Ok. I have this lady friend who knows I want to go out with her. Well, I was over at her house last night, and she asked me some pretty wierd questions and made some confusing comments.
Do I think that friends can have sex and still be friends?
She said that a woman would have to practically have to throw herself at me before I made a move.
Several other things pertaining to sex…
I’ve asked her out before and have been very nicely shot down. I am confused because to me these are questions/comments that I would take as an invitation to try something. Am I completely lost or just dense?
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Sounds like her next hint is going to have to involve grabbing your crotch and asking “What kind of fun can we have with this thing?”
Ask her out again. Couldn’t hurt. She either says yes and you guys eventually start burning off calories in a fun way, or she says no again and you remain friends.
Well, shut my mouth. It’s also illegal to put squirrels down your pants for the purposes of gambling.
All the above.
And to answer question #1, yes and no.
It can happen, but it definitely changes the relationship. Not bad, just different.
Sex is never just sex, whatever that means.
what eve said. your galpal may be as uncertain as you are just what your relationship is & is having trouble articulating it. maybe she turned you down in the past because she had other things on her mind, was seeing someone (or wanting to see someone) you didn’t know about. now free of whatever, she is trying to show she wants to explore a new kind of relationship w/ you.
& then again, maybe not any of the above. but you don’t know until you ask. surely she won’t bite. & even that can be fun.
The purpose of life is to matter, to count, to have it make a difference you lived at all.
I don’t know for certain, brother, but it sure sounds like a play I’ve seen before.
Persist in reminding yourself that she is not confusing you – YOU are confusing you.
If two people are not friends after sex, then they weren’t friends to begin with (or at least one of them is really inept in bed). Either way, they should never have tried. Do you really count this lady among your friends? Would you enjoy the sex? Would she?
Why would she feel the need to point out your reluctance to make a move? More importantly, why would she notice in the first place? You’ve asked her out before and been “shot down”. Time to stop asking. That can either mean you give up and don’t think about it any more, or you just start telling her what you want. Make your intentions clear. Seems to me that she’s made an effort already to be open to you. Now you need to do your part. Don’t make her do all the work. Asking her out is a lame attempt at pushing the ball back into her court after she’s taken so much time to teach you how to play.
Every player knows that the prime directive is to make the object of desire think about sex. If she thinks enough about sex, she will have sex. Maybe not with you, but she will have sex. This works in your favor when you can make sex her intention and yourself the best possible option. Seems that this lady friend of yours knows all about this.
But what if I’m wrong?!?! What if you say, “Let’s go to bed”, and you’re met with laughter or startled disgust? Oh no! What then?
Nothin’, man. That’s what. You turn the TV back on and continue mocking Sidney Poitier. If you are not prepared for failure, then you are not prepared for success.
All I’ll add to the above posts (I agree with them all, BTW), is that it really souonds like she just wants to do you, rather than go out, or be your girlfriend.
Do you want to get laid, or have a relationship with her?
If you want to get laid, it sounds like a pretty sure thing.