehend, and that I should simply wait until, true to form, she comes around, but I should not project instant availability.
Is there anything else I’m missing? Does this sound familiar to anybody else?